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[nytemist]

To keep from him having all this power, I told my BF this past week what my intentions are for my life. The end of school of school is coming for me soon, then I have to take exams and all that. I''m excited about my future, he of course starting to get antsy, saying ''don''t you want to build this life with me?'' I said sure I do, but I''m not just going to sit around and wait for you to dictate my life. I aslo said ''besides, I remember your promise from the beginning of this year and there are four more months for that to happen. I''m not making you do anything but in my mind this may be a deciding year for me.'' And I left it at that.
I clearly believe in and support letting your SO know that you love them, want to make a life together and all that, BUT that no one should ever put their life on hold, waiting for that magic question. That leads to this horrible imbalance in the relationship.

 

[jcrow]

Date: 8/19/2005 11:20:35 PM
Author: kfs
I''m so glad Buena Girl started this post so I know there are others in the same boat and I''m glad I found this forum....

... I know it''s bad but I''m definetly a planner and I feel like there''s so much depending on us getting married. I don''t want to buy a house with him until we are married and I obviously want to be married before having kids. Plus, I compromised on my religous beliefs by moving in with him before marriage. Anyway, I just had to vent because I''m trying really hard not to let him know how frustrated I am....I''ve already slipped a few times.

I just keep wondering why he would postpone the proposal knowing my personality, but then I''m sure a lot of ladies wonder that same thing.

ditto!

 

[caligal]

Buena Girl and all-

It truly is wonderful to have all of us in the same place... but it is not fun being here is it? We too just talked about this over the weekend- to which I was told he wanted to wait until he was done with school, settled into a new job, making more money. Which stinks- it got moved from Jan to June! Ahhhh- I was hoping obviously much before January secretly- but more waiting! Hang in there all!!

 

[jcrow]

yeh i find it wierd that guys think they need to be financially in a great place before proposing...what difference does it make to me? none.

 

[Evie75]

Hello, I''ve been lurking on this thread for a long time. I think its great there is a place like this for everyone to get their frustrations out... Its nice to know that im not crazy!! lol

Im waiting extremely very patiently as well!!! the waiting is killing me

 

[LaurenThePartier]

Welcome Evie, if you haven''t done so already, post in the LIW thread to get added to the list.

Buenagirl - my b/f and I have had nearly the same history and timeframe as you and yours, and I can completely relate. I worry that the proposal will be clouded with "Good Lord, finally!" and I''m hoping I can stave off that feeling for long enough.

Thank goodness we have this place to commisserate.

 

[Erin]

Even my bf knows that once it happens, our friends and relatives are not going to greet our news with Congratulations but with About Time!!!

Four Year anniversary is in September.


After that it's 1-800-GO-UHAUL

 

[blueroses]

Ditto. I''d be shocked if a single person offered a simple congratulations and not an "about damn time" or "finally" or something of that ilk.....we''ve been together 9 years Oct 25 and are now both in our early 30s. What''s the rush, right?