Comments about your engagement ring being....?

[whosurdaddy]

Do people ever come up to you and comment on your engagement ring?

What are the nicest or the rudest comments you've received? Have you ever intentionally not worn your ring at some occasions to avoid comments? (please include some basic 4C states.)

 

[TracyBear]

Nicest: "It's so sparkly!" "He did good!" I honestly don't get many compliments on my ring.



Rudest: However, I get an onslaught of negative comments from friends and random people on the street all the time.

"Do you know that you're wearing a child's blood?"
"How do you sleep at night knowing that you're supporting child labor?"
"Have you ever watch "Blood Diamonds," you should really watch that movie sometimes."
"What? You guys only paid that much for your online diamond? We paid a lot more for ours at ::insert physical store::. Your diamond is probably a blood diamond."
"He bought you a G color diamond? I bought my wife an E color because the G was too yellow. I would rather go for quality over quantity any day."
"It's nice, but it's not Tiffany's."


Funniest comment:
Colleague when speaking pretentiously about her diamond, "I consider my diamond to be like real estate." I told her that diamond aren't considered good investment until you hit the 6 digits. If she wanted to put it in real estate form, our diamonds combined would be like "mailboxes" on someone's else real estate. Then she finally shut up. I hate pretentious people.

 

[jmarshall]

"Do you know that you're wearing a child's blood?"
"How do you sleep at night knowing that you're supporting child labor?"
"Have you ever watch "Blood Diamonds," you should really watch that movie sometimes."
"What? You guys only paid that much for your online diamond? We paid a lot more for ours at ::insert physical store::. Your diamond is probably a blood diamond."

And they make this assumption based on????????

 

[TracyBear]

And they make this assumption based on????????

Their ignorance. Many people think that all diamond are mined in Africa and that they're founded on the sweat, tears, blood of children and war.

 

[momhappy]

Since I got my halo (1.6 ct center stone), I get random compliments all the time. I think that it's because while halo settings may be quite popular in general, there aren't many where I live, so that makes it unique. The only negative comment I got was when someone said that the sun was hitting my ring and it was blinding them, but it was more of a joke and not meant as an insult (or if it was, I didn't take it that way). I've never not worn my ring for fear of what others might say. I have taken it off for safety reasons though (like walking the streets of New Orleans at night).

 

[Ally T]

Tracey, I am shocked at those comments?? That would absolutely make my blood boil!

I get nice comments about my pear quite often because its quite unusual to see one where I live & its pretty big on my finger - most of the women here are RB types, which HAVE to be Tiffany regardless of size or specs. Don't get me wrong, i adore Tiffany & have a few pieces from there myself which i treasure And sometimes I catch my friends husbands quietly checking out my hand knowing that they hadn't really put very much thought into their own engagement ring purchase, or they ask to have a closer look & quietly nod their heads in approval / jealousy

I never really take my rings off - they have even just been for a very sweaty run

 

[liaerfbv]

Yes. Mostly when I'm out, girls will ask to see my ring or say they love it, etc.

I've never gotten any rude comments, but I have gotten "looks." I don't particularly think my ring is ostentatious or anything (2.2ct OEC in a jbeg solitaire setting). If someone doesn't tell me they love it, they normally ask if my husband picked it out himself. Although he didn't, I typically just give him credit and say something like "Yes, he has great taste," because I'm not explaining my life to a stranger.

I don't wear my ring when we are traveling, when I go to the flea market, thrift store, or the beach.

 

[TracyBear]

Tracey, I am shocked at those comments?? That would absolutely make my blood boil!

The people around here think themselves as "intellectuals" who are above worldly goods, so they tend to look down on our decision to purchase a mined diamond for ethical reasons. These same saintly people drive imported cars to work everyday and wear alligators shoes so they're not exactly living in a straw hut wearing loin cloth for humanity's sake if you know what I mean. If you're going to be a hypocrite, then I don't take your opinions seriously.

 

[SB621]

Nicest Comments (from my Grandma please include horrific southern accent when reading)- SBBBBBB What a purdyyyy ring!!! Why I declare I have never seen such a purdy ring before. Everyone come look at this ring. Come look at SB's ring!!!!" It went on and on for a quite a while. Love my grammy! She is a true Southern bell.

People don't usually make rude comments about my ring especially since I haven't had it very long. Due to the size I think most people assume it is fake. I just in general get alot of people starring. Some people have commented on the color and asked about that, but I know that is more personal preference. I love the romantic look of lower colors but others probably call them hideous or dirty. My own father commented to one of my cousins that I probably got the lower color because it was cheaper (he has issues with my husband). That was rather hurtful but more so because it was coming from my dad.

5.06ct N/O VVS Antique cushion

 

[TracyBear]

Nicest Comments (from my Grandma please include horrific southern accent when reading)- SBBBBBB What a purdyyyy ring!!! Why I declare I have never seen such a purdy ring before. Everyone come look at this ring. Come look at SB's ring!!!!" It went on and on for a quite a while. Love my grammy! She is a true Southern bell.

People don't usually make rude comments about my ring especially since I haven't had it very long. Due to the size I think most people assume it is fake...My own father commented to one of my cousins that I probably got the lower color because it was cheaper (he has issues with my husband). That was rather hurtful but more so because it was coming from my dad.

5.06ct N/O VVS Antique cushion

Your grammy sounds awesome! A 5.06ct N/O VVS diamond is not going to be "cheap" by any means.

 

[CharmyPoo]

I have only ever received positive comments on my ring. I don't think anyone has been rude enough to say anything bad.

"That's the most beautiful ring I have ever seen."
"My husband has to talk to yours."
"It is so delicate. Where did you get it?"
"That is massive on your finger. I am blinded."
"That is just what I have always wanted. I am so jealous."
"I usually hate diamonds but I love yours and I love the history." <- regarding my OEC from a friend who has a sapphire e-ring.

 

[distracts]

I get a ton of comments... my favorite is "Damn, that's some Titanic shit!" referencing the Heart of the Ocean. lol. People are also always telling me it's the nicest sapphire they've ever seen, and that my ring is really big and sparkly. I've never gotten a negative comment.

 

[whosurdaddy]

I get a ton of comments... my favorite is "Damn, that's some Titanic shit!" referencing the Heart of the Ocean. lol. People are also always telling me it's the nicest sapphire they've ever seen, and that my ring is really big and sparkly. I've never gotten a negative comment.

That comment is hilarious!! I can almost picture the guy who said it.

 

[GliderPoss]

I always get "Wow that is an unusual/wierd/unique Emerald/Aquamarine!?!"... Its a parti sapphire that shows mainly green but also pale blue or yellow-green depending on the lighting situation.

If I tell them, next response is always "A sapphire? I thought all sapphires are blue"... So little time, so many uneducated!

 

[msop04]

I get a ton of comments... my favorite is "Damn, that's some Titanic shit!" referencing the Heart of the Ocean. lol. People are also always telling me it's the nicest sapphire they've ever seen, and that my ring is really big and sparkly. I've never gotten a negative comment.

This is great!! "Heart of the Ocean"... I'd be so flattered!! (but it's GORGEOUS, so...)

I haven't had any negative comments per se, but more than a couple of looks -- not sure if positive or negative! LOL Most of the time, I get, "...your ring is so pretty! He must love you!" or "... I love your ring... did you pick it out or did he??" Once at a wedding shower from my extended family, a great aunt (who is about 12 years older than I am) said very loudly, "...so, what size is your center stone -- like 3 carats??!!" I was a pretty uncomfortable, as I'm sure my ring is one if the larger ones (if not the largest) in the family. It's like, what the Hell do you say to that?? UGH, how tacky??!! I just laughed and said, "oh, no, not 3 carats..." and left it at that.

I did pick it out, but I just smile and say something along the lines of, "...yeah, he was really good to me." My husband doesn't like the attention AT. ALL. He says it embarrasses him. Whatevs. For the most part, I love it! HA!

 

[Laila619]

I get stuff like "it's so pretty" or "it's so sparkly."

 

[rosetta]

My ring gets no attention at all. Maybe I should go bigger!

 

[athenaworth]

I really don't get a lot of comments on my ring except from PSers. But I did have one girl grab my hand and show it to her boyfriend and say, "memorize this! It's EXACTLY what I want." That made up for all of the negative stuff I hear (mostly from my mom).

 

[nicoleanne]

I have a pretty modest ring, so I don't get a lot of comments about it, but there are a few funny ones I remember. The first was that my husband's aunt said, "it's so round!" which I guess must be a function of the bezel.

The second was a girl I knew who looked at it and goes, "oh, it's cute." Which was a little insulting to me at the time, but she got engaged shortly after with this really ugly/dated thing from a pawn shop. I wasn't so bothered after that.

The last is that my sister in law was over once and we were cooking dinner together. She noted how sparkly my ring was. Then she looked at hers and said, "hmm... I guess I need to clean mine." Hers is a 1ct heart shape in a Tiffany style setting.

 

[whosurdaddy]

My ring gets no attention at all. Maybe I should go bigger!

Your 3 stone is Amazing! How is that possible!!?

 

[Dancing Fire]

One time a stranger asked my wife if her ring was real.

 

[SB621]

I get a ton of comments... my favorite is "Damn, that's some Titanic shit!" referencing the Heart of the Ocean. lol. People are also always telling me it's the nicest sapphire they've ever seen, and that my ring is really big and sparkly. I've never gotten a negative comment.

THAT is awesome! Please put that in your signature!!!! Just hiliarious!!!!

 

[rosetta]

My ring gets no attention at all. Maybe I should go bigger!

Your 3 stone is Amazing! How is that possible!!?

It's true. I live I the UK and people really just don't comment. Maybe they think it's rude?! I don't think it's rude people: I'm going to wear a sign that says "Please compliment my ring. Thank you in advance"

 

[nowicanseethemoon]

I don't have a ring anymore (divorced) but I am really enjoying this thread!

 

[Nyc2chigal]

I've gotten comments about how pretty it is, and how they want one like it when they get engaged ( sweet!).
I haven't gotten any negative comments (yet).
Except for one that seemed a bit.. off.
The comment came from a family member saying that she would like to buy one as a right hand ring..Not sure how I should've taken that..

 

[SB621]

I've gotten comments about how pretty it is, and how they want one like it when they get engaged ( sweet!).
I haven't gotten any negative comments (yet).
Except for one that seemed a bit.. off.
The comment came from a family member saying that she would like to buy one as a right hand ring..Not sure how I should've taken that..

Yup I can see how that can be a comment that went either way. However, I know for me, that I when I tell someone I would buy XYZ that is the HIGHEST form of compliment/ flattery I can give. So take it as a good thing!

 

[lovebug1031]

I can't stop looking it's so sparkly or something along those lines....the handful of times people have said that to me have been in lowly lit bar type places! My ring isn't huge by any means and I don't think people judge me, the only time I get a little "defensive" is if I'm in a jewelry store and they want to clean it or something - I feel like i have to explain that I WANTED a lower color (O/P)...

 

[missy]

Some compliments I have received:
1. my husband must really love me (he does)
2. I'm a lucky girl (I am)
3. Wow! That's an amazing ring (it is but I am a bit biased lol and I know it is not everyone's cup of tea) and how do I keep my hand up from the weight lol.

Interestingly enough I think I got more compliments with my original diamond but I really think that was because the setting was very blingy (shared prong eternity) and the average person doesn't see past all the blingy diamond brilliance to the actual stone/facets/cut.

The biggest compliments I have received are from people who know diamonds.

One was in a jewelry store we had never been to and the elderly jeweler was answering my dh's question about something (watch related) and he caught a glimpse of my ring and did a double take and took a closer look with his loupe (after asking if he may lol) and he said that is some ring and do I know how old it must be and how beautiful. I felt it was a sincere compliment (and he knew we weren't buying anything there anyway so it's not like he was trying to butter us up).

And another very nice compliment was by 2 jewelers we know well who noticed it right away, louped it and said it is a gorgeous ring.
I know these women very well and they have only ever been truthful with me. They know I am very discriminating when it comes to jewelry (and many other things) and they have never steered me wrong. In fact they have dissuaded me from making a few largish purchases from them in the past decade when they feel a piece isn't up to my standards and special enough. Let's face it not every piece in a store is going to be amazing and I appreciate their candor. They have always done right by me. They also knew we had just purchased the ring and I was within the return period but they gave it the green light (and keep in mind they sell old cut diamonds as well) and said it was a gorgeous ring. They also compared it to some of the large old cuts they had there to see how my diamond (GIA cert) compared to a few of theirs that they were about to send to GIA.

I have never received any negative feedback (at least to my face or any that I am aware of) regarding my ring. The worst thing was my aunt telling me with a beautiful diamond like that I should keep it clean. And she's right.

My previous ER was more eye catching to the general public but this one makes my heart sing. It has personality galore and the looks to match (if I may say so myself).

 

[lambskin]

msop04-whenever anyone askes me about the size of my center stone I have two answers ready to go. If they are nice then I ell them that it is bad luck to tell the size of the stone. If they are nasty or nosey, and ask how many carats I tell them "enough to choke a horse' and laugh.

 

[msop04]

msop04-whenever anyone askes me about the size of my center stone I have two answers ready to go. If they are nice then I ell them that it is bad luck to tell the size of the stone. If they are nasty or nosey, and ask how many carats I tell them "enough to choke a horse' and laugh.

That's great!! I'll remember that!!