Cynical or Naive?

[Daisys and Diamonds]

Everyone is born naive. I think in my case experience, facing hardships growing up and adulthood is what made me who am I am today. Cynical-sometimes, street smart-always! Realist-definitely! Super protective of myself and my kids-always! I am the "take everything with a pinch of salt" person. And my DH well he can take care of himself-lol!
Growing up in my cultural society where it is ok to pass judgment on anyone verbally and to your face! or behind your back, which you'll find out eventually through the grapevine. This ranges from grandparents, parents to extended family members and just wait till you get married, the toxicity is just beginning. At least some of these folks are changing, but many many many more still remain where they think they can say anything, do anything and it is ok for them to get away with it.
This alone has made grow a hard shell, jaded possibly? But that's ok, its experience that I have grown from and that I treasure.
Also- my parents were way too nice, too accommodating to others their entire lives, people saw them as doormats and they gotten taken advantage of all the time. My dad being the nicest kindest, generous man gone suddenly and he had so many years of life to live. My mom still around, but can't say boo to a goose. That being one of my first eye opening "experiences".

Otherwise, I am a nice, kind, fun person- I think

i am sorry that your kindly parents were treated as doormates when their kindmess should have been championed by others

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

my kind of personal moto through my adult live has been to never loss the wonder

i wont be jaded, i wont be cycnical, i wont be sarcastic
somedays are harder than others
but if i even see a pretty little weed flowering in a crack in the footpath i will take that joy and use it to see good in the world around me

 

[hardwear]

i am sorry that your kindly parents were treated as doormates when their kindmess should have been championed by others

Awww....thank you for the very kind words. And yes, I agree!
Hope my post was not too negative- didn't mean for it to come across like that at all.

I am guarded, but I fully enjoy my family and the world and what is has to offer.

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

im not sure that naive and cynical are very good antonyms
just because someone is not cynical that does not make that person naive

but im not stupid

 

[House Cat]

I am extremely cynical. I would rather be naive. The grass is always greener.