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The vast majority of my jewelry pieces I have purchased and/or designed for myself. I not only enjoy this because I get exactly what I want, but also because my husband has never been a good "gifter." We''re not very sentimental people, although we have a very loving and committed marriage. So buying my own beautiful sparklies seems the perfect compromise.
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Me too. You get exactly what you want. Its just not who my BF is, but I do know some women whose husbands have incredible taste. That''s nice too!
 
We generally pick out what we want because that way we get what we want. I think we should be covered for birthdays and Christmas for the next 20 years. LOL.
 
DH has surprised me with a couple of pieces of jewellery, but the ones I wear the most are pieces I chose, and he merely paid for
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I prefer it that way, because my tastes and style change slighty from time to time.

He is the same, he always needs a new powertool... he shows me what he wants, and I research it myself to get the best deal. Everyone''s happy!
 
Most of my jewelry are surprise gift from DH. I do tell him what I like every now and then, when I see something. So far he had done quite well.
 
Nope, none of my bf's have ever bought me jewelry. I'm also young and in college and most college age guys don't have a lot of extra money to buy nice jewelry. My dad on the other hand has always picked out and surprised my mom with jewelry. He designed and customized a lot of it too. He and my mom designed her engagement ring together, but thats the only thing he didn't surprise her with. I think it's cute and my mom loves when he surpises her. My dad is the best gift giver I've ever met :) He buys all my jewelry too!
 
Upgradable, I''m just like you. I buy it for myself or pick it out and ask him to pay. Neither of us are sentimental gift-givers. We''re more practical types and are both fine with things this way!
 
No, but FI gets me exactly what I want. He doesn''t like giving surprise gifts because he would rather know exactly what I want. Since I have a huge wish list he still manages to surprise me when he decides to randomly throw into the conversation that he wants to get me something. Even though its not jewelry I have a thing for designer bags. Before we moved and when I was working I would save and buy them for myself, now I am in a holding pattern and can''t. I am hoping for a chanel for my next birthday or by then we will have moved back to the US and I will have a job again-whichever comes first.
 
wife knows exactly what want,but she haven''t shock me yet.
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I prefer to buy my own jewelry. I get exactly what I want that way, and I won''t have to give it back to the man if things don''t work out.
 
Date: 11/15/2009 7:56:50 AM
Author: Madam Bijoux
I prefer to buy my own jewelry. I get exactly what I want that way, and I won''t have to give it back to the man if things don''t work out.
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Right on sister!
 
BF has bought me two lovely pieces of jewelry for xmas and our anniversary, and he knows my tastes pretty well.

I know he''s e-ring shopping, and I''ve showed him several pieces I''ve loved, so I know he''ll pick out something wonderful (not to mention the fact that he''s crazy about researching and getting the best for his money, so I know he''ll be doing some good digging on PS and other sites)...

But I''ve also bought myself other things I love. I''m planning on buying one of Sally''s Lotus rings or one of JKT''s amethyst and peridot rings as a gift for myself with the bonus money I received from work this year.

So I think for me it goes both ways!
 
The only jewelry my husband ever bought me without a lot of guidance was nautical in theme. Enough said?
 
LOL Lulu, your post is hilarious!

I definitely pick out and buy my own jewelry. Although my hubby knows my taste, he wouldn''t dare buy anything on his own because he knows it would take the fun out of it for me.
 
My husband use to buy me all my jewerly, but now I pick out anything that I want...
 
My husband is not a jewelery person. One holiday I desperately wanted a RHR eternity diamond band and DH knew it and instead he bought me a $1K LCD TV (which was the exact same price as the ring I wanted)

So, yep, I buy for myself. . .rarely though. If we have extra spending money, I will consider if I need something and then double check to make sure DH is okay with that. . .like when I bought my ACAs. . .he said "get the very best," and the budget is X amount. That''s fine by me.

I told him I''d like to find an OEC ring and so in a few months will hunt for one. Kind of my treat since he got his boat.
 
I get more excited when he says "baby, here''s some money, go buy what you want"
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He knows I''m too hard to buy jewelery for. Aside from my wedding band, he plays it safe and buys me pearls. (I''m not extremely picky about those...yet
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It goes both ways. Hubby will buy me something I have picked out. He won''t buy anything unless I pick it out, he knows how picky I am. It''s a win win for him because he gets me something and I love it, LOL!!!

But if there is something I want and no Birthday or Xmas is coming up will treat myself, with my own money.


But truth be told, we are both over the whole jewelry thing. I just gave my DD a pearl and Diamond choker that I haven''t worn in years. This was something I bought and really loved. But have no use for it now, and it looks amazing on my DD. She has an affair to go to soon, so it will be perfect.
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I do the research and pick it out and wait until I get the go ahead..now that I''ve gotten the go ahead, I''ll fret and fume about it until it''s finished and paid, that I''ve spent a lot of money on myself that isn''t necessary. Funny, he can spend $800 on a gun w/no second thoughts, and I hem and haw over a $30 pair of shoes until I''m sweaty and so anxious about taking money away from the family that I''m ready to throw up.

I do have a few pieces of jewelry I''m sentimental about, but the vast majority is just random things that aren''t important.
 
I used to wait for DH to buy me jewelry. I finally realized that it is perfectly o.k. to buy my own. I''m getting a lot more jewelry now.
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Date: 11/15/2009 4:37:12 PM
Author: packrat
I do the research and pick it out and wait until I get the go ahead..now that I''ve gotten the go ahead, I''ll fret and fume about it until it''s finished and paid, that I''ve spent a lot of money on myself that isn''t necessary. Funny, he can spend $800 on a gun w/no second thoughts, and I hem and haw over a $30 pair of shoes until I''m sweaty and so anxious about taking money away from the family that I''m ready to throw up.


I do have a few pieces of jewelry I''m sentimental about, but the vast majority is just random things that aren''t important.
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oh my word Pack, you and I are long lost "I can''t spend money on myself even if I do really need it" twins, lol. Last year I lost a significant amount of weight for my height, and none of my jeans fit. It was sooo bad, they felt like sweatpants they were that baggy. I just could not bring myself to buy new ones though. FI and my roommates had to drag me to the store to buy new pants
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He on the other hand, has no problem spending money. That''s not to say that he''s wasteful, he is just very conscious of what needs to be paid, how much he has left over, how much of that he should save, and how much we get to just enjoy. I aspire to be like that
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as to the OP''s question, I figure out what I like and he pays. He knows how much fun it is for me to do all the research behind something and then get to see the end result. He does love to take me into B&M stores though just to browse. Why you ask? because he likes to see the sales associates sweat when they realize I know my stuff- he thinks it''s hilarious
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I''m big on "buying it for yourself." While I love the rings BF has gotten for me, and the sapphire one he got me is the one I wear everyday, I also like getting myself stuff (plus I enjoy the process of finding a stone, then finding a setting and getting it all put together). And besides which, I''m still single (in the sense of not being married), young, and don''t have any commitments like a house or children, so why not?
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I do it =)

Fi is not a jewelry person, but he has great taste! Once in a while he will surprise me with a nice piece of jewelry, but mostly i buy my own. I love designing my next piece. Waiting for a JKT piece right now.
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DH is not into jewelry, after our first year of marriage, he bought a lifeless pair of earrings on our struggling budget
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so he reminds himself, even though I said there are a few online site that I said he can go ahead and shop from, he will wait until I have everything that I wanted on my own first, then maybe he will try againn much later in life.
 
I am going to make my first purchase for myself relatively soon, I think! I haven''t made a big jewelry purchase for myself ever, so I''m pretty excited about the possibility.
 
My DH has bought me very nice jewelry in the past for Christmas. But lately, since I've really been into colored stones I've been buying stones and then picking out settings for them which I really enjoy. He would not want to pick out loose stones for me.
 
I''m a very picky person when it comes to jewelry, and I''m also single, so I buy all of my jewelry for myself. And I buy A LOT of jewelry! I love that I can pick whatever I want and get exactly what I like. That being said, if someone else knew exactly what I wanted, it would be nice to receive it as a gift. My family just buys me gift certificates to Heart of Water Jewels.
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Date: 11/15/2009 1:35:11 AM
Author: qtiekiki
Most of my jewelry are surprise gift from DH. I do tell him what I like every now and then, when I see something. So far he had done quite well.
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Ditto - My FI is very good at choosing nice jewelry for me. When he bought my promise ring, ering and studs he surprised me with his knowledge of the 4Cs. The other day he said that I could upgrade my studs to a 1ct pair for my Christmas present - and I thought - where did that come from??? I''ve never mentioned upgrading them
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