Anyone''s FI not into wedding planning?

[MINE!!]

I seem to have one of those as well.

Date: 8/18/2005 12:07:40 PM
Author:Tacori E-ring
Am I the only one whose groom wants to ''just show up''???

 

[saturn]

Hey Tacori e-ring, guess what! We''re date twins! How much planning have you done so far?

My fiance definitely wants to just show up... He even has strategies for getting out of doing the planning.

His first strategy was to pick one little aspect of the wedding and INSIST on having it a certain way. That way, even if he didn''t make any other decisions it would *seem* like he was contributing. Like if he was absolutely insistent that the wedding cake be chocolate, then no one would notice that he wasn''t doing anything else.

The second strategy was to make ridiculous suggestions when asked his opinion. For instance, if I ask him what kind of tux he would like, he tells me he wants powder blue with a white ruffly shirt. That way, he thinks that I will just stop asking him and make all the decisions myself.

I figured out the strategies, and we joke about them all the time now. The thing is, I don''t really mind if I have to make most of the decisions. A lot of the time, when I ask his opinion I am really just wanting him to agree with me. We joke about that too:
Me: Which of these china patterns do you like better?
Him: I like the second one....... Is that right?
Me: No, sorry, you''re wrong. The first one is better.
Him: Okay.

In the end, I will probably leave the music up to him since it''s something he really likes. And if he wants, he can come along to the menu and cake tastings.
He would probably take care of whatever I asked him to, but he wouldn''t really care that much.

 

[rfath]

Date: 8/24/2005 2:37:26 PM
Author: saturn

My fiance definitely wants to just show up... He even has strategies for getting out of doing the planning.

...

The second strategy was to make ridiculous suggestions when asked his opinion. For instance, if I ask him what kind of tux he would like, he tells me he wants powder blue with a white ruffly shirt. That way, he thinks that I will just stop asking him and make all the decisions myself.

See, now, my fiance KNOWS that if he tried that particular trick, I''d be all over that. He wants a powder blue tux with ruffles? Okay! I''ll even get the patent-white shoes for him!

I''m sick, though, and my sense of humor is even worse....

(can I say it? My fiance is the bridezilla of the two of us.. maybe that''s a topic for another thread...)

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Saturn-
You might think I am crazy by the amount of stuff I have done but keep in mind we live in Charlotte, NC and the wedding is in Milwaukee, WI and I just cannot go home every month (self-employed and some of my clients are VERY needy) so everytime I go home (twice so far after getting engaged) I have to pack as much stuff in as possible. So anyways, I have my dress, veil, location (we are getting married and having the reception in the same place), they cater and handle the cake, florist (family friend), photographer, hotel, and chair covers (I heart chair covers). I think that''s it (which I know is a lot for having practically a year away!) I still have to decide on the details like what I want to flowers to be...ex..

What about you Saturn?

 

[glaucomflecken]

Hey Tacori are you from Milwaukee? I went to college there!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I am sort of from Milwaukee. I lived there from ages 5-14 then we moved to Ohio. My family moved back there during my third year of college. I think it is a great city but TOO COLD! Probably why we decided to get married during the summer. Me and my obsession to wear a strapless dress!
Did you go to marquette or UWM-milwaukee?

 

[LollyBear]

My FI is a evil version of the "I just want to show up" groom. He is "indifferent" to the details but always needs to chime in AFTER I''ve made a decision on something. Thank goodness we only have a little over 3 wks to go. I don''t think I can take too much more of it.

 

[saturn]

Tacori-
I am also trying to plan my wedding from a distance. I live in Atlanta and I''m trying to plan a wedding in Michigan. I was back in MI for the first time since we got engaged last week. So far I have the church and minister, reception location (which is handling the catering and cake) and hotel. I''m currently working on the dress. I feel like I should be doing more, but I still have plenty of time.

 

[glaucomflecken]

Date: 8/24/2005 7:54:19 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring

I am sort of from Milwaukee. I lived there from ages 5-14 then we moved to Ohio. My family moved back there during my third year of college. I think it is a great city but TOO COLD! Probably why we decided to get married during the summer. Me and my obsession to wear a strapless dress!

Did you go to marquette or UWM-milwaukee?

Marquette! Haha and now I live in Ohio. It definitely was very cold there but I loved living there!

OK sorry to hijack your thread. Back to complaining about our fiances...

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Where in Ohio Punch ''n Pie?

 

[glaucomflecken]

Date: 8/25/2005 1:08:33 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring
Where in Ohio Punch ''n Pie?

I currently live outside of Toledo. Im what my family calls a nomad. I have lived in 5 places in the past 10 years--Chicago, Milwaukee, Indiana, West Virginia, Ohio and in two months I will be moving to Northern Virginia/Wash DC area. Who knows how long I will stay there! LOL

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Nothing wrong with being a nomad we moved around when I was growing up. It builds character. I went to highschool in Cleveland (another GREAT city just way too cold) and college at Ohio University (where I met FI) We live in Charlotte now and I can see us living here for the long haul. We love it.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

PROGRESS? Maybe...
So my FMIL is taking care of blocking rooms at a local hotel by our reception site for the wedding. She is just helping my mom and I out plus she is good at neogiating, anyways I was telling FI how we got it figured out and she is signing a contract and that is where we''ll spend the night of our wedding. This is how the conversation went:
"So we will be staying at the same hotel as my parent" -FI
"Yes, why? Is that a big deal? It is a really nice suite"-ME
"People don''t do that do they? I mean my parents will be in the same hotel?"
"Yes, not next store but the same building"
"That is not how it is done. I want to stay at a nicer hotel downtown" (the site is like 15 mins away from downtown)
"You are going to want to drive farther when we can stay a few miles away? We can stay at nice hotels on our honeymoon"
"No, this is not how it is suppose to be. I don''t want to stay there"
"So you do care about things, huh" (surpressing a laugh)
"I have opinions!"

It was too funny. So we''ll stay at a different hotel. I still don''t see what the big deal is, but whatever. It is the most spark I have seen in him concerning our wedding! So I am taking that as a good sign. Anyways, thought you fellow BIW would find that amusing!

 

[MelissaSue]

tacori - what a funny thing for him to be so adamant about! My FI and I are planning on staying in the same hotel as my parents.. If my FATHER would get around to blocking the rooms. FI and I BETTER get a good room, or I''ll be annoyed! Your wedding is further away than mine right? My father keeps insisting that the hotels don''t have their rates for next year yet, so they can''t block the rooms. He''s a pain in my butt!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Our wedding is 8/12/06 and the hotel we are using books 50 weeks in advance. His mom is really organized and I am sending save the dates and wanted the hotel info on them. He is not usually into "fancy" hotels anyways but I guess he has this image in his mind. It was funny in a disturbing sort of way. I couldn''t figure out why he cared. It isn''t like they would be sharing a room with us. But oh well, I complained I wasn''t getting any input so now I should be happy. I told him we could stay in a hotel downtown. I really don''t care. Actually my parents got married in Milwaukee and spent their wedding night at an old hotel downtown so I think it would be sweet if we spent our first night there too. So that''s what we will probably do.

 

[fountainfairfax]

Ok ladies, I just thought I''d chime in to show you what happens when your groom gets way too involved!!!!!

 

[fountainfairfax]

Date: 8/27/2005 1:23:27 PM
Author: fountainfairfax
Ok ladies, I just thought I''d chime in to show you what happens when your groom gets way too involved!!!!!

Believe it or not, but I am now the proud (?) owner of this lovely cake-topper. My soon-to-be Fiance is a horror writer- we plan on eloping to Virginia to get married in the garden at the Edgar Allan Poe Museum next Oct. When we get back we will have a very civilized dinner with the immediate family and then on the weekend before Halloween we will have a costume party to celebrate our marriage....BF picked out not only the ever-so-lovely topper but also these favors- vials of bubbles fashioned to look like test-tubes of blood, with little toe tags that read "till death do us part"

so it could be very worse for ya all

 

[MissAva]

Oh FFF I love it! That is too funny! What a hoot! Are ya''ll going to do invitations like Dave Najaro and Carmen Electra?

 

[Tacori E-ring]

That is TOO funny! Maybe I should be greatful that the only thing he really seems to care about so far is the hotel room!