BREAK UP

[Blenheim]

I also don''t have any advice, but my thoughts are with you as well.

 

[ilovesparkles]

Wow, I cannot fathom how this all occurred but it did. There are really no words that we can say to comfort you but we are all here for what ever you need. Have you tried to contact him since or are you waiting for him? I would not be able to control myself and I''m sure would be calling non stop. I am so sorry that this has happened. Perhaps try calling or just showing up and forcing him to talk to you. THat is what one of my GF did once and she actually got answers. Good luck! You are in our thoughts and prayers!

 

[Rhapsody]

Oh honey I am SO sorry! I can only imagine what you must be feeling now.

I don''t know much about your relationship or boyfriend, but I do know that walking out is a COMPLETELY inappropriate way to deal with an arguement or disagreement.

I agree with the others that wanting to talk about "when" and have general timelines is hardly out of line. Its not fair that he gets to talk about things and you don''t get to be part of the conversation.

I hope you can find some closure and peace with this situation, you''ll be in my thoughts!

 

[~*Alexis*~]

Im sorry that you are going through this. You just have to realize that people do things when they are angry. Was something happening at work? Could you talk to his parents and ask them about his past behavior? That could help shed some light. He could be having problems with someone else.

*HUGS*

 

[Mannequin]

I''m a little concerned that he has just completely disappeared without a car for nearly a whole week. Is this something he has done before? Just for peace of mind, maybe you could call around and see if anyone (family, friends, work) knows that he is okay. I hope he turns up so that you two can at least get some closure, if not a reconciliation.

 

[ilovesparkles]

Date: 4/29/2006 12:08:22 AM
Author: equestrienne
I''m a little concerned that he has just completely disappeared without a car for nearly a whole week. Is this something he has done before? Just for peace of mind, maybe you could call around and see if anyone (family, friends, work) knows that he is okay. I hope he turns up so that you two can at least get some closure, if not a reconciliation.

I am going to strongly back up this thought because of something similar at my mom''s work a few years back that tuirned out horrible. I don''t want to freak you out but make sure he is ok if you have the strength to do so.

And how are YOU doing today?

 

[diamondfan]

Date: 4/28/2006 2:23:23 PM
Author: LIW13
as to the anger question:

in hindsight, i have heard ''stories'' from him about his temper in the recent weeks...(with roommate, parents, neighbor'')....seems to be ''snapping'' left and right.

LIW..I am sorry! Clearly I do not know him but I am just wonder if there is not something else troubling him having nothing to do with you and your relationship. If indeed he has been bringing it up for months then your mere asking of a reasonable questions should not have generated the response it did. It seems like quite and over reaction given the situation. Maybe something is happening in his family, or a work, and he has been keeping it inside? I also would worry if I had not heard one word...he should have cooled down by now, realized he acted with haste in the heat of the moment, and called you by now. He care for you and knows you are likely worried about him...so check and make sure that someone has heard from him. It may not be really over, he might need some calm time...

 

[ladykemma]

Date: 4/28/2006 1:45:17 PM
Author:LIW13
my bf and i broke up
after many, many, many of his comments of getting a mortgage together, vaca''s next year, kids, etc...i said...''babe, when are we gonna get these things rolling?''

and he flipped out
and said if i need more security than what we have
then maybe he''s not the right guy for me because he will never under any circumstances discuss a ''when''

then he stormed out of my place
w/o a car
and i haven''t heard from him since (sunday)

yeah....bad times.
rather...devastated i must say

is there any indication or red flags that there is another woman?

 

[lilmaria]

sorry to hear about your hardship. I don''t know your relationship, nor the type of man he is but with all the news stories lately, do you think steroids are a factor? roid rage is a BIG problem for men on juice and they act in a manner that is completely outside of their normal realm? I am probably way off, but it sounds strange for the sudden change of events w/a normal question. I hope you''re doing well. Hugs...hugs

 

[ilovesparkles]

*BUMP* not sure when patchee is coming back but I''m hoping you check in girlie! How was FL and everything else?

 

[Patchee]

Awe, so sorry... welcome to my world .. it sucks but if he can talk mortgage payments with you but no marriage then maybe it is time to move on. It hurts like hell but it is what it is..

But, maybe he will come home with a ring, rose and a sorry.. I hope that for you!