Devastated... Prayers needed

[anchor31]

My wedding planning has been an easy adventure, and my biggest helper and supporter has been my mother. She one of my very best friends and one of the 3 people I''m closest to in the world. My father came to see me today after work. I knew right away that something was wrong.

She was diagnostised with breast cancer on Thursday and is going into surgery to have the tumor removed on Tuesday. They didn''t want to tell me over the phone or wait until my visit next week-end.

They say it''s very small (detected with a mammogram) and she should be fine, but I can''t help worry. My BFF lost her own mother is September ''06 to cancer... I know it was worse in my BFF''s mom case because it was an inoperable pancreatic cancer, but I''m still worried. I''m angry and confused, and I feel guilty because I wish they''d waited until I was done with my last final on Thursday morning.

Please pray/send good vibes/whatever you do for my mother Louise. There''s nothing else I can do but ask as many people as possible to do it. Please... I don''t want to lose my mother.

 

[Dee*Jay]

Biggest hugs outgoing to you and your family, and healing vibes coming going the way of your mom right now.

 

[oobiecoo]

I''m so sorry anchor! I''ll be praying for your mother.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I am so sorry to hear this! I am hoping for the best for your mom. My thoughts are with you and your family.

 

[Skippy123]

Hugs

outgoing to you and your dear mom. Anchor I will keep all of you in my prayers.

 

[neatfreak]

Oh sweetie, hugs to you!!!

But you should know that pancreatic cancer is very very aggressive with a very high mortality rate. And early detected breast cancer is usually NOT aggressive and has a very low mortality rate. I know it is hard to see, but the situations are VERY different. Your mom will pull through this!

 

[anchor31]

Oh, thank you so much everyone. I''m just a puddle of tears right now. I''m not very rational, just... unbelievably angry. But thank you. I definitely don''t know what I''d do if I didn''t have FI.

 

[Kaleigh]

Anchor,
I am sorry to hear this. I pray all will be well for your Mom. At least they caught it early. That''s key. But I know how scared you must be, so sending you a big HUG. Prayers outgoing to your entire family.

 

[neatfreak]

Date: 4/22/2008 9:29:15 PM
Author: anchor31
Oh, thank you so much everyone. I''m just a puddle of tears right now. I''m not very rational, just... unbelievably angry. But thank you. I definitely don''t know what I''d do if I didn''t have FI.

You don''t need to be rational now! Let the tears flow and you''ll feel better after. More hugs your way!

 

[Catmom]

I''m so sorry anchor! My most positive healing thoughts are going out to your Mom.

 

[ahappygirl]

You, your mom and your whole family have my prayers.

My MIL was diagnosed with a rare, aggressive form of breast cancer that had spread, 7 years ago. She was 49 and her prognosis sucked. She''s doing great!! I''m sure your mom will, too. Do you mind my asking her first name? I can put her on the prayer chain at my church.

When MIL was diagnosed, it was so devastating for my husband. He is so close to her, as am I, but he''s an only child and an oncologist(pediatrics, though), of all things. He felt so helpless.

Big, big hugs all around. I am so glad you have your FI to support you.

 

[SarahLovesJS]

I will send prayers to your family!! ((Hugs)) Please try to do well on your final!

 

[Independent Gal]

Anchor sweety! I'm so sorry to hear this. I will certainly keep your mother in my thoughts and prayers. If you want to talk, do you still have my e-mail address? I think I lost yours.

big hugs.

Maybe ask your professor for a deferral on the exam?

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

Glad it was caught early--best of luck/care with her surgery and recovery. Healing vibes her way!

kind regards--Sharon

 

[pavelover]

Anchor I just wanted to say I''m so sorry that you have to go through this- especially right now. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Take care and know we are all thinking of you.

 

[anchor31]

Thank you again from the bottom of my heart. I always am blown away by the kindness and caring in this community.

ahappygirl - Thank you so much! I will put her on the prayer chain at my church as well. Her name is Louise.

indy - I still have your business card. Thank you for offering. I know my professor would give me a deferral for my exam if I asked, but I''m not sure if I should. I need something to focus on, and I need to get this done with. I dunno.

 

[monarch64]

Anchor, I''m so sorry to hear about your mom''s diagnosis. I''ll definitely be sending positive vibes her/you/yourfamily''s way! Best wishes to her that the procedure goes well and for a speedy recovery and of course remission. Take care of yourself, too.

 

[isaku5]

More(((((( BIG HUGS)))))) going out to you and your family, especially your mom. Thank goodness the tumour was found with the mammogram and it is small.

You and your family will be in my prayers.

 

[Gypsy]

Anchor honey, your mother is in my prayers... as is your whole family. HUGE HUGS HONEY.

 

[October2008bride]

Oh Anchor - I''m so sorry. That is really tough. I will send my best thoughts over to you and your family. Big hugs!

 

[surfgirl]

anchor, I''m so sorry to hear this and I can totally understand how you must be worried and upset, yet angry because your concentration on finals is derailed. Look, on the bright side, early detection for breast cancer is indeed very good and the chances of full recovery are equally good. Can I make a suggestion that might help you re focus on your exams a bit better? Why not call your Mom''s doctor and speak with him/her directly. Ask all the questions you want to and hear directly from her doctor what the situation is. That way, you can get answers directly from the doctor (I know for my parents I never can take what they tell me as correct and I have to hear it from their doctor since they dont always ask the questions I would ask). Hopefully that will allow you to ease your own mind, at least until after finals are over. Take care...

 

[strmrdr]

prayers outgoing

 

[luckystar112]

I''m sorry to hear that anchor. I hope your mom has a speedy recovery.

 

[nclrgirl]

Oh no anchor! Prayers your way

 

[diamondseeker2006]

I''m so sorry, Anchor. I totally understand the terrible timing to hear such news, too! I''ll pray for your mom''s surgery to be successful but also for you to make it through your exams. Breat cancer caught early has a great prognosis, thankfully! I know several women who have had it and have done just great! (And the doctor won''t speak to you unless your mother has signed permission, so don''t try that or you''ll likely be frustrated even more.)

 

[iheartscience]

Oh no...I''ll keep you and her in my thoughts.

Also, don''t feel guilty about feeling angry. I think it''s probably only natural to feel angry...she''s your mother and nothing is supposed to be wrong with her! I totally understand. I''m sure it''s easier said than done, but try to keep in mind that they caught it early and she is on top of it, so everything should be just fine.

 

[lyra]

Prayers outgoing. Take care. *hugs*

 

[miraclesrule]

Big big prayers for you anchor. I just know your Mom will be fine, but it''s so scary in the meantime.

 

[Diamond*Dana]

Oh Anchor, I will absolutely say several prayers for your mother! I am sure that this is a scary and uncertain time for your family, you are in my thoughts.

 

[Haven]

Anchor sweetie, big prayers and hugs coming your way. I''ll put her name on our mi sheberach list (healing prayer) until I hear good news.