asking permission?

[fisherofmengirly]

I think if parents weren''t thinking marriage was a good choice, it''d be clear before the time came to ask for a blessing in their choosing to marry. In all of my relationships, I''ve sought the advice of my parents, sometimes for approval, sometimes to see if they saw red flags I was too involved in "being in love" to see. And over time, I''ve learned that they''re good judges of character. Particularly my mom. She knows me well and knows what works with me, even when I deny it. So, if either of my parents had qualms with the man I loved, they''d let me know. And every time they''ve had concerns, it became apparent to me, too, even if months down the road.

I guess that doesn''t answer the question completely, but yes, if my parents had concerns and were able to verbalize them in a way that I understood, I would consider what they were talking about and wonder if maybe we''d jumped into being in love and put up blinders to some real issues. I trust my parents, but I also trust myself.

Knowing my parents like I do, they wouldn''t object without having reason. And I''d want to know that reasoning, and from that, I''d evaluate what would be best for me.

However, knowing they approve and love him and are ready to add him into their family is a great thing! I love it.

 

[bee*]

My boyfriend and I have talked about this and he will ask my dad for his blessing when the time comes that he will ask me to marry him. I think that this is great and I would be a bit upset if he didn''t do it. He knows that my dad would say yes anyway (we have been together nearly 7 years so they know each other well). The only thing is if my mother found out I really dont think that she would be able to keep it secret!