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Ideal_Rock
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SO picked out the ring but you secretly hate it. Do you ask for a new one?
Yes, but wait for a suitably decent interval to have lapsed. I upgraded my original at wedding anni number five, I'd gotten right down to it and already produced two kids, which I think gave me courage to go for the upgrade as well.
You upgrade your ER, do you keep the original one? If you don't keep it, how does your SO feel about selling it? Do they even care?
My husband was a bit shocked when he realised I was serious about changing my ering. I have kept the original, and actually it is more meaningful now than at the time I had to make the choice. I'm glad I kept it, but it was of no significant monetary value so the decision wasn't as hard. If the original ering could make a meaningful contribution to what I 'really' wanted, I would have considered selling. It's the wedding band that is most important, anyway.
It's a familiar inheritance, or passed on from generations, but you secretly hate it. Do you say anything?
Yes, after a decent interval and depending on the worth of the original set and how I get along with the family. If the ring has worth as an antique, I would suck it up or possibly consider using the diamond in a new ring of my own design and setting a coloured stone in the setting.
Your SO cheats on you.
I guess I would either sell the ring to buy other bling (or feed my kids as a single mum lol) or melt it down into something else, a pendant etc.
You cheat on your SO.
Definitely would keep the diamond lol!
For the above two:
If you stay together, do you keep the same ring or swap it out for a new one.
If we recovered from such an event, I could consider resetting the ring....I guess...but same marriage, probly same ring (assuming I liked my ring, which I do)
If you split up, assuming it stays with the wife, do you sell it? Keep it?
Resize and swap to my other hand... or celebrate my change of life by turning it into something else.
My daughter gets my diamonds when they are 'estate' lol. (wouldn't want to hand on the karma, that's what I'd tell her)
Yes, but wait for a suitably decent interval to have lapsed. I upgraded my original at wedding anni number five, I'd gotten right down to it and already produced two kids, which I think gave me courage to go for the upgrade as well.
You upgrade your ER, do you keep the original one? If you don't keep it, how does your SO feel about selling it? Do they even care?
My husband was a bit shocked when he realised I was serious about changing my ering. I have kept the original, and actually it is more meaningful now than at the time I had to make the choice. I'm glad I kept it, but it was of no significant monetary value so the decision wasn't as hard. If the original ering could make a meaningful contribution to what I 'really' wanted, I would have considered selling. It's the wedding band that is most important, anyway.
It's a familiar inheritance, or passed on from generations, but you secretly hate it. Do you say anything?
Yes, after a decent interval and depending on the worth of the original set and how I get along with the family. If the ring has worth as an antique, I would suck it up or possibly consider using the diamond in a new ring of my own design and setting a coloured stone in the setting.
Your SO cheats on you.
I guess I would either sell the ring to buy other bling (or feed my kids as a single mum lol) or melt it down into something else, a pendant etc.
You cheat on your SO.
Definitely would keep the diamond lol!
For the above two:
If you stay together, do you keep the same ring or swap it out for a new one.
If we recovered from such an event, I could consider resetting the ring....I guess...but same marriage, probly same ring (assuming I liked my ring, which I do)
If you split up, assuming it stays with the wife, do you sell it? Keep it?
Resize and swap to my other hand... or celebrate my change of life by turning it into something else.
My daughter gets my diamonds when they are 'estate' lol. (wouldn't want to hand on the karma, that's what I'd tell her)
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