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Date: 4/24/2006 7:24:07 PM
Author: decodelighted
Two words: Euro Shank. (will help the spin issue)

No way, no how am I gonna talk a human guy out of getting his lucky LIW a nearly 9ct whopper.

Hush, girls, hush!
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Ha, Ha - Deco too funny.

We all need Dancing Fire to spout off the finger size rules NOW! Ok where is he??
 
Squasscher that''s just awesome! can''t wait to see the "little" bugger
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I agree 2mm band would probably be crushed by the sheer monstrousness of that boulder. I echo Diamondseeker2006''s advice though, my ering will be about 1/8 as big as much as I would love a 2ct I''m not sure I would go much bigger for daily wear...perhaps you could get a her a second daily wear ring and save the honker for special occasions. You certainly don''t want your sweetie to be a target for burglary when out alone.
 
Leadfoot, I do not want to rain on your parade. You have done so much research and planned so much...I am sure it is GORGEOUS and as you can tell I am a more is more type of girl so I have no argument on that score. I am just asking if you have considered life style daily and all that jazz...and the option of a pretty eternity band for her to wear in place of the honker if she feels like it is not appropriate to wear it occasionally...but know I think she is veyr lucky...
 
haha gals that is why I mentioned it.

When I saw what she expected to get, or rather what she said you two have looked at and costs, that made me realize that she could be blindsided, in a good way yes, but there is a VERY LARGE difference between expecting around a 1c and getting a 9c!! If that is in fact what she is expecting.

Trust me I don''t want to talk anyone out of anything!! I LOVE large stones, and a 9c would be a little hard to pull off, having tried on the 7c I don''t even know if I could do that but give me a nice 4c and I''m there! It''s all about lifestyle and what someone feels comfortable with. Anyway, just some food for thought!!!!
 
Yes Leadfoot -- after reading up some more about your lady (if indeed she is who we think she is), I''d think twice about SUCH a large stone. She sounds like a lovely, down to earth girl. And she''s still in her 20''s right? Like any newly engaged woman, she probably wants to be able to wear her new ring every day and to share it with her friends/family without hesitaton. But if it''s a 9 carat honker, she may feel embarrassed by its extravagance, and may in fact, feel unsafe wearing it on a daily basis. However, if she''s NOT the understated type and prefers haute couture fashions, luxury cars, carries luxury handbags, etc etc, then she may be "colorful" enough to carry off such a ring .
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It''s all about lifestyle. Does a 9 carat diamond fit in with her lifestyle, as well as her sense of style? Would she feel self-conscious wearing it?

It''s sweet and so touching that you want to show your love by sacrificing one of your most valuable, favorite cars to buy this ring. But with the proceeds, you could just as easily buy her a gorgeous 3 to 5 carat rock (still HUGE!!!) and pocket the savings for a future upgrade or a breathtaking 1st wedding anniversary gift.
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She might feel more comfy with something that she could wear on a daily basis without attracting the wrong kind of attention.

In my mind''s eye, I just see 9 carats on privileged women of a certain age (over 40). In a privileged woman between 30 and 40, I see a 3-6 carat stone. In a privileged woman under 30, I see a stone up to 4 carats, absolute max. Only one person''s opinion though!!!
 
Hi. To answer the original question, I would have the diamond set alone or with baguettes or 2 side stones at most. Pave'' can be distracting. As far as large stones looking better on ladies of a certain age goes, I''ve worn large stones since I was 21. (I''m 58 now.) It has nothing to do with age and everything to do with self-confidence.
 
Good point, MB. I thought of that as soon as I re-read my post. You can have the confidence to pull off a honker stone at any age.
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However, if his GF is who we think she is (in LIW), she seems more the low-key type and so it would also have to do with her style preferences. That is what most of us have been commenting on.
 
OOOh I wish I knew who you guys think it is. I''m no Nancy Drew. And I have no patience tonight. Clues?

I STILL think - AOK! Bring it on! Especially Squasshers ... they have a different kind of look than RB (I would NOT encourage a 9ct RB/pear/princess)

What were the dimensions?

(But I will say that if I was a 20 something .. I might prefer a 4 or 5 or 6 carat EC/SEC -- AND -- an awesome vertical EC eternity band like Marilyn Monroe had. I''d wear the eternity band every damn day ... and the WHOPPER whenever I felt safeish)
 
Date: 4/24/2006 7:28:20 PM
Author: Diam100

Date: 4/24/2006 7:24:07 PM
Author: decodelighted
Two words: Euro Shank. (will help the spin issue)

No way, no how am I gonna talk a human guy out of getting his lucky LIW a nearly 9ct whopper.

Hush, girls, hush!
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Ha, Ha - Deco too funny.

We all need Dancing Fire to spout off the finger size rules NOW! Ok where is he??
leadfoot didn''t post her ring size
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i know i could surely pull off a 5.5 cartier asscher...tee hee. even in my 20's.

9c is really big!!!!! but beautiful i am sure. i would LOVE all the thought that is going into it...BUT if you read her other threads...she knows about the sold car etc and she wasn't happy when it was done (there's your hint, lemon pie lover) so maybe she'd be a little sad that her fave car was sold to finance a 9c rock she didn't really want? just throwing stuff out here!! maybe she really does want a 9c, in which case....SWEET!

anyway, hopefully LF will check back in with us, we are all just talking to ourselves now.
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This could be like the O Henry story The Gift of the Maggi...She cuts her long hair and sells it to buy her dh a chain for his beloved pocket watch, and he sells his beloved pocket watch to buy combs for her beautiful long hair!!! What if she bought him an engagement gift for his beloved car? (I know I am reaching but I had to make it tie together!)...I agree that she might feel guilt or something having a big ring which may or may not be her style, knowing he sold the car to get it for her. She would likely be happy with almost anything, as long as it was from him!
 
Just like Della and Jim in their coldwater flat
 
Yes but DF''s size rules don''t apply with an Asscher, let alone a Squassher, he might say she can go even bigger!
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Good luck Leadfoot and welcome to PS
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Holy Crap, I just spent a ton of time replying to all of this, and then my computer decided it wanted to go back a page and now I lost what I had typed!!! CRAPOLA!!!!


GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!


Well, besides responding to each and every question posted, I know I was ranting and raving about my girl... and darn it, it was very eloquent. I just don''t have the time right now, I have a meeting in 15 minutes, and I don''t think I can make my post even half of what it was before the darn laptop decided it was time to go back a page!!

To quickly reply to most of the inquiries,

I had thought about using the baugettes like suggested, but I''m afraid that the ring would "spill" on to the next finger. No spillage.

Her ring size is a 5 1/2 - 3/4.

I like the idea of the split bands, I will have to look into this further, along with the "royal setting" thread.

And this stone will be her engagement ring stone. No upgrades, there are other fingers for other stones!
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I do have plans for another ring she can have the option of wearing, but i won''t give clues on that. Gotta keep some mystery!

I am truly sorry for the lack of time to post a reply this morning. And I am SO MAD that my original post was erased, it was a good one, and I was very proud of it!!! GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!
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For the record, I am usually in the office from about 9am to 230 or so, then I am out and about. i will do my best to post when I can!

Ooop, and about the "Lady in waiting" forum, I have concluded that that is, in fact, my girl. What a sneak. lol. We have cut off our ''net at the house, and I KNOW that she doesn''t browse the internet at work. They just got a nasty memo about people who are abusing their time in the workplace. I guess there was some babble about people bidding on stuff on ebay and missing meetings, and having things bought online shipped to the offices. I didn''t know missing a meeting while trying to get that toilet seat with an image of Jesus is a bad thing??? LOL!

Ok, not I am officially late. I will try to post my original post in a while!
 
I can''t wait to see what you have planned for the second ring. I like the split shank as well. Her ring size is a bit bigger than mine, so I can understand why she would not want something chunky. I don''t really like chunky bands either. :)
 

Ok, now that I have more time to re-write what was so horribly erased, I want to first say thank you to all the replies and thoughts here. I didn’t expect this many responses - so thank you all for your suggestions!


Here we go,


In regards to the eternity ring: She is against eternity-type rings, she said that they are too thick in between her fingers and are uncomfortable to wear. Otherwise I was thinking something Marilyn Monroe-ish. Good idea though!


Firegoddess: your ring is so sparkly! Your fiance did a great job. Did you help out with the ring process?


Albicocca: who made your setting? It is very dainty and I like the prongs with the stones set in them! Very cool!


Widget: I will have to check into the thread about the Royal Setting, I remember browsing a few pieces by Beaudry, but they seemed a bit to “blingy” for me. Still, very awesome pieces though. As noted before, I liked the idea of the sidestones, but I don’t want the ring to be a multi-finger mess. Diamondfan’s ring is a stunner though!


Mimikins, and others who posted about the LIW postings: thank you for the heads up! I would have never thought she knew about this site, one can never be too careful I guess. Especially when it comes to engagements and diamonds apparently! LOL!


KristyDarling: 8 weeks? I don’t know if even I can wait that long! Maybe I can bribe Leon with a bouquet of flowers and a singing telegram thing.. . . .??

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Windowshopper and Albicocca: I like the idea of the split bands a lot. Whoever posted that Leon piece found a very pretty ring. I’m not sure of the haloish type band of stones around the emerald though. Still, a very good idea!.


Jazmine: your ring is awesome! It’s a very unique way of setting the stone!! Very cool! How does that stirrup band work??


Decodelighted: euroshank,. . . . . .would the wedding band have to be euroshanked as well? Are they comfortable?


And to all who have concern about the stone size, I am positive it will be ok. I took her friends and her two sisters with me when I was looking at the stone choices, and had her older sister and her mom there with me when I decided on one. It is always nice to have a woman’s perspective on things! She is not one of those “name dropper” types, and is a pretty easy going gal - which I LOVE!!! Hmm, she has quite a few of the Louis Vuittons, all of my sisters chipped in with me to buy her a Hermes Birkin bag. ( untill I saw that interview where I think it was Kathy Gifford pronounced it correctly as ‘eeeeer-maaaaaaay” I thought it was pronounces “her-mess.”) She has a ton of jewelry. I have given her a promise ring with a tension set diamond of about .25cts, one of those circle of love pendants, 1ct tw d IF princess earrings, a pave heart and pave link toggle bracelet, the sapphire ring, and my all time favorite - a pair of pear dangle earrings set with micro pave halos. Hopefully they will keep Squassher in good company!


Ok, here is the ranting, raving and gloating part.

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To forwarn, I DID NOT re-read or spellcheck!
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I can’t say enough about my girl. She is amazing. She is. . . . . . .she is everything to me. She is the sunshine that I look forward to seeing when I get home from work, and that big bright smile every morning when I wake up. She packs me lunch, and instead of just one ham sandwich she packs two, both with extra cheese and the mayo on the cheese side, just how I like ‘em an leaves a note for me. She has rode with me half way across the country for car parts, sat in the pouring rain and the hot sun through car shows. She treats me, and everyone she meets with the courtesy and familiarity of an old old friend. When she smiles, you can’t help but grin. I know, I’ve tried to fight it! Lol! She has never asked me to change myself. She has accepted me for who I am, my weaknesses and faults and my strengths and accomplishments all in stride. She always says its not what you can get out of it, its how can you make it better. She is proud of who I am, and where I have come from, and she is always hopeful in me and us for the future. She never once put me down for doing what I do, getting my hands dirty in manual work. She loves that I am passionate for what I do, she has seen all the stress of starting this business up, and has never once complained. She can come out to the shop at night and not be afraid to get her hands dirty, but then an hour later, change into jeans and a sweater and look like she stepped out of a magazine and never miss a beat. (All of you women never cease to amaze me!) She has never asked me to compromise who I am, to change because others think that I should carry myself “equally” to her. She knows how much I have had to struggle to get to where I am. I have a quote form an email she sent me a long time ago when I was having a super downer of a day. “If you didn’t have those hardships in life and have not had to crawl over hurdles, you probably wouldn’t be who you are right now. You scrimped and scrapped and have dealt with a lot of stuff, and in the end you have always found out that you can make it through, a better person than when you went in, and I will always love you more for that.” She has been my rock, my support. I didn’t know how to be emotional, to be vulnerable. She has shown me that not saying anything at all can be just as important as conversation. I was never taught that it was acceptable to be a man and cry, she has opened me to a whole new way of feeling. She knows how to turn my day around,, even if its just a smack on the rear, and a goofy grin. She is everything I could want. This ring is not just an engagement ring, it is a promise. A promise that I will make every day a better day than yesterday. A promise that I will always be there through thick and thin and always love her more. A promise that I will strive to be a better man for her, and our family. To me, it’s not a ring, it’s a symbol of what has been, and what will be. I want her to be proud to be my wife, because God knows I am so proud to have her in my life. I can’t wait!

 
LF your paragraph about your girl made me get all teary eyed. damn you!!!
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just curious but what prompted you to get your darling lady a 9c stone? esp when she is expecting a 1c. how do you make that mental jump? i''m just wondering if there was a turning point where you said DAMN i just HAVE to get her a 9c stone. i want to see if i can your tactics on my darling hubby at some point.
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enlighten us oh wise one.
 
Leadfoot -- if I weren''t already happily married, I''d ask if you have a twin brother.
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Your lady is so lucky to have such a sweet guy. You are clearly head-over-heels passionately in love....and definitely meant for each other.

Yay for bringing along her friends/family on your stone search. Other than bringing your GF herself, they are your best bet for finding the perfect diamond and setting!

Best of luck and pretty please...won''t you at least spill 1 or 2 hints about the second ring you have planned??? You can''t just mention it here on this forum of rabid diamond-lovers and NOT give at least a few details!

Have you decided on which setting or designer you''re gonna go with?
 
I''m with Mara, I want to know how you went from about 1 ct. to a 9. Do tell. It sounds like you have done your research, and she will love it. She sounds like a wonderful woman. You know, I have yet to actually see one of these Birkin bags. I have only heard about them from that Oprah fiasco.

I, like your girl, do not like the way that the eternity bands feel. For whatever reason, they feel uncomfortable to me (maybe I''m trying the wrong ones). They sure do look pretty though. I posted about two rings in the show me the rock forum, and some people were suggesting an eternity band instead of two rings to wear when I don''t want to be as formal or dressed up. For me, it isn''t a comfortable alternative.
 
"oh wise one..........." can you make that my legal title?

I don''t mean to cause any tears here, I just love her to the point of sappy songs and long overdrawn outbursts of sincerity!
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When did I decide to go for the gold......................I think it was when we first started talking about rings a while back. She said something about not wanting to ever change out her original stone. Which I like, to me it holds a sentiment that another stone can''t replace. As noted, there are 9 other fingers to put rings on!! One of the ladies she works with rocks a very very very large emerald with pave craziness everywhere. I happened to be at a function where they were all talking diamonds, and "Miss Super-Stone" let my girl try her rings on, and I have never seen her face light up with sparkle as much as that day. She looked like a little girl getting her first Barbie. it was so fun! So then on, I decided that I was going to get her that dream ring she hoped for. An engagement ring, to me, is the gift of all gifts. I want it to be special and unrivaled. I have a small project on the side for a "daily driver" of a ring that she can wear when she feels, but this is my promise to her, and in one way, my sacrifice to her!
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She has seen me spend a lot on sports cars, and now I want to spend it on something just for her. I don''t know where she got the idea of a 1ct stone, really, when we were looking at stones, I just wanted to get a feel for the shape, and if she was color-sensitive and would be against anything less than a D-IF, which in that case, would have produced a much much smaller stone! The stones she tried on ranged from about 1ct to 2 1/2 and was sure to not talk price or size. i just let her oooh and ahhhhh over the baubles and took mental notes!
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Now I certainly don''t feel bad for having 2 engagement rings. This weekend I posted about my fiance giving me a 4 ct. round brilliant and a smaller 1.21 carat round brilliant as well. If you go to show me the ring and see the post about being self conscious, you will see a variety of responses, some implying that I''m frivolous and silly to being a very lucky girl. For a variety of reasons, she might not want to wear that 9 ct. ring all of the time. She will probably get more used to it, as I will to mine. You collect cars, and she collects bags and jewelry :). Everyone has their own "thing."

I can''t wait to see it on her finger, and I''m curious about the second ring too.
 
Oprah had a fiasco with Hermes? I''m out of the loop and have no clue what the fiasco was?


Ok, ok, all I can say about The Secret Ring.................................................think along the lines of Wizard of Oz.....




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Hi! I think Oprah went to the Hermes store possibly around closing time and they didn''t recognize her and wouldn''t let her in.
 
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