Anybody planning to elope?

[websailor]

Two suggestions - 1) get married on a cruise ship. I think most of the large ships now have wedding chapels, and they'll do all the work for you. The chapels are small, so you have a great excuse to have only a few close friends and family. Best yet, the have web cams, so the folks back home can tune in to your wedding real-time and see you get hitched. Then, instant honeymoon afterwards...

2) a destination wedding (my pick would be Tahiti). Make sure you get your wedding videotaped, and then later send the tapes to all the folks who weren't there....

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PS - I also believe in a wedding with the family for me....but it may not be the way to go for everyone...to each their own!

 

[Jennifer5973]

This really is personal decision. i always wanted a traditional wedding and I had it--but MY WAY. We did it how we wanted and only had 120 pple...small by some standards. Whoever didn't like something, well, that was too damn bad.

We had a beautiful Christmas wedding and i'll never forget it, but I can totally see just running off and having fun with it--it's what's best for you.

 

[innerkitten]

My fiance planning to elope too. People have been giving me a hard time about it though. I think we'll probably just have to do it without telling anyone and then have some sort of party after.

 

[chousholder]

i think it is REALLY romantic to just run off on a wim, and get married. especially getting married in a forigen country that you have never been to. it has a MYSTIQUE to it that lends to the romanticisim.

just you and the one you love, sharing in a secret that only you two know about(until you arrive back home and break the news to everyone else, but by then its too late!)

and knowing that you both had one moment of craziness where you tie the knot and declare your love for each other. i think that anyone THINKING about eloping should do it!!!
and if you really want your family at the wedding, do it destination style.

 

[Momoftwo]

Elopements originated because someone (usually a parent) objected to the wedding for whatever reason. Wedding celebrations were held when the families agreed to the match. The reality is, a wedding isn't for the couple, but for everyone else to witness the commitment. Every wedding I've been to, including my own, was more fun for everyone else than the bride and groom. That said, mine was great for us, and it's about the commitment in a public forum and acknowledging your parents/family who got you to that point. There's a reason there's a honeymoon, to get away and commit to each other. BTW, weddings in the middle ages consisted of days of celebration and the honeymoon lasted a year in order to give the couple a chance to get to know each other. I know, a novel idea, waiting til after the wedding, (that isn't half bad or that unusual, look at Star Jones or Jessican Simpson). You don't need 200 people at a wedding, but humor your parents, because one day soon that will be you looking forward to your child's wedding. It really means a lot to your family to see you move on to that next step. But, it is your choice.

 

[chousholder]

i think that is true. it seems that ALL that money they put into it, and for just one day. but the important thing is the marriage, the everlasting bond between a man and a woman because they have found each other and love one another so much, that they have chosen each other to be husband and wife. they say that the average wedding is at about $10,000 AT LEAST!!! that is ALOT of money to be spending to make others happy, and the bride and groom have to deal with the stress of planning the shin-dig.
NOTE TO ALL BRIDES TO BE!!!!!!! ENJOY YOUR DAY!!!
(hopefully you wont have to do it again!!!)

 

[JCJD]

My mom was planning her wedding to my stepfather last summer, and originally wanted it to be on July 4, when I was going to be out of town (and all the rest of my sibs and now step-sibs were available)!! She asked if I'd mind not being there, to which I replied, "Well Mom, how would you feel if you were out of town on my wedding day?" As her first-born daughter, you could say that had a lot of sway, cause she immediately relented and picked a date when me and all of my sibs could be there. IMO, if you're going to elope, then ELOPE!! Nobody there but you, the FI, and the officiant!
I have a friend who married at the courthouse with her parents and his parents by their sides, nobody else. She actually told her sisters that if they crashed the wedding she wouldn't speak to them for a year!!
I'd like to elope, but even if I have the "big" wedding instead, I'm still getting my b/f as my husband for the rest of our lives!! I really think that no matter how you decide to get married, you'll cherish the memories forever and won't want to change a thing about *your* special day.