ARGH!!!

[fisherofmengirly]

Date: 10/22/2006 10:19:38 AM
Author: fatafelice

Date: 10/20/2006 12:04:00 AM
Author: fisherofmengirly

My cousin is a few years younger than I am, and she''s being really frivolous, burning through resources she doesn''t have. Back in the day, I may have done the same, though I doubt it. I''m a creative type and I love a *deal* and an opportunity to embellish and give things my own flare. Anyway, this isn''t the first incident that''s upset me, to say the least. She refers to my ring, my lovely, beautiful, gotta-love-it tulip, as the ''baby diamond,'' while hers is not much bigger at all, and well, not high quality, at all. She told me she was glad I could feel pretty and like a bride in a $99 dollar dress, and that she hears the Florida Keys are really quite dirty, particularly Key Largo, where we will most likely be staying on our honeymoon. It''s really kind of comical to me, because I LOVE every aspect of what we''re planning and I LOVE that it''s working out to be wonderful and still inexpensive, for the most part.

Okay, in the beginning of this thread, I would have just said not to give her any further ideas and now worry about it. I would have felt just a little sad for her un-creative self. After reading this, however, feeding her bad ideas doesn''t seem so mean! What a brat!

I just want to add that I have had similar feelings for my FSIL, who got married this past May. FI and I weren''t even engaged yet, but she knew I had done some planning. I was showing her some pictures I had cut out of magazines and we came across one from Martha Stewart that involved using a vintage postcard to create a magnet STD. I was really excited about it because I collect vintage postcards -- which his whole family well knows. I told her that even if I didn''t make it a magnet, I was going to get a real vintage postcard for our location and replicate it as the STD. SO what does she do? Takes a picture of her venue, photoshops it to look like a vintage postcard, and sends them out as STDs. Grrrrrrr. Everyone thought it was so ''cute'' and ''original.'' Double Grrrrrrrr. Now, I know that I don''t have exclusive rights to copy someything out of a MS magazine, but COME ON! I''m the one that collects postcards!

However, I love this idea and it is very ''me,'' so I am doing it anyway. Except mine will be made from a *real* postcard because I am getting married at a real historic site. And mine will be magnets -- big ones.

Overall, I know how frustrating it can be to have a wedding in close proximity to another in the same family. I feel like everyone will be comparing our weddings and they are a whole year apart! Crazy, you say? Well, I had finally managed to get past it and convince myself that no one would notice and or be comapring them....until last week. That''s when FMIL said to me:

''It''s going to be hard to beat M-- and M--''s wedding. That was the best wedding I''ve ever been to!''

tripple GRRRRRRRRRRR!

GRRR indeed, Fetafelice! I have one family member in particular who completely lacks the ability to be delicate or tactful in what she says. So, I''m trying to mentally prepare myself for the "ooh, this is almost as good as the wedding last weekend," or, "hmm, I liked the way blah blah was better in the other wedding," and so on.

But a YEAR? I would be very, very frustrated by that!

Good for you for sticking to doing the Save the Dates as you originally pictured them, especially with it being something that is very *you.*