Comments about your engagement ring being....?

[MichelleCarmen]

My diamond is really small so it doesn't attract much attention but people (both friends & jewelers) have said it is a nice stone. I took a geology class in college and the professor had the door open so the sun could shine in and there were some reflections on the ceiling and he said that someone must have a really nice diamond ring and he looked right at me...it wasn't my ring that was causing the reflections, but I still took that as a compliment that he had noticed my diamond

Nobody has said anything bad about my ring except my mom. She has always been competitive though...when I showed her my ring, she immediately took out a loop and compared her and my diamond and then explained all the ways her diamond is better than mine

 

[whosurdaddy]

One time a stranger asked my wife if her ring was real.

I don't understand why some people automatically assume a larger center stone ring is fake?
I really don't like comments like that.

 

[whosurdaddy]

Nobody has said anything bad about my ring except my mom. She has always been competitive though...when I showed her my ring, she immediately took out a loop and compared her and my diamond and then explained all the ways her diamond is better than mine

Moms can be the most critical bunch... I feel your pain

 

[TracyBear]

Nobody has said anything bad about my ring except my mom. She has always been competitive though...when I showed her my ring, she immediately took out a loop and compared her and my diamond and then explained all the ways her diamond is better than mine

It's a shame that your mother behaved so petty. I'm sorry to say this but she must have real low self esteem if she feels the need to compete with her own daughter.

 

[msop04]

The only reason I can think of for anyone to make a negative comment is due to one thing - jealousy.

 

[AprilBaby]

Nobody has said anything bad about my ring except my mom. She has always been competitive though...when I showed her my ring, she immediately took out a loop and compared her and my diamond and then explained all the ways her diamond is better than mine

It's a shame that your mother behaved so petty. I'm sorry to say this but she must have real low self esteem if she feels the need to compete with her own daughter.

I have an amazing ring and I hope my daughter gets better than me!!!

I always get told you can see mine across the room. It's like a flashlight. Everyone always wants to try it on.

 

[MomInstyle]

Here are comments I received.

Positive: "That is huge!" "It's so sparkly" "it's pretty" "Your husband did well." "Your husband loves you plenty". "I love your ring."

Negative: "Is your ring real?" "You are rich you, why do you work". "I am not high roller like you." "Your ring blind me"- very sarcastic tone. My co-worker at different city, saw my ring for the first time w/ my normal manicure (which is always nice and painted). Her comment is "Do you do anything at home? It looks like you don't anything at all". My response was "I scrub 3 bathrooms and wash 8 loads of laundry every weekend plus my daily mommy duties". The following day, she asked if my LV bags, an Hermes bag.

 

[Trasid]

OMGosh! I thought my mom was the only critical one. I am so glad to see that it's not just mine! My mom's 1.25 ct princess is set in a 4-prong. She said to me, "That basket hides your whole diamond and it does not sparkle from the sides like mine does...wheeeew...I FINALLY said it!"

Poor thing had been holding her 2 cents worth back for months now. LOL!

A guy asked what size it was and then said, "That looks too small to be a 1 1/4 carat."

Most other comments have been very positive though. Many people have said that they could see it from across the room.

 

[distracts]

My ring gets no attention at all. Maybe I should go bigger!

Your 3 stone is Amazing! How is that possible!!?

It's true. I live I the UK and people really just don't comment. Maybe they think it's rude?! I don't think it's rude people: I'm going to wear a sign that says "Please compliment my ring. Thank you in advance"

It's funny because I've always read on PS that no one comments on bling in the UK, but when I was in Scotland for our honeymoon, I got a lot of compliments while out and about! Maybe different rules apply to sapphires?

Thankfully no one said my least favorite compliment that I get occasionally - "It's like a miniature Diana/Kate ring!" Uh no. It has a sapphire and diamonds but there the similarities end. (It's hard to actually be annoyed at people who use this compliment though because they always are so excited about it. Just not very detail-oriented I guess, hah.)

 

[Dancing Fire]

Here are comments I received.

Positive: "That is huge!" "It's so sparkly" "it's pretty" "Your husband did well." "Your husband loves you plenty". "I love your ring."

Negative: "Is your ring real?" "You are rich you, why do you work". "I am not high roller like you." "Your ring blind me"- very sarcastic tone. My co-worker at different city, saw my ring for the first time w/ my normal manicure (which is always nice and painted). Her comment is "Do you do anything at home? It looks like you don't anything at all". My response was "I scrub 3 bathrooms and wash 8 loads of laundry every weekend plus my daily mommy duties". The following day, she asked if my LV bags, an Hermes bag.

My answer would have been..."Yes, I clean my diamonds all day long"...

 

[whosurdaddy]

Here are comments I received.

Positive: "That is huge!" "It's so sparkly" "it's pretty" "Your husband did well." "Your husband loves you plenty". "I love your ring."

Negative: "Is your ring real?" "You are rich you, why do you work". "I am not high roller like you." "Your ring blind me"- very sarcastic tone. My co-worker at different city, saw my ring for the first time w/ my normal manicure (which is always nice and painted). Her comment is "Do you do anything at home? It looks like you don't anything at all". My response was "I scrub 3 bathrooms and wash 8 loads of laundry every weekend plus my daily mommy duties". The following day, she asked if my LV bags, an Hermes bag.

My answer would have been..."Yes, I clean my diamonds all day long"...

Hahahahah *taking notes*

 

[TracyBear]

I didn't realized that there are so many critical mothers out there. So glad that my mum is my best friend. Right after I got my ring, I went on Skype to show her. She's like, "It's looks HUGE on you!! Now go slowly away from the camera. Ok, turn your hand the other way. Now put it on your shoulders." Then she yelled at my dad to fetch her glasses and called my baby sister over to look at my ring. She asked her if it looks larger than her own diamond and my sis said yes, to which she reply, "That's my girl!" She also said that she was so happy that some man willing to marry me because for a long time she thought I was going to be a lesbian. Thanks for the vote of confidence mum.

 

[rosetta]

My ring gets no attention at all. Maybe I should go bigger!

Your 3 stone is Amazing! How is that possible!!?

It's true. I live I the UK and people really just don't comment. Maybe they think it's rude?! I don't think it's rude people: I'm going to wear a sign that says "Please compliment my ring. Thank you in advance"

It's funny because I've always read on PS that no one comments on bling in the UK, but when I was in Scotland for our honeymoon, I got a lot of compliments while out and about! Maybe different rules apply to sapphires?

Thankfully no one said my least favorite compliment that I get occasionally - "It's like a miniature Diana/Kate ring!" Uh no. It has a sapphire and diamonds but there the similarities end. (It's hard to actually be annoyed at people who use this compliment though because they always are so excited about it. Just not very detail-oriented I guess, hah.)

It's very unusual to see any diamonds over 1 carat (coloured stones here tend to be bigger) apart from some select areas in the UK. I suspect most people either think my ring is fake, ot they're too polite to ask if it's real. Or they think its way too flashy. Come to think of it, my 1 carat ring got called huge all the time. LOL!

 

[mandasand]

My diamond is not big by any means, it's a .59 OEC in a square solitaire setting with filigree on the sides. But, it looks rather large on my finger. My heart flutters when I am in a meeting at work and the girls stop and tell me "oh I love your ring." Everyone also immediately knows its vintage. It's very simple but I guess it's obvious enough. I did receive one comment that it is the most beautiful ring she's ever seen. Everyone told me prior to us settling on this ring that I would have diamond shrinkage...but I just don't. I adore my ring, i adore my fiancé for picking exactly what I wanted, and I adore Jewels by Erica Grace for making it possible!

Finding a wedding band to match has been a challenge...I'm obsessing again!

 

[distracts]

I didn't realized that there are so many critical mothers out there. So glad that my mum is my best friend. Right after I got my ring, I went on Skype to show her. She's like, "It's looks HUGE on you!! Now go slowly away from the camera. Ok, turn your hand the other way. Now put it on your shoulders." Then she yelled at my dad to fetch her glasses and called my baby sister over to look at my ring. She asked her if it looks larger than her own diamond and my sis said yes, to which she reply, "That's my girl!" She also said that she was so happy that some man willing to marry me because for a long time she thought I was going to be a lesbian. Thanks for the vote of confidence mum.

ahahahhaha... that's so much like what my mom said. She said, "I can't believe someone wants to marry YOU!"

She meant like she couldn't believe I was going to be getting married because I'm her little kid, etc, but there was still a moment where I was all "gee, thanks, I'm so not marriageable I guess...????"

Of course then it turned out that she had been going to pass on her mother's wedding set to me for an engagement ring but had never actually thought to tell the man I was obviously super-seriously dating. So now we have plans to make it into a RHR for her (it's white gold and we're both allergic to nickel so it can't be worn as-is). Possibly her plan all along!

 

[missy]

My diamond is not big by any means, it's a .59 OEC in a square solitaire setting with filigree on the sides. But, it looks rather large on my finger. My heart flutters when I am in a meeting at work and the girls stop and tell me "oh I love your ring." Everyone also immediately knows its vintage. It's very simple but I guess it's obvious enough. I did receive one comment that it is the most beautiful ring she's ever seen. Everyone told me prior to us settling on this ring that I would have diamond shrinkage...but I just don't. I adore my ring, i adore my fiancé for picking exactly what I wanted, and I adore Jewels by Erica Grace for making it possible!

Finding a wedding band to match has been a challenge...I'm obsessing again!

Your ring is beautiful mandasand and I see why you love and adore it! Have you enlisted Erica and Grace in your search for the perfect wedding band? I know they are up to the task though it might take some time...if anyone can do it they can! Plus if you haven't already you should start a thread on your wb search and enlist PSers to help you search as well. Cannot wait to see what you choose for your lovely ER's mate!

 

[lapelirroja]

Whaaaat? I get multiple comments per week on my ring, friends, coworkers, strangers at stores, restaurants, etc. Usually ~5/wk. and I only have a 1.3ct super ideal round set in the swan, so it looks like a simple solitaire unless you see it from the sides. Maybe it's because it's an ACA but to PS standards its not that exciting. I live in the northeast, fwiw.

 

[Nyc2chigal]

ooooh! I forgot about a rather rude comment I received actually not long ago..
I guess I forgot because the person that gave it is an ignorant person in general, so I didn't really care much about her opinion/comments anyway..
She looked at my ring, and at first said it was very pretty, but then asked if it was real. I said Yes, and she said "Oh, I thought it was some other kind of stone, because it looks like dingy/yellowy"
I looked at her, and said, again.. "It's all real. It's called an M colored diamond".

Can't believe I forgot about that, but I guess I never take anything she says seriously..

 

[Aoife]

I get quite a few nice comments about my rings, but the funniest one came recently from my new primary care physician. I was wearing my AVC, and she was having me do that neurological test where the doctor holds her finger in front of your face, and you are supposed to quickly touch your nose then her finger with your right hand, then the same thing with your left. All went well with the right hand: nose-finger, nose-finger, nose-finger. Then with my left hand she had me repeat the movement almost a dozen times, which freaked me a out a little. Finally she said, ""I just love your ring."

Made me laugh.

 

[Christina...]

^^^Aww! I think that is a sweet compliment! ^^^^

I guess I don't really get that many uninvited type comments on my ring. I mean, yeah, I get the occasional cashier or associate that mentions that they think it's beautiful or really pretty. A few have asked me how large it was....it isn't by PS standards at all, but where I live it's actually bigger than most that I see at 1.25, but I also think that the stone is a much better quality than most. Before I added my eternity band, I was mostly just asked when I was getting married, which implied that they noticed my ring, but never really commented on it except maybe to nod and say 'it's so pretty' or it's 'so sparkly'.

The lack of comments has sort of led me to believe that many don't 'get it' or don't necessarily agree with my purchasing decisions, but it could just as easily mean that they just don't care or notice that much. I mean, my BFF just bought a beautiful boat, but I don't go on and on about how gorgeous their boat is, how many times can you say it right? I mean, I care, I'm thrilled for them and it is a beautiful boat, I just don't think or care about it that much.


My mother though, funnily enough after reading many of the other posts, is the most vocal. While she thinks they are very pretty, she just totally doesn't get it and I hear comments all the time about what I could have done or purchased instead. She just actually spent a couple of nights at my home and mentioned TWICE that I really needed a new living room set and that the money for my ring would have been better spent there. I DO need a new living room set, but it wasn't an either/or situation. However in a recent casual conversation about how my things will eventually be divided upon my death, she spoke up very quickly about a particular piece that she would really like to have, should she still be around to have it. So, I do think that she understands that each piece is meaningful to me and because of that she would like to have one in particular because it also holds meaning to her as well for whatever reason.

I do have a couple of SIL's that seem rather judgmental but I haven't decided quite why yet. I think one may be a bit of jealous, though I really hate to think so. She has a beautiful sapphire ring and it was my understanding that it was exactly what she wanted as they were excited to start a family and purchase a home as quickly as possible. But during a holiday get together I received a diamond necklace that I had been pining over for quite some time and while the rest of the family was doing the obligatory oohing and ahhing, she actually turned and walked away when it was passed around for everyone to see. Later there was a quick conversation about an upcoming (at the time) reset project and a few jokes about my 'addiction' and her only response was something to the effect that 'Some peoples bellies are never full!' Wow! Needless to say I try to avoid any chance of bling being mentioned in her company. My reaction from my other SIL is even more confusing. While I think that she is proud that her big brother spoils me and treats me so well, she seems offensively interested in how much money is being spent doing so. She was visiting with me while we waited for the FED EXs truck to deliver my upgrade and while I was tearing into the box to see the ring, she was tearing into the envelope to see the receipt!! More recently I was out of town visiting family and had left wiring instructions to WF on my refridgerator so that hubby could take care it for me. He called me that evening upset that I had left it there because his sister had taken quite an interest in it and he felt that he had to lie and downplay the entire purchase.

Obviously WE shouldn't be embarrassed for SOMEONE elses rude behaviors but for some reason it makes ME feel guilty and shallow for wanting beautiful (and maybe frivolous) things when there are so many other people and things (in the family, community, country, world) that could use attention. However though I may consider and contemplate their feelings, I refuse to allows someone elses rude and offensive behaviors to affect me negatively or change the way I choose to handle my finances and life in general. I hope all of you that have posted about the negative comments that you have received brush them off easily. The only people that should feel bad or offer apologies are those that are making such rude and offensive comments.

 

[Nyc2chigal]

^^^Aww! I think that is a sweet compliment! ^^^^

I guess I don't really get that many uninvited type comments on my ring. I mean, yeah, I get the occasional cashier or associate that mentions that they think it's beautiful or really pretty. A few have asked me how large it was....it isn't by PS standards at all, but where I live it's actually bigger than most that I see at 1.25, but I also think that the stone is a much better quality than most. Before I added my eternity band, I was mostly just asked when I was getting married, which implied that they noticed my ring, but never really commented on it except maybe to nod and say 'it's so pretty' or it's 'so sparkly'.

The lack of comments has sort of led me to believe that many don't 'get it' or don't necessarily agree with my purchasing decisions, but it could just as easily mean that they just don't care or notice that much. I mean, my BFF just bought a beautiful boat, but I don't go on and on about how gorgeous their boat is, how many times can you say it right? I mean, I care, I'm thrilled for them and it is a beautiful boat, I just don't think or care about it that much.


My mother though, funnily enough after reading many of the other posts, is the most vocal. While she thinks they are very pretty, she just totally doesn't get it and I hear comments all the time about what I could have done or purchased instead. She just actually spent a couple of nights at my home and mentioned TWICE that I really needed a new living room set and that the money for my ring would have been better spent there. I DO need a new living room set, but it wasn't an either/or situation. However in a recent casual conversation about how my things will eventually be divided upon my death, she spoke up very quickly about a particular piece that she would really like to have, should she still be around to have it. So, I do think that she understands that each piece is meaningful to me and because of that she would like to have one in particular because it also holds meaning to her as well for whatever reason.

I do have a couple of SIL's that seem rather judgmental but I haven't decided quite why yet. I think one may be a bit of jealous, though I really hate to think so. She has a beautiful sapphire ring and it was my understanding that it was exactly what she wanted as they were excited to start a family and purchase a home as quickly as possible. But during a holiday get together I received a diamond necklace that I had been pining over for quite some time and while the rest of the family was doing the obligatory oohing and ahhing, she actually turned and walked away when it was passed around for everyone to see. Later there was a quick conversation about an upcoming (at the time) reset project and a few jokes about my 'addiction' and her only response was something to the effect that 'Some peoples bellies are never full!' Wow! Needless to say I try to avoid any chance of bling being mentioned in her company. My reaction from my other SIL is even more confusing. While I think that she is proud that her big brother spoils me and treats me so well, she seems offensively interested in how much money is being spent doing so. She was visiting with me while we waited for the FED EXs truck to deliver my upgrade and while I was tearing into the box to see the ring, she was tearing into the envelope to see the receipt!! More recently I was out of town visiting family and had left wiring instructions to WF on my refridgerator so that hubby could take care it for me. He called me that evening upset that I had left it there because his sister had taken quite an interest in it and he felt that he had to lie and downplay the entire purchase.

Obviously WE shouldn't be embarrassed for SOMEONE elses rude behaviors but for some reason it makes ME feel guilty and shallow for wanting beautiful (and maybe frivolous) things when there are so many other people and things (in the family, community, country, world) that could use attention. However though I may consider and contemplate their feelings, I refuse to allows someone elses rude and offensive behaviors to affect me negatively or change the way I choose to handle my finances and life in general. I hope all of you that have posted about the negative comments that you have received brush them off easily. The only people that should feel bad or offer apologies are those that are making such rude and offensive comments.

Wow wow WOW!
At this point, would a "Mind Your Own Business" been appropriate? Because it would've been on the tip of my tongue to say that!
To both!
That, to me, sounds like they want to start trouble..Shame on them!

You are a lucky lady to have a great husband, you have beautiful sparkly pieces, and that's about it! I AM HAPPY FOR YOU!
See? That was VERY easy to say, and very honest.

Man, what ever happened to 'being happy because you're happy' ?

 

[LetItShine]

I get several nice comments a week. I'm generally just told that my ring is pretty and sparkles a lot. I haven't had any rude comments. My diamond isn't huge (1.4 ct) but my ring is quite blingy and I'm pretty sure people just don't see ideal cut diamonds every day.

I ordered my diamond online and took it out shopping to find a mounting that I liked locally. The first store I went into, the owner immediately took my diamond out of my hand (still in the temporary setting) and put it under a microscope. He and the associate then stepped off to the side and started whispering. The only thing I could hear him say was "be careful with that diamond, it's a nice one". It kinda freaked me out. I left after that and will never return.

The owner of another store I went into ASKED if he could see my diamond. He cleaned it and viewed it under the microscope. He was impressed! Said it was one of the nicest cut diamonds he has ever seen and added that he wished his clients would order diamonds based on cut but instead they prefer size and color over cut. He offered me a glass of wine, showed me settings, had no problem setting my diamond, and I will be a customer for life Every time I stop by to have my ring cleaned he tells me how nice my diamond is and he didn't even sell it to me.

The weirdest thing happened a couple of weeks ago. I had a minor surgical procedure done and was out under heavy sedation. When I woke up I found my ring finger in the hand of the nurse and she was inspecting my diamond. Kind of holding it up to the light and tilting my ring back and forth. She then commented that my ring was really pretty and that I woke up fast...awkward

 

[whosurdaddy]

I had a minor surgical procedure done and was out under heavy sedation. When I woke up I found my ring finger in the hand of the nurse and she was inspecting my diamond. Kind of holding it up to the light and tilting my ring back and forth. She then commented that my ring was really pretty and that I woke up fast...awkward

Hmm... Thank God she was just interested in your diamond...

 

[Sparklepop]

My favorite compliment was not even meant to being. A girl I work with asked me ifi cleaned my ring a lot because my diamknd is always so sparkly. I said sometimes..but really I rarely do.

 

[autumngems]

Mine have all been positive so far. Mainly co-workers telling me it's blinding them. lol. I had one older lady grab my hand and say "oh my goodness that is huge, hey Betty!, come over here and look at this young lady's ring!!" then the oohing and ahhhing began.

 

[autumngems]

Forgot the 4 C's you wanted

3.02
J
SI1
9.37x9.39x5.71
Cut: EX
Pol: EX
Sym: EX
Flour: Med Bl

Tab: 56
Depth 60.9
Crn: 33.0
Pav: 41.0
Culet: non

0.6 on the HCA score

 

[whosurdaddy]

@autumngems: That's one amazing diamond! I can't wait to see more pictures.

 

[luvmysparklies]

I get quite a few nice comments about my rings, but the funniest one came recently from my new primary care physician. I was wearing my AVC, and she was having me do that neurological test where the doctor holds her finger in front of your face, and you are supposed to quickly touch your nose then her finger with your right hand, then the same thing with your left. All went well with the right hand: nose-finger, nose-finger, nose-finger. Then with my left hand she had me repeat the movement almost a dozen times, which freaked me a out a little. Finally she said, ""I just love your ring."

Made me laugh.

aHAA!! Using the oooold neurological exam trick to see your diamond. LOL!
This is so funny!

 

[luvmysparklies]

Whaaaat? I get multiple comments per week on my ring, friends, coworkers, strangers at stores, restaurants, etc. Usually ~5/wk. and I only have a 1.3ct super ideal round set in the swan, so it looks like a simple solitaire unless you see it from the sides. Maybe it's because it's an ACA but to PS standards its not that exciting. I live in the northeast, fwiw.

Noooo!!! I don't think it's unexciting and I'm sure other PSers agree... An ACA (I worked with Denise back in the day to purchase a few of these) and the swan to boot?

 

[luvmysparklies]

I didn't realized that there are so many critical mothers out there. So glad that my mum is my best friend. Right after I got my ring, I went on Skype to show her. She's like, "It's looks HUGE on you!! Now go slowly away from the camera. Ok, turn your hand the other way. Now put it on your shoulders." Then she yelled at my dad to fetch her glasses and called my baby sister over to look at my ring. She asked her if it looks larger than her own diamond and my sis said yes, to which she reply, "That's my girl!" She also said that she was so happy that some man willing to marry me because for a long time she thought I was going to be a lesbian. Thanks for the vote of confidence mum.

It's funny how loved ones can give compliments and be very well meaning...accompanied by some other awkward comment or attitude. My Mom wants the best for her kids, but sometimes the delivery can be a tad "off"...

When we announced our engagement, my mom was glaring at my now husband. I was thinking, WTH? So, I say, "Uh, hey mom...we've been together for a while and I thought you'd be ok with this." She continues glaring at him and after a few uncomfortable seconds I said, "Ok, well here's the ring." Then it was a total facial morphing into happiness. Hugs..etc. then she says, "I'm so happy! That's a very beautiful ring, I wasn't sure what he was going to propose with."

So I was like, that's fine, but did you have to go all Incredible Hulk turning back into David Banner on me?! Geez, rough crowd! LOL!