Annoyed by incorrect relationship status

[violet3]

I'm sorry, I just don't understand why something like this would annoy you so much....

ditto. who cares what this person calls her SO on FB? People called my DH my husband long before we ever even got engaged. It was sort of tongue in cheek - perhaps that's how your friend means it. Or perhaps she just really wants to be married, but hasn't been asked yet. Rather than being annoyed, why don't you just ignore her/it and feel greatful for what you DO have in your life, even if you are too graceful to post it all over FB

FYI, the above line doesn't read right -- i meant it in a good way, and i should have said "be proud of yourself that you are too graceful to post it all over FB "

 

[choro72]

Haha, reminds me of this...
http://www.lamebook.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/12/Thanks-Bob.png

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Why does this bother you? I think once you examine that, you can learn how not let this annoy you. Otherwise defriend.

you know, i thought about this, since its something that irks me as well. i guess i just look at the institution of marriage as a pretty big step, so if you're not even engaged, why do you have the "right" to call your SO your husband when you haven't made that vow. marriage is something i take very seriously- if you're that serious about your SO, get married. otherwise, don't steal the term i get to call my husband. i made it a point never to say husband until i was married.

i DO however, think its fine when same sex couples refer to their SO as husband/wife after being together for a super long time or having a civil service. so who knows.

Bottom line is it is none of your business. If the guy doesn't care about being called her husband than I don't understand why you are letting *THIS* rent space in your head. The institution of marriage is a big deal to YOU. Not everyone thinks the same way you do.

 

[HollyS]

Your friend obviously feels the need to have a more secure relationship with her guy. It is annoying and, frankly, stupid. But letting it get under your skin is silly. Simply avoid her facebook posts. Ignore her when she pops up on your page, and don't go to hers. It's a simply solved problem.

 

[lulu66]

Haha, reminds me of this...
http://www.lamebook.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/12/Thanks-Bob.png

love it!

 

[monarch64]

I have a lot of friends that do that too. A lot of, "oh my husband brought me flowers he's the most wonderful man ever" I don't know. I think it's a way of being boastful, i.e look at what I have but you don't have. I don't get that annoyed though, because most of the time, I think it's their way of convicing themselves. Nobody's husband is that wonderful 300 days of the year. Frankly, all of that constant wonderful-ness would be exhausting to me. It's like a constant soap opera or the most romantic novel EVER (everyday).

As for the husband thing. Well...maybe wishful thinking on her part a bit. Before we were married, my husband sometimes referred to me as "wife" in private. And it WAS wishful thinking on our parts, because we thought of the day we would be married. BUT NEVER in public. And NEVER on fb.

Completely agree with the first paragraph! In my experiences, I've seen people receive dozens of roses and other flowers...only to hear the recipients complain the next week that their SO's aren't this or that...turns out the flowers were really for show, not a true romantic gesture!

My SO is wondeful! But he is definitely NOT wonderful 365 days/yr! No way! I love him, though, and he loves me, and we've always had that "omg, you're my soulmate" thing going since we met. You don't Have to have that, but it's certainly helpful in the long run.

 

[Cehrabehra]

I don't agree... Sometimes husbands are good, sometimes in the doghouse, what could seem for show can be genuine and then he effs it up the next week!

 

[Imdanny]

Facebook has an off button.

 

[charbie]

Why does this bother you? I think once you examine that, you can learn how not let this annoy you. Otherwise defriend.

you know, i thought about this, since its something that irks me as well. i guess i just look at the institution of marriage as a pretty big step, so if you're not even engaged, why do you have the "right" to call your SO your husband when you haven't made that vow. marriage is something i take very seriously- if you're that serious about your SO, get married. otherwise, don't steal the term i get to call my husband. i made it a point never to say husband until i was married.

i DO however, think its fine when same sex couples refer to their SO as husband/wife after being together for a super long time or having a civil service. so who knows.

Bottom line is it is none of your business. If the guy doesn't care about being called her husband than I don't understand why you are letting *THIS* rent space in your head. The institution of marriage is a big deal to YOU. Not everyone thinks the same way you do.

Understandable. I honestly don't dwell on it. I mean, I sort of just roll my eyes and move on. Sure, the institution of marriage is very very important and sacred to me. But if everyone felt the same, we wouldn't have even had this thread started in the first place. Its one of those things that id probably be out with a friend who constatnly calls her SO hubby and ask her what's up with it.

 

[that_someone_special]

Ugh. She has been commenting on my page so I went to say something nice on hers... and it was littered with "Oh I got so many things from my hubby today/ look how great husband is/ omg he makes the cutest coffee (YES, cute coffee)/ barfbarfbarf"

I briefly chatted with a mutual married friend about this person as well, and I guess I am not the only one feeling this way about her- the other married members (and some singles too) just are annoyed with her and think it's for attention. So I won't give the attention she wants.

 

[lelser]

Sounds like it might be the general annoying quality of the person more than the terminology.

Tom and I were husband and wife to each other for more than 10 years before we went to the courthouse. It didn't make financial sense to marry, the "official" status isn't anything we care about personally and so we waited until there was a financial reason to sign the papers. Our anniversary is still the same one we always celebrated - I'd have to look up our legal wedding day.

Same sex couples can't marry in most of the US, but I think it's great when they use husband and wife. Makes it less jarring if people are more accustomed to the idea and actually see committed couples.

Lisa

 

[afreebird]

I can't understand why this is bothering you. Yes, she sounds insecure, but so do you. And jealous, possibly? Sorry, but your posts come off as very immature. Sometimes Facebook brings out the junior high in people. I'd take Danny's advice and pull the plug.

 

[atroop711]

I wouldn't care if my friend called her S.O her husband. My aunt and her "husband" were together with 4 children..over 30 yrs..never married but to me that was her husband and my uncle. They didn't need that piece of paper.

BTW I was married for a full year and no one knew (except for my parents). Not even my husband's mother or family knew. We did this for personal reasons but I remember slipping calling him my husband when others "thought" we were just engaged.