katomm
Shiny_Rock
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- Jun 20, 2009
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I cannot tell you all how much your support and kinda words have helped me through my rough time this week. I wish I could meet you all in person and give you huge hugs and gifts for being my rock when I have no support in my life at this time.
Just an update.....BF and I talked for about three hours last night and I told him exactly what I need from him and he was more than happy to do all of them and then some. He has admitted he has not been in the relationship 100% and has had some things he wouldn''t let go of but now he''s ready and realizes exactly what he wants. It''s scary to think for the past 1.5 years he hasn''t known but yet I got the impression he did. We talked about marriage a lot and I told him I had planned on proposing and offered to show him my post on here about my plans and I told him there''s no way I can ever think of doing that again. At this point my trust has been broken and I''m still hurting. I think in order for my to truly believe he wants to get married I need to wait for him to do it.
I told him as far as marraige goes, he will have to do the asking. Now, my BF has never wanted children ever. I''ve accepted this because I cannot physicaly have children but had always thought I''d adopt. Get this......last night he said he hadn''t thought about babies in a long time but said he could see himself having a child with me and that he gets happy thinking about it. Friday we''re going to the bank to refinance the house into both of our names and add each other''s names to only our checking accounts. He said he''s very excited to know I still want to share my life and everything in it with him, he was afraid I was going to either call off that or at the worst move out.
So, while I understand there is a lot of healing to do yet still and he knows I need time to do that as well as trust him again, I think his reaction is saying more than he''s ever said to me in the last 1.5 years. It sucks it takes a near disaster to get this close but that''s what marriage is about right?
An extra HUGE thank you to Gwendolyn and StepcutGirl for offering their personal experiences and calming me down so I could see things rationally. It means the world to me.
Just an update.....BF and I talked for about three hours last night and I told him exactly what I need from him and he was more than happy to do all of them and then some. He has admitted he has not been in the relationship 100% and has had some things he wouldn''t let go of but now he''s ready and realizes exactly what he wants. It''s scary to think for the past 1.5 years he hasn''t known but yet I got the impression he did. We talked about marriage a lot and I told him I had planned on proposing and offered to show him my post on here about my plans and I told him there''s no way I can ever think of doing that again. At this point my trust has been broken and I''m still hurting. I think in order for my to truly believe he wants to get married I need to wait for him to do it.
I told him as far as marraige goes, he will have to do the asking. Now, my BF has never wanted children ever. I''ve accepted this because I cannot physicaly have children but had always thought I''d adopt. Get this......last night he said he hadn''t thought about babies in a long time but said he could see himself having a child with me and that he gets happy thinking about it. Friday we''re going to the bank to refinance the house into both of our names and add each other''s names to only our checking accounts. He said he''s very excited to know I still want to share my life and everything in it with him, he was afraid I was going to either call off that or at the worst move out.
So, while I understand there is a lot of healing to do yet still and he knows I need time to do that as well as trust him again, I think his reaction is saying more than he''s ever said to me in the last 1.5 years. It sucks it takes a near disaster to get this close but that''s what marriage is about right?
An extra HUGE thank you to Gwendolyn and StepcutGirl for offering their personal experiences and calming me down so I could see things rationally. It means the world to me.
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