Anyone not want to upgrade?

[kaylagee]

I waffle back and forth over whether my new roval ring is actually an upgrade or not.

I am wearing it more than my orig set and I've toyed with the idea of dismantling the first (round 1ct.) for earrings. I have not mentioned the idea this to my husband yet. He's sensitive and I'm not sure how he'd react. I don't know if it could be taken as an insult in some way... like the diamond's not good enough for a ring so it has to be salvaged for studs?

If I keep it intact then I'm just a bit greedy or like to have a change of rings...but by destroying( I know a bit dramatic) it entirely, I can't help but feel that I'll be sending the message that it isn't up to snuff.

When I'm feeling more sentimental I still wear my round e-ring set on the left and wear the roval on my right hand.

I do wish I'd gotten a ring like my roval one first time out. This should keep me quiet(about diamond rings) for at least 15 years.

 

[elepri]

I certainly don''t want to upgrade now or anytime soon. I''m attached to the stone and wouldn''t ever part with it. However, that doesn''t mean that i wouldn''t want another (additional) stone years down the line.

 

[ursulawrite]

I won''t upgrade, mainly because the thought of it saddens my husband. A lot. He thinks it''s acceptable for a major anniversary -- twenty years or something -- but when I once suggested upgrading my 1.3 carat round to a 3-carat cushion, he became very upset.

I''ve started to wear my e-ring a lot less, anyway, and wear only my eternity band most days.

 

[Julian]

Wow! I didn''t know that upgrading meant giving up the original e-stone.
If that''s the case, I would never ever upgrade. I''m too attached!

My f. told me that when we upgrade he''ll put my original stone into a necklace or buy another like it to create earrings. He was the one to bring up the upgrade idea, not me.

 

[fire&ice]

Date: 4/20/2005 5:45

6 PM
Author: Julian
Wow! I didn''t know that upgrading meant giving up the original e-stone.
If that''s the case, I would never ever upgrade. I''m too attached!

My f. told me that when we upgrade he''ll put my original stone into a necklace or buy another like it to create earrings. He was the one to bring up the upgrade idea, not me.

Well, it really hasn''t been a hard and fast established rule. As long as I''ve been around, I still don''t know if "upgrade" means giving up your original stone or means that you just wear a new ring as your "e-ring".

I couldn''t give up my orginal starter stone. But, everyone is different. I had NO problem resetting my starter stone & wearing my anniv. ring as my e-ring on my left hand w/ wedding band.

So, maybe I''m a psuedo romantic.

 

[Cath]

Some people keep the original stone and set it into other jewelry, others don''t. I think one of the main factors is whether you can afford to keep the original AND buy an even larger diamond!

I don''t plan to upgrade. I used to think I''d like to, but the longer I have my original e-ring the more I get attached to it. DH feels the same way and besides, he has told me he is not opposed to buying me a larger diamond but for another jewelry purpose, so that works for me! Maybe a nice big three-stone ring for my neglected right hand!!

 

[ringbling17]

I never received an engagement ring when we got married, so for my 10th anniversary I got a 1.5 carat diamond which I exchanged for a 2 carat within a few months.

Having said that, I must say that I have grown attached to this diamond that I have now and can''t fathom upgrading it for a bigger one. Although the thought did creep into my mind last year.

I would like to eventually get another different shaped diamond, but I plan keep this one and wear the new one (if I ever get one) as a right hand ring.


I would love to get either a pear or a cushion shape next time.

 

[laughinggravy]

Hi all - interesting topic.

I would up grade, but then I helped choose and I was 36 when I received it so I was pretty clear what I liked and dh, very sweetly, bought me a bigger stone than I suggested.

But.....it is an asscher and so smaller spread to it. My OEC is the same carat weight and looks waaaay bigger. It''s 6x6mm, 1.20 with traps that give it a total width of 12mm. But the traps really blend into the platinum.

What I''m hoping to do is buy a five stone, .25c each, shared prong asscher ring to wear on the same finger (you can see exactly the one on David''s site, diamondsbylauren). That way, more bling, same ring!

They''d be more or less the same size as the traps at their widest point, so I think that could look really cool.
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[luckyhonu]

I promised my FI that I would not upgrade my ering. He is the kind of person that doesn''t believe in paying so much for diamonds, but what does he know anyway?

However, I told him that I will not upgrade the ering but that''s just for the ering, that rule doesn''t apply regarding other rings.

 

[Momoftwo]

I think it''s easy to say you don''t want an upgrade if you start with 1.5-2ct. Those of us who have been married 20+ years and had what was a fairly large stone at the time,( mine was .46 and the largest of anyone I knew), can see this differently. I still have my .46 and set it in a 3 stone, but my 1 ct upgrade(12 years ago) is being upgraded in the next year to 1.5-1.75. People also forget that your diamond may have been owned by someone else and/or recut over the years. Not every stone on the market is newly mined. So, sentinmentality is fine, but there''s nothing wrong with buying more when you can afford it. Once again, it''s about the commitment, not the jewelry.