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At the end of my rope with my cat...please please help! :(
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Re: At the end of my rope with my cat...please please help!
When I first found O.P., my third kitty, I had planned to adopt him out as DH was dead set against a third kitteh. I found several people who were interested in adopting him an a local-to-Seattle forum, whom I met with, and would have been totally happy to home him with any of them. As it turned out, I ended up keeping O.P. (it was true kitty love at first sight between him and my other boy cat Rat, so I couldn't separate them and DH ended up agreeing totally). But if there's any other forums you post on, especially that are local to your area, try that. I feel pretty confident that you can tell if someone is a good match for a pet adoption if you meet with them in person.
I think some cats just do NOT get along. I've seen it with my guys- Rat's met a few other random kitties, and you can just *see* it; either he loves them or despises them, no in between. Cats, like people, just sometimes don't like each other, and that's that. And don't feel guilty- if you do the work and make sure she's going to a good home, you're doing good. For everyone concerned including you and Kiki, IMO. (And adopting a cat out when it is young and kitteny is probably much easier than an older one.)
Good luck! Tough situation
When I first found O.P., my third kitty, I had planned to adopt him out as DH was dead set against a third kitteh. I found several people who were interested in adopting him an a local-to-Seattle forum, whom I met with, and would have been totally happy to home him with any of them. As it turned out, I ended up keeping O.P. (it was true kitty love at first sight between him and my other boy cat Rat, so I couldn't separate them and DH ended up agreeing totally). But if there's any other forums you post on, especially that are local to your area, try that. I feel pretty confident that you can tell if someone is a good match for a pet adoption if you meet with them in person.
I think some cats just do NOT get along. I've seen it with my guys- Rat's met a few other random kitties, and you can just *see* it; either he loves them or despises them, no in between. Cats, like people, just sometimes don't like each other, and that's that. And don't feel guilty- if you do the work and make sure she's going to a good home, you're doing good. For everyone concerned including you and Kiki, IMO. (And adopting a cat out when it is young and kitteny is probably much easier than an older one.)
Good luck! Tough situation
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Re: At the end of my rope with my cat...please please help!
That is so sad...I agree with those that have said it would be best to find her another home while she is still young. In the meantime (sorry if someone already suggested it) one of my tools to keep the kitten and puppy from annoying each other is this can of air called Pet Corrector. They sell it at PetCo it's around $15 and it's in the dog section. It makes a hissing sound when you squeeze it! Maybe you could hiss for Kiki? It may scare Kiki, too...but in the meantime it's worth a try at making her life better!
That is so sad...I agree with those that have said it would be best to find her another home while she is still young. In the meantime (sorry if someone already suggested it) one of my tools to keep the kitten and puppy from annoying each other is this can of air called Pet Corrector. They sell it at PetCo it's around $15 and it's in the dog section. It makes a hissing sound when you squeeze it! Maybe you could hiss for Kiki? It may scare Kiki, too...but in the meantime it's worth a try at making her life better!
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Re: At the end of my rope with my cat...please please help!
I'm so sorry to hear about this. As one animal lover to another, I would like to tell you that from my own tragic experience, it is in the best interest of your older cat Kiki to try and find a wonderful, indoor, loving home for your kitten while she is still young (like others have suggested).
I had 2 cats at my parents home, my boyfriend and I got 2 kittens of our own. When we moved, we were unable to bring our young cats to the new apt, so my parents took them in. In approximately 6 months or so, 1 of my parents cats passed away and, shockingly, a week later the other passed. They were 9 and 10 respectively, healthy, indoor, adored cats. The vet was unable to find any reasonable cause for either of their deaths other than the stress of the 2 new younger cats in the house. The oldest cat, a gorgeous persian, would also run and hide in the garage just as your Cassie does.
Its SO difficult for us animal lovers to fathom breaking our committment to our pets, but since Cassie is so young, I'm sure she will do just fine. Whereas Kiki will very likely continue to struggle as long as Cassie is around
I'm so sorry to hear about this. As one animal lover to another, I would like to tell you that from my own tragic experience, it is in the best interest of your older cat Kiki to try and find a wonderful, indoor, loving home for your kitten while she is still young (like others have suggested).
I had 2 cats at my parents home, my boyfriend and I got 2 kittens of our own. When we moved, we were unable to bring our young cats to the new apt, so my parents took them in. In approximately 6 months or so, 1 of my parents cats passed away and, shockingly, a week later the other passed. They were 9 and 10 respectively, healthy, indoor, adored cats. The vet was unable to find any reasonable cause for either of their deaths other than the stress of the 2 new younger cats in the house. The oldest cat, a gorgeous persian, would also run and hide in the garage just as your Cassie does.
Its SO difficult for us animal lovers to fathom breaking our committment to our pets, but since Cassie is so young, I'm sure she will do just fine. Whereas Kiki will very likely continue to struggle as long as Cassie is around
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Re: At the end of my rope with my cat...please please help!
Ok, I might start a flame war, but I would punish the younger cat, and not allow her to have any affection at all for at least an hour every time she picks on the older cat. I would make it very, very clear that the behavior is not to be tolerated at all. Sprayer bottle might be fine, but I would make sure to have the most angry voice I could muster and make a loud, unpleasant sound too.
Ok, I might start a flame war, but I would punish the younger cat, and not allow her to have any affection at all for at least an hour every time she picks on the older cat. I would make it very, very clear that the behavior is not to be tolerated at all. Sprayer bottle might be fine, but I would make sure to have the most angry voice I could muster and make a loud, unpleasant sound too.
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Re: At the end of my rope with my cat...please please help!
Reader, we basically do! She gets put in 'her' room or in the basement for an hour. When we let her back out, she is right back at it again within minutes. Slow learner that cat. I just don't think cats understand cause and effect.
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Reader, we basically do! She gets put in 'her' room or in the basement for an hour. When we let her back out, she is right back at it again within minutes. Slow learner that cat. I just don't think cats understand cause and effect.
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