advice from recent brides needed!!!

[JessesGrl]

I am getting married in 3 weeks and for some reason I am a wreck!!!! I cry over EVERYTHING, I went out w/ a single girlfriend and spent the night smoking cigarettes w/her when I have not smoked since I was a teenager!!! I have stomach problems and can''t relax. I am so excited and happy to get married, just overwhelmed. Has this happened to anyone else????

 

[jellybean]

Actually, this never happened to me. I was very relaxed the weeks before I got married. I had micromanaged so much for the previous months that I told myself whatever happens, happens and to just enjoy it.

Don''t get me wrong, I was totally excited! I just didn''t let myself get sick over it!

It is completely normal to feel overwhelmed. One of my friends almost fainted in the back of the church as she was waiting to go down the aisle.

Do whatever you can to be good to yourself. Get a massage. Read a book. Everything will turn out just fine. And if something doesn''t go completely right, well, you''ll be OK. Heck, our bagpipe player didn''t show up to the reception! (We were going to have bagpipes played when the DJ announced us) So we had the DJ play something else. Things will work out just fine.

Congrats on your big day!

 

[Rockchick]

yes yes yes..

that has totally happened to me. Freaking out over every single detail.

There are pictures of me having my make up done on ''the big day'' and there is a big vein across my forehead, that''s how stressed i was.

after hair and make up was done and the dress was on, everything fell into place, i didn''t care if anything went wrong (and somethings did go wrong), i was getting married and that was it...

just relax and enjoy this time, and make sure you enjoy your weding day! that''s the most important thing!!

 

[Strawdermangrl]

Welcome to the dark side.

Hehehee.

I am one of the most laid back people you can meet, I scared people a few weeks before my wedding. I was a crazy person- I swear, I freaked myself out. My tummy hurt, I couldn''t eat- I was offended by the slightest weird look, I broke down in tears or as my mom called them " The crisis of the hour"- All I can tell you is that it will all work out, when you say I do!! hehehe

Hon, seriously- you just have to realize that you have spent all this time planning and that if it isn''t done now- no point streching yourself to the limit and causing uneeded break outs. You just have to deligate appropriately and trust that things are going to happen as planned, and you know what? If they don''t- NO ONE WILL KNOW THE DIFFERENCE!!! That is the beauty of weddings- they are unscripted and totally unplugged! Honestly, find comfort in a good friend a hot bath and a nice tall drink.

See, all better! HEHEHEEEE.

 

[selflove]

Jellybean suggested reading a book, I HIGHLY recommend this very funny book I read by Jorie Green Mark called "Bride in Overdrive" (easy to read, I read it on a long airline flight last weekend). It totally put a lot of things in perspective about the wedding. Mine is 8 months away and I was already starting to obsess about EVERYTHING (I can''t even have an informed conversation about anything else going on in the world b/c I''m obsessed with wedding gowns and photographers and candles, etc etc etc). Anyways, hearing about this one bride''s experience made me put my own planning into perspective. What I took away from it: don''t worry about the details, it will all fall into place, all the people you love in the world are going to be there and they won''t care about the flowers you chose for the centerpieces or whether you served chicken or prime rib, or if the DJ played the chicken dance (or for me, the fact that I got a dress from David''s Bridal instead of a designer gown). Remember what the day is all about--to marry the man of your dreams and begin your future together!!

Maybe try to think about what it is your so stressed about--is it the wedding details or is it something bigger (cold feet??).

Good luck and try to relax and enjoy the next 3 weeks! Big hugs!

 

[JessesGrl]

I am not stressed out about wedding details...and not even actually scared about the big day, it is just getting married conjurs up a lot of emotions

 

[jcrow]

course it does! it''s a big step. but all will be okay.

 

[elepri]

At my final dress fitting, the seamstress took it in so much, i could hardly breath. She assured me that it was fine because brides usually can't eat last week before the wedding and lose a few pounds because they're so stressed. She was so right, my dress fit perfectly two weeks later. I was a wreck before the wedding, not eating, not sleeping. The freaking out didn't stop for me until after the ceremony. As soon as we exchanged the vows, I completely relaxed and had a blast. Most people manage to relax even sooner but all that freaking out is totally normal.

 

[ame]

I was just ready for it to be done. Ryan and I were really not doing it for ourselves. We already felt married. I wanted the badass photos and my parents needed the officialness. HIs parents didn''t care either. The bonus for us was I finally had days off work and got to go on a trip.

So think about how many sleeps you have to do before you get your vacation.