Am I the LIW lone ranger? Or are there others?

[Dreamgirl]

Seems like quite a few LIWs are getting engaged!

Congrats to everyone again.

But I was just curious if there are any LIWs here that aren''t going to be getting engaged for at least 1 to 3 years from now. Am I the only one? Many LIWs come and go so quckly around here. It sure is a happy and exciting time for fellow LIWs to get engaged but I know it isn''t going to happen for me just yet so its almost a little sad to see everyone go while Im going to be around for quite some time.

Just wanted to see if there was anyone else waiting longer like myself or if Im in this long haul alone. lol!
*hugs*

 

[TryingAgain]

I was JUST thinking the same thing!

I am still a LIW.

BF is leaving in November/December to travel for work and it looks like he''s going to be back 6-8 months from them. Fear not, his work is affording us the ability for me to fly there every weekend on their bill!!

I *think* we''re going to be engaged once he returns since that was our original time line, but I have a feeling it *might* happen before he leaves. I''m not getting my hopes up though since I haven''t been waiting that long. I would wait forever for my hunnie.

 

[FrekeChild]

Well I''m chillin'' probably for a while. BF has said he won''t propose until after Comps which will probably be in March or April, so I''m sticking around here for at least another 7 months. Is that close enough?

 

[blondebunny]

ill prob be here for another 4 months.. not long but could be longer if I bugg FF about the ring (that is what he said..no buggin= ring.. buggin=no ring) But ill come back and visit all the time!! bcuz u know im gonna need your help with my tiffany blue theme dreamgirl!!! But ya I was thinking how sad, we have lost like 5 girls in the past 2 weeks... it seems to dead on our thread... we will have to keep it ALIVE!

 

[Anna0499]

I''m in it for the long haul too Dreamgirl! I''m not technically a LIW because I''m the one putting off an engagement/marriage, but still waiting for a ring nonetheless.

LOL at BB..."lost 5 girls in 2 weeks" sounds like there''s a PS war going on!

 

[Dreamgirl]

[/b] how long do you think? lol!

Im good with waiting this long because its something we both feel is right for us. We still need to get some things squared away first, which is totally fine. Good God, I just lost my job at the end of June and haven't found one yet for starters. And I know for a fact it wont happen before he gets a new better job...(mentioned this before, he finally just got his degree so is going to search for a new job) but it could possibly happen sometime there after because the topic seems to come up more often on "when we are married..." and he's the one who talks about that. I guess depending on how his new job (whenever that will be, he hasn't even started to look) goes and how much money he makes to feel ready. (yes, for those of you wondering or dont know, we had the talk already.....lol) Oh, and when we did have that talk he said "28 seems like a good age" and I just turned 27, he will turn 27 in Sept. So the earliest would be sometime a little after a year.

I just wished there were other LIWs to share in the waiting this long with me. (hehe) I sort of get attached to everyone and their stories and then everyone leaves lol!

But that's me, I get attached.

 

[absolut_blonde]

Date: 8/11/2008 3:26:22 PM
Author:Dreamgirl
Seems like quite a few LIWs are getting engaged!

Congrats to everyone again.

But I was just curious if there are any LIWs here that aren''t going to be getting engaged for at least 1 to 3 years from now. Am I the only one? Many LIWs come and go so quckly around here. It sure is a happy and exciting time for fellow LIWs to get engaged but I know it isn''t going to happen for me just yet so its almost a little sad to see everyone go while Im going to be around for quite some time.

Just wanted to see if there was anyone else waiting longer like myself or if Im in this long haul alone. lol!
*hugs*

I''m with ya. It''ll be awhile for me yet. Frankly, I''m not too thrilled about that.... at all. I had a TOTAL LIW meltdown last weekend. Not proud to admit that, but I did. I should probably save the details for another post though.

 

[Lauren8211]

Definitely not alone.

I have until possibly the end of June 2009

Im thinking it wont be quite that long, but definitely not in 2008.

 

[Anna0499]

Date: 8/11/2008 3:56:43 PM
Author: Dreamgirl

Indygirl- how long do you think? lol!

Im good with waiting this long because its something we both feel is right for us. We still need to get some things squared away first, which is totally fine. Good God, I just lost my job at the end of June and haven''t found one yet for starters. And I know for a fact it wont happen before he gets a new better job...(mentioned this before, he finally just got his degree so is going to search for a new job) but it could possibly happen sometime there after because the topic seems to come up more often on ''when we are married...'' and he''s the one who talks about that. I guess depending on how his new job (whenever that will be, he hasn''t even started to look) goes and how much money he makes to feel ready. (yes, for those of you wondering or dont know, we had the talk already.....lol) Oh, and when we did have that talk he said ''28 seems like a good age'' and I just turned 27, he will turn 27 in Sept. So the earliest would be sometime a little after a year.

I just wished there were other LIWs to share in the waiting this long with me. (hehe) I sort of get attached to everyone and their stories and then everyone leaves lol!

But that''s me, I get attached.

Sorry about the job situation, that''s terrible! I hope you find one soon, but it''s encouraging that you guys are realistic about what you both would like to have in place before an engagement/wedding occurs. But I do understand your LIWitis, especially when it seems like a rush of engagements have been happening around PS. I will definitely be here in a year; probably even after you have a million congratulation posts to your LIW engagement thread.

I''ve never wanted a long engagement (over a year), and I have three years of law school/MHA school left, so I probably won''t be getting engaged for at least a year. I couldn''t imagine planning a wedding during school! SO wants to be engaged by the end of the year though, so I''ve convinced him that the longer we wait the better our bling, wedding, house, etc. can be because he is just saving money in the meantime. When the time is right I will help him blow it all!

I know what you mean about people leaving though...I have to try and visit them on the BWW forum, but it''s not the same!

BTW, I am 25 and SO is 28...I think he has the "approaching 30" bug.

 

[trillionaire]

Date: 8/11/2008 3:26:22 PM
Author:Dreamgirl
Seems like quite a few LIWs are getting engaged!

Congrats to everyone again.

But I was just curious if there are any LIWs here that aren''t going to be getting engaged for at least 1 to 3 years from now. Am I the only one? Many LIWs come and go so quckly around here. It sure is a happy and exciting time for fellow LIWs to get engaged but I know it isn''t going to happen for me just yet so its almost a little sad to see everyone go while Im going to be around for quite some time.


Just wanted to see if there was anyone else waiting longer like myself or if Im in this long haul alone. lol!

*hugs*

I really have no idea how long I will be waiting... as reflected by the fact that I haven''t officially put myself on the list. SO and I are still debating the long vs. shorter engagement thing. I want to elope, and I am a little nervous that a long engagement is going to result in a LOT of grief and pressure from our families.

We''re doing the LDR thing, and we can''t really be in the same place without significant career sacrifices on both parts for at least 1.5 yrs, so... yeah, we are kind of stuck.

Though I would get married today and worry about the rest later... I pride myself in doing things unconventionally

 

[jitterymo]

I think that I could be on here for another 1-3 years...I''d be more active in posting but get discoraged becuase i think it''s making me go crazy...i have a timeline, my BF knows my timeline but I''m not sure anything is progressing in the advance of my timeline...at least not anything in the past 8 months at least.

But I''m willing to wait, until he''s ready...and I''m ready as I think if it happened tomorrow I''d be super stressed, as I''m in the process of trying to switch jobs (not that I don''t love my job, just need some better pay /idealbb/editor/cute/images/emsmile.gif).

 

[misscuppycake]

I certainly am! I don''t really consider myself an LIW because I know we''re not quite there yet (in life and in the relationship) but I look forward to an engagement eventually, probably around 2-5 years.

 

[TheNextMrsB]

FF and I had originally set a timeline of 1 to 3 years, but after recent discussions, I''m guessing I''ll be waiting closer to 5 years. It''s so far away at this point, we don''t even have a timeline, anymore. Right now I''m not bothered by it, but that''ll change in a few weeks, I''m sure. Long story short, I am totally here for the long-term.

 

[trillionaire]

Date: 8/11/2008 5:00:32 PM
Author: TheNextMrsB
FF and I had originally set a timeline of 1 to 3 years, but after recent discussions, I''m guessing I''ll be waiting closer to 5 years. It''s so far away at this point, we don''t even have a timeline, anymore. Right now I''m not bothered by it, but that''ll change in a few weeks, I''m sure. Long story short, I am totally here for the long-term.

And to MissCuppycake:

So funny to hear long termers (five years over here) talk about when we are going to be ready. It''s so funny, I spent 4.75 years "not being ready", then BAM! I woke up one day, and wanted to get married. Like, that day. And this all would have been a lot easier had I been planning all along, but I was just going along, enjoying my relationship. Silly me.

Now I am a tortured soul who just wants my man

. (Darn LDR)

I know, cry me a river. I was always so unenthusiastic about marriage, and now I am just an impatient LIW making myself crazy!

I am going to try to learn some patience from you two!

 

[bubbly1126]

I''m here for at least one year but (supposed to be) no more than 1 1/2. So, you definitely won''t be alone!

 

[fuzzers]

Hey Dreamgirl.

I will be a LIW for at least another 3 years. I feel for ya!

 

[Dreamgirl]

are making me feel much better! I was beginning to think its a bit silly for me to be around here when it isn't going to happen until... while so many others know it will happen soon (ie. by December) Hopefully you will all stick around as PS members so we can wait it out together! Im glad to know there are others here that will be waiting just as long.

I am on the LIW list. I guess because in a sense, I am waiting. Even though it isn't going to happen tomorrow, he is the guy I want to marry and obviously when he proposes I will say yes. So I guess thats why I consider myself a LIW. Because it will happen regardless.

absolute- I can relate!

elle- I don't know what I was thinking but I thought your engagement was going to be much sooner since you are having the diamond set. That still is coming up quite soon!

Indygirl- Thanks for the support! I hate job searching. FF is the type where everything has to be "just so" before taking a big step like that. Its a good thing though. Im glad he is money concious! I would like to be engaged for a year to a year and a half. I suppose so that I can get all the wedding planning situated and get the venue I would like. Its silly though because I sort of already have tons of ideas for my wedding already. (hehe

) FF had once said "Just get it done and over with" (after an engagment) so I think he is thinking a year or less. But I told him I need at least a year. Id like to walk around and call him my FI for a while. I just turned 27, FF turns 27 in Sept. and he had told me "28 is a good age" (to get engaged I think) he could change his mind though.

trillionaire- Its a good thing the two of you are trying to figure it all out!

ILoveSpinel- I completely feel like you. Sometimes I think I should take myself away from PS for a while because the engagement stories make me so happy and excited for everyone but then makes me sad and sometimes constantly think about getting engaged because I know it isn't going to happen just yet.

misscuppycake- Glad to see you will be around for the long haul with me! (In the sense that there is someone who will be here just as long)

TheNextMrsB- We have this general timeline. It could obviously change for us as far as jobs/money and various things. FF may or may not want to go back to school for his masters. That would take 2 years. And if he did this, he wouldn't go back for a masters until he is working in the field he studied in. (gotta find a job first) So he will NOT get married while in school. So if he chooses to go back...things could change.

inhisarms- Glad to know I wont be left behind by everyone lol!

fuzzers- Yay! Another to stick this out with me.

Obviously I keep my fingers crossed for all the LIWs! Everyone deserves their happiness.

 

[princesss]

Oh goodness, you''re hardly the only one! BF and I aren''t even thinking about it for the next 3-4 years. If that. But I''m kind of in love with that time line at the moment, so I don''t really feel the sadness, but I definitely understand how it could happen.

But let''s set goals! Come on, there has to be something fun and amazing we can enjoy doing instead of counting down the days/weeks/months/years!

 

[forensics1]

Can I ask how long everyone has been in a serious relationship with their SO? I too am in "waiting" although at this point, it will probably never happen. DBF has a possible "record deal" with a MAJOR - and i mean MAJOR - label in NY (which is totally RAD!!). I''m still in school until May of ''09 so, that puts it on hold for another gazillion years. 4+ years so far....

I should keep my head up though. He is a killer SO!!

 

[Dreamgirl]

princess- I just started thinking that it would be great if some of us were planning our weddings at the same time! I know it happens all the time from the LIW board over to BWW, but Im talking some of us that have been waiting and waiting for these years together on PS then get to plan together!
That would be fun!!!

forensics- SO and I have been together 10 years. The first year was LDR. We were young when we met and fell in love. I feel like we have been together this long, so what's a couple more years anyway? Time flys by quickly. If you know/feel he is the one for you, then its worth waiting!

 

[princesss]

BF and I have been together 3 1/2 years.

Dreamgirl, that would be fun! I love watching all the ladies on the BWW board plan together. Let''s see...I''m guessing Tiffany blue will be one of your colours?

 

[radiantquest]

well he and i have been together for 4 years. i dont think i will get mine for at least a year. it is torture. i love him so much and want to marry himn so bad, he just isnt there yet. so dont worry, i will be here for a while longer. maybe it wont be so bad since we all have such great company (each other, you guys keep me sane)

 

[ladypirate]

We''re talking about next summer, so you''re in good company! We''re thinking about getting married in late summer/fall 2010, so no need to rush it as far as we''re concerned.

 

[Dreamgirl]

Date: 8/11/2008 9:15:23 PM
Author: princesss
Let's see...I'm guessing Tiffany blue will be one of your colours?

hehe

How did you know? Yes Im thinking Tiffany Blue with coral shades....

(my 2 favorite colors happen to also be a good color combo! Watch those coral flowers POP baby POP!) This also happens to be common knowledge for FF.

I already have so many ideas for that!!! And just to think if I was lucky enough to have a Tiff ring, it would make even more perfect sense to use Tiffany Blue....lol! Either way, Im sure I will end up using this color scheme.

radiantquest- I feel the same way. This place helps keep me sane. But then sometimes it makes me a little insane too! HA!

ladypirate- Agreed. We are in no hurry to rush it either. Even after being together this long. When the time is right...

 

[princesss]

I love that colour combination!

I keep teasing BF that I''m going to just say "Screw it! I don''t feel like planning. Let''s run away to an island and come back married." And he says, "Fine, but just so you know....my entire extended family is coming."

Honestly, I can''t think of anything more fun than partying with his huge family on a beach somewhere. Plus my parents, siblings, and a few of our friends. But If I could keep in <15, I''d be thrilled.

Oh well. I''ll cross that far-off, very distant bridge when I come to it.

 

[LaraOnline]

Hi Dreamgirl!

I''m a LIW ... a LIWFAU (lady in waiting for an upgrade)
I''ll be here as long as you are...
and I''m almost as sad and excited and anxious and happy to dream as you are!
so we''re all in good company!

 

[EmptyLeftHand]

Hello there! You are definitely not alone!

I think I will be here for quite a while yet. We''ve been together for 2 years and he''s nearly 32, I''m 30 in a few months. My ticking clock is nearly deafening now...he doesn''t seem to hear it!

I have gently introduced him to PS though and have shown him the GOG and WF websites and he didn''t pull the plug on the internet connection

.

We were visiting a friend the other day who is married with 2 children now, and she was encouraging me to enjoy this time, this
pre-engagement period. So that''s what I am trying to do, and am glad that I am in good company on here with the LIW!!

 

[jcarlylew]

I''m here too! My boyf has been hinting towards christmas, which is cool. although i''d rather wait till tomorrow

 

[ams0124]

My BF won''t even give me a timeline because he wants me to be completely suprised...If I ask anything about it he gets kinda huffy and says "I''m not going to tell you so stop asking". We''ve looked at rings but that was almost 4 months ago. He doesn''t even want me to know what the ring is going to look like. I really have no clue when my LIW days will be over.

I''m hoping that it will be by the end of 2008...or maybe my birthday in Jan. 2009...Who knows!?!?!

Good thing we have this great group of ladies to talk to!

 

[emeraldlover1]

Dreamgirl....I know it may not seem like it, but I do feel your pain. While I am getting engaged soon, I have been on this list for over 2 years. I''ve been with my bf for almost 5 and a half years so when I joined the list, we had been together for three years.

So, stay on the list! The two years I have spent here went by faster than I had expected.