Can a diamond be too big???

[codex57]

Date: 10/11/2006 3:39:06 PM
Author: mypak

I was kind of thinking that last night too....better to get what she wants regardless if I think is too big, etc. than something I''m comfy with (at the moment) and wish I could''ve gotten the 2.0 in retrospect...make her happy up front

Yes! I was all confused as to what to get. I had my own opinions. I was mainly lurking on here before I bought the ring and the overwhelming consensus I got from the ladies on here was that toss whatever you think is important out the window. This is HER ring so if you''re lucky enough to know how she feels about her e-ring, just go with that.

I did, and I''m STILL getting brownie points for the ring cuz I stuck to getting features I know she wanted instead of me trying to be cute and unique.

 

[mypak]

Date: 10/11/2006 2:30:14 PM
Author: emeraldlover
Hi,

Well, there''s no wrong or right answer. Personally, I think diamond size depends more on the hand. Some hands, no matter what ring size, can carry it off and some look a little overwhelmed. At 2 carats it''s not too much of an issue, IMO, especially if that''s what she likes.
Also, people worry about flashiness, but to me, flashiness comes from the attitude of the general person, more how she/he wears something and less what that thing is. Anyway, that''s all subjective--what''s important is that she gets a ring that''s closest to the ring of her dreams.

Good luck!

just re-read your response and I think you hit the mark...thanks.

 

[mia15]

You're very welcome.

It sounds like your fiancee will have an amazing ring to look forward to!

 

[mypak]

Date: 10/11/2006 5:33:57 PM
Author: Lynn B

Date: 10/11/2006 5:22:50 PM
Author: mypak

I hope I describe it correctly but it''s like a bezel setting....it is round and has diamods on the round part on the top....also the band is pave half-way around....given this type of setting, I think it should look even bigger than a 2 which is why my male mind rationalized that a smaller one would suffice but I was ''shot down''....

LOL! You are such a BOY! That''s called a ''halo'' setting!

(ETA: Kaleigh and I were posting at the same time!)

Yes, apparently it is....geez, I should probably know exactly what I''m buying....

 

[mypak]

Date: 10/11/2006 5:43:24 PM
Author: emeraldlover
I forgot to congratulate you, Mypak!

Thank you, emeraldlover....never thought I''d be this close...

 

[mypak]

Date: 10/11/2006 5:57:40 PM
Author: KristyDarling
If she shot down the smaller-diamond-with-halo idea, then I would definitely avoid it. 2 carats on someone your GF''s size would be beautiful. You say that you can afford the ring -- that is KEY. Do the other couples in your social circles have e-rings smaller than 2 carats, or more? If you''re the first to go that big, then of course you''ll feel a bit bashful about it at first. But just remember that your GF''s happiness with the ring is the most important thing. (no one else is going to be wearing it but her) It may seem ridiculous to you at this point to sink that much money into a gemstone, but believe you me, after it''s done and the ring is on her finger, everything will become clear and you''ll be so glad you listened to her preferences.

Oh, and if you get snarky comments, you could just say light-heartedly, ''I did a lot of homework and I had no idea that a guy like me could afford a ring like this!'' Or you could grin and make a joke out of it, ''You''d be amazed at how much high quality CZs cost these days!'' If you don''t ACT weird about it, then other people won''t THINK weird about it!!!

Yes, I''m gonna avoid that...I''ve said it half-jokingly a couple times and she didn''t think it was funny at all...I like teasing her so I''d say that a smaller diamond will look bigger in that setting and how I was so lucky b/c she''s so petite b/c a smaller diamond will look bigger on her....her reply? "well in that case a 2.0 will look like a 3.0 which is even better!" geeez, I can''t win...

well it''s weird, I mean for example my mom and sister have never had a ring/diamond that big/nice so I guess I feel kinda weird about buying it for my gf but I don''t think that''s a good way to rationalize.....also in my social setting, it''d definitely be one of the nicer rings although she has a few friends with 2.0s....but like you said all that really matters if she''s happy with it...

that''s cool...I feel like you (as well as everyone else) really understand where I''m coming from...those are some good lines, I may use them....

thanks again...

 

[mypak]

Date: 10/11/2006 7:05:15 PM
Author: codex57

Date: 10/11/2006 3:39:06 PM
Author: mypak

I was kind of thinking that last night too....better to get what she wants regardless if I think is too big, etc. than something I'm comfy with (at the moment) and wish I could've gotten the 2.0 in retrospect...make her happy up front

Yes! I was all confused as to what to get. I had my own opinions. I was mainly lurking on here before I bought the ring and the overwhelming consensus I got from the ladies on here was that toss whatever you think is important out the window. This is HER ring so if you're lucky enough to know how she feels about her e-ring, just go with that.

I did, and I'm STILL getting brownie points for the ring cuz I stuck to getting features I know she wanted instead of me trying to be cute and unique.

Exactly...I don't wanna start getting cute and creative then end up second-guessing myself....she mentions often how she "misses" her ring and when we're in the car I can see out of the corner of my eye that she occasionally looks down at her (currently) ringless finger...

 

[Dee*Jay]

When my now-husband and I got engaged I had a 1.33 ct pear with small side pears. We went to visit my (now) MIL right after we got engaged and her response to my ring was "OH MY GAWWWWWD!!!"

Mypak, you will never please all of the people, so just *please* your girlfriend and smile sweetly at those who give you snarky comments!

 

[mypak]

Date: 10/11/2006 6:29:45 PM
Author: Miranda

Date: 10/11/2006 5:22:50 PM
Author: mypak

Date: 10/11/2006 4:26:45 PM
Author: Miranda
If she likes that size, get it! I''m just a touch smaller than your girlfriend and I think 2 ct. is the perfect size for me. It is substantial without being gaudy IMO. I have a 1.2 oval in a halo right now and I think the center stone is too small. How are you going to set it??? That can make the difference between understated and showy...Not that there''s anything wrong with showy!!!

I hope I describe it correctly but it''s like a bezel setting....it is round and has diamods on the round part on the top....also the band is pave half-way around....given this type of setting, I think it should look even bigger than a 2 which is why my male mind rationalized that a smaller one would suffice but I was ''shot down''....

Sounds like a halo to me. Hello bling!!! There are lots of them here. Here''s one thread https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/show-me-your-rings-with-halos.27882/

Yes...thanks for the info...it''s a platinum halo setting, 1.5 cts of diamonds on the halo, half pave and the eternity wedding band itself....

It actually looks pretty much like the ring in your link above (2nd page, posted by "sevens one" at 4/21/05, 10:23 am"...it says "chicagohills" in the post...

when we looked at it with a diamond placed in the setting, it looked nice and not as gawdy as I thought it would...

 

[diamondfan]

Keep in mind your lifestyle, career etc, and know that a tastefully pretty stone is not likely to be gaudy. It really depends on what she wants and what you can afford, hopefully it coincides. Of course some people can carry anything easily, and it suits their situation, so that is what I would focus on. The setting and shape will also help keep it more tasteful, since you can kind of go any direction with that!

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 10/11/2006 2:20:43 PM
Author:mypak
Some may view as a ''dumb'' question....but looking at a 2.0 ct for my girlfriend''s e-ring...she''s very petite, about 5''2'', 110 lbs and a size 4 ring.....

well obviously to her, it''s the right size...to me, I just don''t want it too look too gaudy/showy b/c that''s just kind of how I am...

Just wondering what your opinions are here...is there such a thing? not even sure why it''s on my mind.....I personally just don''t wanna be too showy, etc.

Showy, gaudy, blingy, obnoxious, pretentious, ridiculous, whatever - those are judgments. Who cares about judgments. They aren''t real. They mean nothing unless you give them the power to. What IS real is practicality. If 2 carats won''t get in her way - why the heck not? Cocktail rings are one thing - but if I can''t wear my marriage rings 24/7 THEN it''s too big. You can''t judge size based on what you *think* others will think.

 

[kcoursolle]

If you are really concerned about a 2 carat diamond with a halo, keep the halo very very thin. I think it will be fine then.

 

[Miranda]

Mypak - This ring is going to be fantastic. Please post pics after you get engaged!!!

 

[mypak]

Date: 10/11/2006 11:05:28 PM
Author: Miranda
Mypak - This ring is going to be fantastic. Please post pics after you get engaged!!!

I will...thanks for your comments and thoughts....