Hi everyone,
We had my engagement ring custom made in December. Upon receiving it I loved it but there were a few things about it that bothered me.
1. I had asked for the band to be 3.0mm wide with a knife egde (provided the silver ring I had been wearing for a year as an example). Was told it had to be 3.3mm to hold the side diamonds. Not a huge deal. When I got the ring back the knife edge wasn't as pronounced as the silver ring I had given as an example and although it's knife edge it's a barely there kind of knife edge.
Additionally, of course I over examined it and found that on one side of the cathedral there was a small gap where diamonds should be and the other side didn't have the gap. It's so small no one would ever notice it but me because I'm crazy like that. Note that both sides had the same number of diamonds but the one side just had more of a space than the other. It was hand made so I just assumed that it was a quirk of the ring and accepted that it added some character. I also noticed a few other things that I didn't like on the milligraining that looked a little sloppy but figured this was also because it was hand done. I never said anything to our jeweller and carried on.
Fast forward to now and we've just picked up my wedding band as our wedding is in two months. The thing is, the wedding band is exactly what I wanted! I had asked them to match it exactly to the engagement ring. They did the same style but now the wedding band is all the things the engagement ring is not. The milligrain on the wedding band is more fine and delicate and anything but sloppy, and the wedding band IS the 3mm that I wanted the engagement ring to be!!! So why couldn't my engagement ring have been 3mm but the wedding band can be???
When I put them side by side they match to anyone who just glances at them but they are different. The wedding band DOES have the more pronounced knife edge that I wanted for my e-ring. This is really bothering me! Every time I look at them I feel like first of all they are not a perfect match and second of all I'm wishing my engagement ring looked like my wedding band.
The last thing which I noticed which actually doesn't concern me that much is that the appraisal on the e-ring quotes the side stones as F-G and the wedding band appraisal says G-H.
So my question to you is.... Have I lost my mind with wedding brain and I'm being too picky or are my feeling valid? The whole reason we went the custom route was because I couldn't find a set that was exactly what I wanted and now we've done custom and it's not what I wanted. What is frustrating is that the wedding band is exactly what I wanted and what I had asked for in the first place for my engagement ring.
Thanks in advance for your comments.
Jenn
We had my engagement ring custom made in December. Upon receiving it I loved it but there were a few things about it that bothered me.
1. I had asked for the band to be 3.0mm wide with a knife egde (provided the silver ring I had been wearing for a year as an example). Was told it had to be 3.3mm to hold the side diamonds. Not a huge deal. When I got the ring back the knife edge wasn't as pronounced as the silver ring I had given as an example and although it's knife edge it's a barely there kind of knife edge.
Additionally, of course I over examined it and found that on one side of the cathedral there was a small gap where diamonds should be and the other side didn't have the gap. It's so small no one would ever notice it but me because I'm crazy like that. Note that both sides had the same number of diamonds but the one side just had more of a space than the other. It was hand made so I just assumed that it was a quirk of the ring and accepted that it added some character. I also noticed a few other things that I didn't like on the milligraining that looked a little sloppy but figured this was also because it was hand done. I never said anything to our jeweller and carried on.
Fast forward to now and we've just picked up my wedding band as our wedding is in two months. The thing is, the wedding band is exactly what I wanted! I had asked them to match it exactly to the engagement ring. They did the same style but now the wedding band is all the things the engagement ring is not. The milligrain on the wedding band is more fine and delicate and anything but sloppy, and the wedding band IS the 3mm that I wanted the engagement ring to be!!! So why couldn't my engagement ring have been 3mm but the wedding band can be???
When I put them side by side they match to anyone who just glances at them but they are different. The wedding band DOES have the more pronounced knife edge that I wanted for my e-ring. This is really bothering me! Every time I look at them I feel like first of all they are not a perfect match and second of all I'm wishing my engagement ring looked like my wedding band.
The last thing which I noticed which actually doesn't concern me that much is that the appraisal on the e-ring quotes the side stones as F-G and the wedding band appraisal says G-H.
So my question to you is.... Have I lost my mind with wedding brain and I'm being too picky or are my feeling valid? The whole reason we went the custom route was because I couldn't find a set that was exactly what I wanted and now we've done custom and it's not what I wanted. What is frustrating is that the wedding band is exactly what I wanted and what I had asked for in the first place for my engagement ring.
Thanks in advance for your comments.
Jenn