Confessions of a Tormented Bridesmaid (Advice Needed)

[brazen_irish_hussy]

Date: 5/25/2010 3:45:52 PM
Author: tyty333

Date: 5/25/2010 3:22:39 PM
Author: swedish bean
I''m a jerk, so I''d give her $0

Yes, a VISA giftcard with no money loaded on it sounds about right

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I would give Visa card with the minimum on it, but that''s just me.

My BMs paid for their clothes, shoes, jewelry and transportation. I only gave them a color and asked that the dress be formal and left everything else to them. I paid for their hair and make-up and we had our rehersal dinner at a local dinner/family dining place that my DH and I love and which we could afford to pay for everyone.

The only thing they paid for otherwise was my MOH paid for drinks for me at a gay strip club we went to. He also kept giving me ones to pass on to the dancers. Otherwise, the pleasure of their company was gift enough.

 

[brazen_irish_hussy]

Date: 5/25/2010 9:35:03 AM
Author: doodle
Okay, so I''m bleeding now. I shouldn''t read bridesmaid horror stories with a cat on my lap because cat+lap+bodyshaper mandate+snorting with laughter=scared my cat (who is apparently spring loaded and just catapulted off me) =bloody leg. Not that this piece of information helps you at all--I just thought I''d share.

As for a wedding gift, I''d get her a nice book...something written by Emily Post.

I absolutely would NOT spend a lot of money on a gift since you''ve already paid for so many extras.

That used to happen to me a lot. My Odin baby loves my lap, but is very skittish and sneezing was a risk to my femoral artery. I now keep a thick towel by my desk so everytime he gives the sad look that means he wants on my lap, he waits until I put the towel down and then jumps up. Might be worth a try

 

[HappyNewLife]

wow, she is a piece of work. when I was the "best (wo)man" in my friend''s wedding, their gift to me was the dress. All I had to pay for was plane tix/accomodations and that was fine because I got to go to Hawaii

I''d ditch the body shaper, professional make-up (F that S-- have your mom do that too-- it just washes off!!), spa day and I''d give a $25 VISA GC and call it a day!

 

[ts44]

If it makes you feel any better, VISA giftcards are notoriously finicky and can be a giant hassle. Returns are a pain, if you can even do them, the card can be "invalid" for no seemingly no reason at all, paying for a partial balance with a card is a pain in the neck, and just try to get a real human being on the customer service line. The retail workers I know all hate them, because the customer gets mad at them when the card invariably doesn''t work correctly. Perhaps karma will deliver some payback on all those gift cards.

 

[House Cat]

Why not give her the other two body shapers that you aren''t using? Seems like a lovely gift under the circumstances.

 

[PumpkinPie]

I would give her a card and consider this a lesson learned about following your gut instincts she''s nutso