Snicklefritz
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Hi all!
I''m looking for a little wedding etiqette advice, well, actually my SO is. He is more than likely, almost certainly, going to be asked to be in a friend''s (let''s call him H) wedding. But to call H a friend is a stretch. SO and H USED to be good friends 8 years ago and their relationship has gone downhill since then. Now, they only see each other 3 times per year because they have mutual friends. And SO does not even like H much anymore. They''ve never argued, there''s no resentment or meanness between then, they just grew apart and are different people. Additionally, SO thinks H will ask him to be an usher out of obligation because several other of their mutual friends are already groomsmen. SO will absolutely be an usher if there is no respectful/tactful way to avoid it, but he''s not fond of the idea of renting a tux and being in the wedding pictures, when his relationship with H may not last much longer. Additionally, SO''s ex-girlfriend is a bridesmaid in the wedding, and SO hopes to avoid her at all costs, not because they''re on bad terms, but because he likes to avoid awkward situations. They aren''t friends and don''t talk. Being in the bridal party will undoubtedly place him a little closer to her than he would like. So we''d really like your input on how/if SO should decline H''s request for SO to be an usher.
Thanks!!
I''m looking for a little wedding etiqette advice, well, actually my SO is. He is more than likely, almost certainly, going to be asked to be in a friend''s (let''s call him H) wedding. But to call H a friend is a stretch. SO and H USED to be good friends 8 years ago and their relationship has gone downhill since then. Now, they only see each other 3 times per year because they have mutual friends. And SO does not even like H much anymore. They''ve never argued, there''s no resentment or meanness between then, they just grew apart and are different people. Additionally, SO thinks H will ask him to be an usher out of obligation because several other of their mutual friends are already groomsmen. SO will absolutely be an usher if there is no respectful/tactful way to avoid it, but he''s not fond of the idea of renting a tux and being in the wedding pictures, when his relationship with H may not last much longer. Additionally, SO''s ex-girlfriend is a bridesmaid in the wedding, and SO hopes to avoid her at all costs, not because they''re on bad terms, but because he likes to avoid awkward situations. They aren''t friends and don''t talk. Being in the bridal party will undoubtedly place him a little closer to her than he would like. So we''d really like your input on how/if SO should decline H''s request for SO to be an usher.
Thanks!!
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