Are you trusting?

[Upgradable]

I am. I pretty much function under the old "fool me once, shame on you. fool me twice, shame on me!" Though I try hard to live by Christ's example, "Love one another as I have loved you."

 

[dragonfly411]

I've stopped trusting people. People are greedy and selfish and they're back stabbers. I've had too many catty girls, too many guys burn me... nope. No trust.

 

[princesss]

I'm pretty trusting with friendships and acquaintances, but in relationships it takes a LOT for me to trust a guy.

 

[elrohwen]

With people, I trust my close loved ones at their word, although there aren't many people on that list. Otherwise, I look to people's actions and trust those more than their words.

With information, I trust nothing. I always look to validate information, and I quite like the research that comes along with this quality. I was the kid who was asked to leave the Sunday School classroom for asking "How do you know G-d exists?" one too many times. I still believe that it was a valid question, especially for a child.

LOL! I got sent home from my Christian school kindegarten for this and then they'd get angry with me for insisting I was right because they didn't have an answer I've also wondered if people who don't trust easily are more likely not to belive in a higher power because that involves the ultimate form of trust. Trusting in something that cannot be validated.

Interesting thought, but I don't think it applies to me. I'm generally very trusting with people, yet have never believed in a higher authority and have always been very questioning in school (I was *that* kid who asked the annoying questions). I've always been a bit anti-authority - probably because I'm slower to respect those in authority, even if I trust their motives.

 

[TravelingGal]

I'm very cynical, but generally give people the benefit of the doubt.

I have decent gut instinct, so I go with that. I don't surround myself with people I feel I can't trust, so generally, I trust most everyone around me.

 

[dragonfly411]

With people, I trust my close loved ones at their word, although there aren't many people on that list. Otherwise, I look to people's actions and trust those more than their words.

With information, I trust nothing. I always look to validate information, and I quite like the research that comes along with this quality. I was the kid who was asked to leave the Sunday School classroom for asking "How do you know G-d exists?" one too many times. I still believe that it was a valid question, especially for a child.

LOL! I got sent home from my Christian school kindegarten for this and then they'd get angry with me for insisting I was right because they didn't have an answer I've also wondered if people who don't trust easily are more likely not to belive in a higher power because that involves the ultimate form of trust. Trusting in something that cannot be validated.

Interesting thought, but I don't think it applies to me. I'm generally very trusting with people, yet have never believed in a higher authority and have always been very questioning in school (I was *that* kid who asked the annoying questions). I've always been a bit anti-authority - probably because I'm slower to respect those in authority, even if I trust their motives.

This doesn't work for me either. I believe in God, but I do not trust people.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I do not trust easily. Never had, probably never will.

 

[Miss Sparkly]

Thinking about it, I trust men a lot more than I trust women. The only two women in my life that I trust are my best friend from elementry school and a coworker (she's very blunt, matter of fact, and will not put up with poor treatment of others). I was raised by my dad too, so it could also be that I just don't understand women and they're too catty sometimes

 

[gemgirl]

With people, I trust my close loved ones at their word, although there aren't many people on that list. Otherwise, I look to people's actions and trust those more than their words.

With information, I trust nothing. I always look to validate information, and I quite like the research that comes along with this quality. I was the kid who was asked to leave the Sunday School classroom for asking "How do you know G-d exists?" one too many times. I still believe that it was a valid question, especially for a child.

LOL! I got sent home from my Christian school kindegarten for this and then they'd get angry with me for insisting I was right because they didn't have an answer I've also wondered if people who don't trust easily are more likely not to belive in a higher power because that involves the ultimate form of trust. Trusting in something that cannot be validated.

Interesting thought, but I don't think it applies to me. I'm generally very trusting with people, yet have never believed in a higher authority and have always been very questioning in school (I was *that* kid who asked the annoying questions). I've always been a bit anti-authority - probably because I'm slower to respect those in authority, even if I trust their motives.

This doesn't work for me either. I believe in God, but I do not trust people.

I think it's because we're talking about two different things here- "trust" and "faith". Faith is believing without tangible proof. Trust is a slightly more tangible feeling. We learn and teach in our marriage group that while a certain degree of trust can be offered initially by one person to another, complete trust has to be earned. That's why so many of us who have been burned repeatedly have a hard time trusting. Sometimes those closest to us, who should be worthy of out trust, end up disappointing us. So why trust strangers? (who technically is anyone you're not married to or related to by blood).

 

[dragonfly411]

With people, I trust my close loved ones at their word, although there aren't many people on that list. Otherwise, I look to people's actions and trust those more than their words.

With information, I trust nothing. I always look to validate information, and I quite like the research that comes along with this quality. I was the kid who was asked to leave the Sunday School classroom for asking "How do you know G-d exists?" one too many times. I still believe that it was a valid question, especially for a child.

LOL! I got sent home from my Christian school kindegarten for this and then they'd get angry with me for insisting I was right because they didn't have an answer I've also wondered if people who don't trust easily are more likely not to belive in a higher power because that involves the ultimate form of trust. Trusting in something that cannot be validated.

Interesting thought, but I don't think it applies to me. I'm generally very trusting with people, yet have never believed in a higher authority and have always been very questioning in school (I was *that* kid who asked the annoying questions). I've always been a bit anti-authority - probably because I'm slower to respect those in authority, even if I trust their motives.

This doesn't work for me either. I believe in God, but I do not trust people.

I think it's because we're talking about two different things here- "trust" and "faith". Faith is believing without tangible proof. Trust is a slightly more tangible feeling. We learn and teach in our marriage group that while a certain degree of trust can be offered initially by one person to another, complete trust has to be earned. That's why so many of us who have been burned repeatedly have a hard time trusting. Sometimes those closest to us, who should be worthy of out trust, end up disappointing us. So why trust strangers? (who technically is anyone you're not married to or related to by blood).

I agree the two are different. I truly don't trust people (although I also do not have faith in many of them lol). Trust has to be earned and very few people in my life have truly earned it.

 

[Upgradable]

the responses in this thread are depressing

 

[Autumnovember]

I used to trust way too easily but after being burned multiple times by people who I thought would never burn me, I don't trust easily at all.

 

[packrat]

If it was the Zombie Apocalypse I'd be more apt to give everyone the narrow eye of suspicion, but deep down I'm..I guess I'm kinda naive? I'm Dug. (Hi there! We have only just met but I love you-squirrel!) I've gotten stepped on a lot but..I don't know..I don't just automatically distrust everyone I meet. Even when I was dating. I've been verbally/physically/emotionally abused and I just couldn't bring myself to be wary of everyone. Pollyanna maybe? Except now w/the kids as I said before..then I'm trying to decide if you're mean or a perv behind closed doors.

 

[Porridge]

I'm quite trusting. Obviously it takes time to earn/gain trust so I dont trust strangers, but I generally tend to think the best of people until proven otherwise. I'm very lucky to have a wonderful group of friends and a great family, all of whom I trust completely. I haven't been burned too badly in the past, at least not any worse than others have and nothing I haven't gotten over. Yet! Get back to me in a few years

 

[Imdanny]

You can't trust in human perfection because there is no such thing IMHO. So it's easier to trust but verify and if all that fails learn the art of forgiveness. I used to be a more trusting person but I don't even have to be all that "trusting" at my age. People mellow. They get tired of drama. They don't seem to have the energy for it. It's not a bad thing.

 

[atroop711]

No I don't trust easily. It takes time with me. It's part being a native NYer, a cops daughter and also life experience. I'm cautious and will always be this way. My friends make fun of us when we visit them in the 'burbs because we lock our car. I joke back and tell them where do you think all of these crazy things happen that they report on the news...the BURBS!

 

[atroop711]

I used to trust way too easily but after being burned multiple times by people who I thought would never burn me, I don't trust easily at all.

I'm with you. I've been burned by those who should have always looked out for me