Age of Commitment

[bee*]

DH is a college graduate and we got engaged when he was 27 (I was 25) and married when I was 27 and he was 28 (just about to turn 29).

 

[lilyfoot]

My FI fits into that standard, for our relationship.

 

[reader]

DH was 23 when he proposed, a couple months shy of 24, and in his master''s program.

 

[FrekeChild]

Engaged at 26, married at 27.

I specifically waited to get married until I graduated (December 19th 2009 officially, got married January 9th 2010) but he had his masters before we got engaged, and I had my associates.

He''s 45 days younger than I am.

 

[beechezz]

My DH proposed when he was 27 and he is a college grad. Guess he is a little on the slow side, lol. We met when he was 24.

 

[LtlFirecracker]

My FI was in his late 38 when he proposed to me so he does not fit at all. We both had graduate degrees. I will be 31 when we get married, so I guess I am behind the stats too.

For me it was not so much of not wanting to commit in my mid 20's. I was in a bad relationship for 3 years and was 26 when I got out. It took 1 year to get over it, and another year of dating to find the right person. But my FI was worth the wait .

Most of my friends who are professional got married between 26 and 30. There was a large group of females who were married at 29.

Most of my friends who were college grads actually fit the stats really well.

 

[GettingDesperate905]

My fi and I are both highschool graduates. I have started into a degree in Art Therapy, but didn''t love it, so decided to go into the work force until I am positive as to what I want to do. Fi graduated highschool and wanted to work for a few years before going to trade school for welding or carpentry.
Now, in the meantime, we started dating, moved in together, fell into careers, and got engaged, putting our education plans on hold for the meantime. He is 22, and I am 21, so we''re a little ahead of the curve on those stats. But the way I see it, we all mature at different rates, if you''re ready, you''re ready, you don''t need to go by a predetermined arbitrary number, right?

 

[princessplease]

I''m in grad school, and will be 25 when we marry in 4 months. FI is a HS graduate (he went to tech school) and he will be 26.

 

[kittybean]

DH and I both have graduate degrees (law). He was 27 when he proposed, and 28 at our wedding. I guess he more or less fits the mold!
I was 24 when we got engaged and 25 when we married. Is there an Age of Commitment for women? (When I asked her this question, a friend of mine who studies relationships replied--tongue-in-cheek--that it''s five years after marriage: after five years of trying to change a man and not succeeding, the woman has to be committed.)

 

[Bjedifish]

This is very interesting!

My FI and I started dating when he was 29 and I was 26. We got engaged last June when he was 32 and I was 29 (and I still am for the next 20 days!!). When we are married he will be 33...for 10 days and I will be 30. We both have our masters and he is almost finished with his second.

 

[RaiKai]

Date: 3/21/2010 5:35:44 PM
Author: GettingDesperate905
My fi and I are both highschool graduates. I have started into a degree in Art Therapy, but didn''t love it, so decided to go into the work force until I am positive as to what I want to do. Fi graduated highschool and wanted to work for a few years before going to trade school for welding or carpentry.

Now, in the meantime, we started dating, moved in together, fell into careers, and got engaged, putting our education plans on hold for the meantime. He is 22, and I am 21, so we''re a little ahead of the curve on those stats. But the way I see it, we all mature at different rates, if you''re ready, you''re ready, you don''t need to go by a predetermined arbitrary number, right?

I am not sure it is an arbitrary number. There is a lot of scientific data out there that does indicate your brain does not finish maturing until around the age of 25 - regardless of ones own experiences and so forth. Maturity involves several factors including physiological ones that you can''t really skip ahead on.

And just because someone is mature does not mean they are ready or the circumstances are ready for marriage, just as wanting to be married or getting married does not indicate maturity in itself. Arguably in my experience many who are mature tend to take longer to marry for various reasons I won''t get specific about here.

Note this was an observation from your post and nothing specific to your post or own situation!

 

[Dreamer_D]

I attended graduate school and got engaged on my 28th birthday!

DH has a university degree and was also 28.