CAD - yellow sapphire engagement ring

[greenie09]

Um, I just checked my email and my FI went ahead and ordered this without asking me...

 

[minousbijoux]

One of the things to think about if this helps at all is the flow of the ring. So if you look at Catmom's starting at the shank and moving towards the head, it has an simple but graceful taper leading up through the shields and connecting to the basket. This would help your ring and would eliminate the shoulder pad look. Right now, your ring has three distinct sections: 1) the pave shank; 2) the shields with or without the pave; and 3) the head with the sapphire. If you look at her lines they flow, and if you look at yours, they do not - the shank is one width and then the shields come in wider and above the shank with a clear separation, and then the shields don't directly attach to the head but first indent accentuating the difference between the diamond sides and the head - in other words, stopping the flow. Finally, the fact that the CAD design has created and artificial emerald or cut corner halo rather than following the outline of the cushion sapphire, also diminishes the elegance of flow.

It looks like you have a beautiful stone and there is nothing wrong with a big presentation stone like that - many would kill for it! But its so big on its own that by adding all the bells and whistles, it ends up looking more cocktailish than elegant. Perfectly good if thats what your goal is, but as someone has already pointed out, it will look less like an engagement ring.

I admit my bias which is that I am less about the masterpiece of the ring and more about the stone so I tend to go for a simpler look.

 

[pregcurious]

It will take several weeks probably before the ring is ready, so you can probably halt the order if you do so immediately.

 

[minousbijoux]

Ooh, I read your email after I wrote mine as we cross posted. Is there anyway you can ask them to hold off, or are you uncomfortable with that? Can you explain to your Fi or are you worried about hurt feelings?

You know what? worst case you end up with a big, bold statement ring. You wear it for a while, and then maybe change it out for something more "you" as many do over in Show me the Bling...

 

[greenie09]

Ooh, I read your email after I wrote mine as we cross posted. Is there anyway you can ask them to hold off, or are you uncomfortable with that? Can you explain to your Fi or are you worried about hurt feelings?

You know what? worst case you end up with a big, bold statement ring. You wear it for a while, and then maybe change it out for something more "you" as many do over in Show me the Bling...

I am very upset right now, which I am sure is not anyone's goal. I feel guilty, though, and I can't put my finger on why. We are doing this through a jeweler our family has used for decades. The thing is, she is very tasteful. In her store, she mainly carries Tacori and does custom pieces. I think my FI is the one being overexcited and causing this ring to look like it's on steroids. I also can't help but think of how young we are and what this costs.

When we went to try on rings the first couple times, she just did not like any of the simple settings. She liked big rings. She says she wants people to take one look at me and know I'm taken. It's very sweet; I'm just not sure it's what I want. For heaven's sake, I am working on a degree and wear jeans/khakis most of the time! I feel like this ring doesn't make any sense.

The funny thing is, I am also designing a ring for her, but hers is very simple and elegant! It's a brushed platinum band with channel set black diamonds.

 

[minousbijoux]

Its ironic to think that you may end up liking hers more and vice versa. I dunno, but good communication seems key in a marriage...I wish you wouldn't feel bad at all, but be able to gently talk to her...she sounds lovely, like she loves you to pieces and wants you to have the best and be happy. If that's the case, she'd probably want to know. Maybe she is the one who needs the fancy ring right now?

Please disregard my comments if they are too intrusive - just trying to buck you up and make you feel better as it should be a joyous time

 

[chrono]

An e-ring must also be pleasing to the wearer so if this design isn't YOU, please call the jeweller and halt it ASAP. As excited as your other half is, such an important piece cannot be rushed.

 

[Niel]

Ooh, I read your email after I wrote mine as we cross posted. Is there anyway you can ask them to hold off, or are you uncomfortable with that? Can you explain to your Fi or are you worried about hurt feelings?

You know what? worst case you end up with a big, bold statement ring. You wear it for a while, and then maybe change it out for something more "you" as many do over in Show me the Bling...

I am very upset right now, which I am sure is not anyone's goal. I feel guilty, though, and I can't put my finger on why. We are doing this through a jeweler our family has used for decades. The thing is, she is very tasteful. In her store, she mainly carries Tacori and does custom pieces. I think my FI is the one being overexcited and causing this ring to look like it's on steroids. I also can't help but think of how young we are and what this costs.

When we went to try on rings the first couple times, she just did not like any of the simple settings. She liked big rings. She says she wants people to take one look at me and know I'm taken. It's very sweet; I'm just not sure it's what I want. For heaven's sake, I am working on a degree and wear jeans/khakis most of the time! I feel like this ring doesn't make any sense.

The funny thing is, I am also designing a ring for her, but hers is very simple and elegant! It's a brushed platinum band with channel set black diamonds.

Tell your FI that. You really should be able to cancel it. I think a nice simpke three stone would be lovely with your lifestyle, more budgrt friendly, and prkbably makr you feel a bit more comfortable. Also, itll still say "taken!"

 

[Niel]

And i wanted to say dont feel bad. She just loves you and wants you to have something nice. Also maybe you just need to make hers more fancy?

 

[greenie09]

Its ironic to think that you may end up liking hers more and vice versa. I dunno, but good communication seems key in a marriage...I wish you wouldn't feel bad at all, but be able to gently talk to her...she sounds lovely, like she loves you to pieces and wants you to have the best and be happy. If that's the case, she'd probably want to know. Maybe she is the one who needs the fancy ring right now?

Please disregard my comments if they are too intrusive - just trying to buck you up and make you feel better as it should be a joyous time

No worries : )

She will get home soon, so hopefully we can come to a resolution! She is definitely wonderful, perhaps just displacing her excitement a little bit -- haha!

And i wanted to say dont feel bad. She just loves you and wants you to have something nice. Also maybe you just need to make hers more fancy?

I think you are right, too... Maybe she does want something more than what we currently have designed for her, but is displacing it onto me for some reason.

 

[chel180]

can you swap rings?