RaiKai
Brilliant_Rock
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Date: 4/12/2010 10:56:25 AM
Author: monarch64
I agree with everything else you said, LS, but I really have an issue with the highlighted phrase when people use it to express how wonderful they think an engagement ring is. I mean, what would you say to someone with a .50carat center stone? He must be pretty into you? Maybe someday he''ll REALLY love you? It just seems like implying that stone size is directly related to the amount of love your significant other feels for you. I know it is used innocently but when you think about it, it''s kind of a crappy thing to say to someone!Date: 4/12/2010 10:33:57 AM
Author: legallyspoiled
I don''t think that you should ever feel embarrassed about the size of your ring. Nor should you ever have to defend it or apologize for it. As long as YOU love it. Who cares what others think?
If I had been there, I would have chimed in on Friend #2''s behalf and said, ''I disagree. I think it is classic, stunning, and is well proportioned to your finger. Your fiance did a great job. He must really love you!''
Ditto this.
The size of the stone or how much was spent is not a qualifier for the quality of the relationship or the strength of the feelings. I always bristle at the insinuation that the size of the rock or expense of the ring is in proportion to feelings. And it is just not always true...someone with a big bank account is not automatically more loving (see Tiger Woods - I am sure Elin had a lovely ring!). Of course a smaller ring does not mean more love either...there is just no correlation either way!
I did not have an engagement ring....and have no doubt my DH loves me greatly and vice versa. Now I am having an affordable gemstone ring made (I am not a diamond girl) and paying for it myself (though our finances are shared so it all works out somehow) and again, that does not have anything to do with our love or relationship. We could have spent more - we chose not to.