Christmas/anniv necklace - should I keep it?

[that_someone_special]

I think it''s very pretty. If you want to get a ton of use out of it, then return it. I, personally, probably wouldn''t just because I like it and think that when guys pick things out on their "own" it''s sentimental and cute. But that''s just me. Def return it if you were thinking about something else... but maybe get his input on the new item too?? So he still feels included in his anniversary too???

 

[gemgirl]

I really think that if you don''t "love" it? You should exchange for something you will love and enjoy every time you put it on.
I have lots of jewelry that I bought ten and fifteen and more years ago, but I love my pieces and most everything I own gives me that same happy/pleased/proud feeling every time I wear it, no matter how long it''s been in my jewelry box. You should really love and enjoy your treasures. Besides, money is too valuable these days.

 

[dotb]

Date: 12/29/2008 3:12:08 PM
Author: geckodani
Honestly... if you don''t think you''ll wear it often - I''d take it back and get something you love!

Thanks, gecko. I think that''s good advice; I do want to be able to wear it often, and this I don''t think I would.

 

[dotb]

Date: 12/29/2008 3:15:03 PM
Author: tourmaline_lover

If you have to ask people's opinions on it because you're unsure, that must tell me you're not particularly crazy about it. Is that the case? If so, I would return it. JMO. I collect tourmalines, so if you want my honest and true opinion, the tourmalines look very murky in the picture, and not well cut. However, it could look much better in real life than it does from a picture, it's so hard to tell from a picture sometimes. I like ornate designs, so the design appeals to me, but I'm not so sure if the stones match up to the ornate appeal. I hope that makes sense. I hope it wasn't too expensive.

Thanks, TL. That's a good point, if I have to ask, then it's probably not the best choice. Also, your feedback on the tourmalines is helpful. Wish i could show it to you in person. But that's the other thing, hubby & I are somewhat clueless as to the quality.

When you say, "I like ornate designs, so the design appeals to me, but I'm not so sure if the stones match up to the ornate appeal.", do you mean, like tourmalines are not the best stone for such an ornate design, or that the quality of these isn't up to the ornate design, or something like that?

Also, when you mention "too expensive", what would be an appropriate price for this piece, assuming either the tourmalines are not great quality, or maybe also what would be the appropriate price if they were fabulous tourmalines?


p.s. to everyone else who replied - I appreciate your feedback, and will reply some more when I get time. Thanks!

 

[Sizzle]

Date: 12/29/2008 1:04:11 PM
Author:dotb
Hubby bought me this necklace, he said especially in anticipation of our anniversary, which is not for a few months, but I guess also as partially a Christmas gift. But he always makes sure things are returnable, in case it''s not what I''d like etc.. So I''m running it past you before the return deadline - what do you think? Would you wear it? How would you wear it? What would you wear it with?

It consists of several tourmalines - a teardrop shaped rose colored one at top, an oval, more smoky-pinky sort of color, and a briolette that looks gray in some light, but has a greenish tinge in other light. The stones are pretty - although I know almost nothing about how to judge them - w/ a loupe you can see sort of scratchy thingys inside - can''t think how to describe - but that may be normal for this stone. Also, above the center stone, the top is yellow gold w/ the pave diamonds, but then above that, the straight bar, is white gold. Do you think that is nice, or a weird feature?

Also, the loop that holds it onto the chain - it is wide & is actually a clasp, so that you can put it on a pearl necklace. Kindof a neat feature. But then I wonder - will the clasp ever come undone unintentionally and fall off? Also, because of the large diameter of that loop, it kinda wants to lean to the side when it''s on a chain. (w/ pearls it would probably stay straighter)

I''ll try to get a picture of it on pearls. Sorry these photos are lousy, but my macro feature on my camera doesn''t work right now. ugh.

Anyway, do give me honest feedback. I think it is pretty, but don''t know how wearable it is, or if I should go for something more versatile like diamond earrings or something?

I am not a fan of the style at all. That being said, I tend to be a simple person when it comes to jewelry. Do you think it would hurt his feelings if you returned it?

 

[dotb]

Date: 12/29/2008 3:48:46 PM
Author: mochi
Do you want a unique and special thing that your husband picked that stays in a box or would you rather that he picks something else that you can wear and look at during the day that makes you think about your husband? Maybe if you gave him a few pictures of jewelry that appeals to you, he can trade it in for something similar?

Thanks, mochi; good point. That was my thought also, that although unique & special it would sit in a box more often than not, whereas diamond earrings might not be unique but they sure would get more use! Good idea about giving him pictures; actually a lot of things about this necklace do "appeal to me" but in a "sitting in a box" sort of way!

I did mean to write up some ideas w/ pictures for my Christmas list, in case he did think of jewelry, but didnt'' get time. I think he''s going to let me just go shopping to find something I like better for this case. Something in the same price range.

 

[dotb]

Date: 12/29/2008 9:11:12 PM
Author: Steel

Date: 12/29/2008 1:46:10 PM

Author: dotb

Thanks MGR! Yes, that is one of the things i like about it, is that it is unique & special because he picked it. But he does always make sure it''s returnable because he knows I am picky, and wouldn''t want me to keep it if I didn''t think I''d wear it. So I don''t think he will be too hurt. (But it does always make me feel kinda bad to reject something he picked.) But like you, I think I''d get a lot more wear out of something like diamond earrings, which I don''t have. Or even a simpler necklace, if I could find a nice one. Like I said, I think if this necklace were just from here down (see pic), w/ WG instead of YG at that top part, I''d get more use out of it.

It is sooo hard to return something that your SO chooses. You want to commend them for being romantic and spontaneous. And you can. But more often than not unless they are spontaneous from a ''pre-selected wish list'' you have to have that awkward ''errr yes thank you, no really I love it''.....

conversation. If you are like me, then you worry about how much he spent and how that would have bought x, y or z from the wish list. I have convinced DH to stick to the wish list. Well... more or less

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It is your choice and either way your DH deserves cuddles for trying.

Yes Steel, you are so right! Because I do like it when he''s being romantic & spontaneous. And so far when he''s bought me earrings, I''ve kept them & gotten good use out of them. And so right about the "how much he spent & what we could have gotten w/ the money" - he doesn''t really take time to research it. Also right about the cuddles!