No, of course not everything a child does is the parents fault--thats a absolutely stupid notion, and one no one believes.
I am not being "flip"...he feels guilty...thats the facts.
I was talking to one of my best friends about this. She''s straight as an arrow, doesn''t smoke, drink, or do drugs, goes to church, works at a church, probably returns her library books on time too . . . and her brother is in prison for armed robbery and drug convictions.
Thank you.Date: 1/23/2009 11:55:35 AM
Author: Ellen
My prayers go out to this family. Regardless of what they did, or didn''t do ''right'' according to any of us, I will bet the farm they never thought they''d be faced with this situation.
Having a child doesn''t automatically make one a good parent, anymore than a 16 year old getting their drivers licence makes them a good driver. It takes some practice, and often some near misses/accidents to get a grip on things. Most go on to be good drivers, but some don''t. They just never get a handle on things.
So too, in most cases, parents find their groove and go on to raise a child with their best interest at heart, even if that means making tough choices. But again, some don''t, for whatever reason. I am certain though, no matter what ''mistakes'' a parent may make, do they ever dream they are raising a potential sociopathic killer. And chastising them now, makes about as much sense as chastising a 45 year old driver who just had their 11th wreck and is laying on their deathbed in the hospital.
What is the point?
From a mother of 3.
Okay, enough is enough...yes, my family knows the pain of losing a child....many years ago my half sister, who was 3 years old at the time was killed in a furnance fire, and believe me, my father has never been same again. So I understand a small part of the loss they feel, believe me, I sure a heck do. And from what we've lived through within our family, I can tell you first hand that the pain is like nothing else...my father mourns his daughter every single day...so I get that, I understand that. But never once did my father stand in the way of the investigation or falsify evidence or mislead investigators. He would have never dreamt of giving a dogs tooth brush when the forensic teams was trying to identify Amy (although, DNA wasn't available at the time this happened).
I could go along with all that, but I personally find that hard to believe when they spent months trying to mislead investigators...even after it had come out that their daughter had lied about practically everything.
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