Diamond Earrings - To give or not to give

[sillyberry]

I hear what you're saying (heck I used the word vapid in my own post) but I was thinking about what my best guy friends would be thinking in this situation, and they'd want her friends/mom to be impressed. So, I told him what I'd tell them, knowing this is what they've expressly said they were thinking of in similar situations. I don't think it has to be awful, just trying to make a good impression.

I'm studying for the Bar and a pipe burst and I didn't have water for three days, so I might just be really really crabby and taking it out on you. But the idea that a good impression is based upon a name brand just rubs me the wrong way.

OP, I'm sorry to get so snippy on your thread. Pearls would be lovely. Whether you go name brand or not, pick them out carefully and write a heartfelt note to go along with it and she'll appreciate your thoughtfulness and generosity. And if she doesn't, reconsider spending the next three months with her.

 

[suchende]

No prob sillyberry. Branding can be a sensitive issue on PS (ever walked into a Tiffany or not? thread? Things get heated!)

Good luck on the bar. I'm working on State & Local Gov't (1L). Wait, no, I'm PSing. Failstick.

 

[Imdanny]

Does the metal of the post matter? I see I have the choice between white gold, yellow gold, and sterling silver.

I'm pretty ignorant when it comes to jewelry...

I'd actually go with yellow gold, platinum, or stainless steel (follow Skippy's advice on color): some percentage of the population is allergic to white gold, silver, and base metals, and that can suck with earrings (and especially earrings given as a sentimental gift).

I agree with this, plus yellow gold doesn't have to replated like white gold and doesn't have to polished like silver.

In answer to your original question, no, I don't think three months is two early to buy diamonds studs for Valentine's Day.

 

[Clairitek]

If you do end up with diamond studs and things end between you two, would you want them back? I only ask because this actually happened to me. An ex boyfriend bought me a ring (band, with 0.25 carats channel set diamonds in it, wore it on my right hand) from Tiffany when we had been dating for 3.5 months (his choice, I didn't demand it). I broke up with him 2 months later and he asked for the gift back. I think his mother has it now. Or so he says.

The pearls sound gorgeous. I am not personally into pearls but it seems like you've gotten some great advice from those PSers who are. She's lucky that you're being so thoughtful about her Valentine's Day gift.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

This would send me packing. Just saying.

Maybe some nice pearl earrings? If you want to drop bank, plan a weekend out of town or a dinner at the best restaurant in town.

Exactly this. I would strongly advise you against the diamond earrings, or for that matter, any gemstone jewelry. Pearl studs would be fine, but personally, I think a mini weekend trip would be fun for you both and will add to your relationship.

This, save the earrings for Christmas or her birthday if it falls after your 6 mo anniversary. I think you should find some other way to spoil her. The weekend away is a great idea, or even just flowers (2 doz roses never hurt a relationship), dinner and a nice back massage and . Or even a trip to the spa.

 

[simpleman]

Update.

Well, I felt her out for the pearls. She's not a fan. Gave her the diamonds. She loved them, we're still together.

 

[Asscherhalo_lover]

Good for you!

 

[iugurl]

That is great! I like pearls, but LOVE diamonds. I would be much happier receiving diamonds as a present rather than pearls.

 

[VRBeauty]

Thanks for the update - glad it worked out!

 

[slg47]

definitely glad it worked out! do you have pictures???

 

[iLander]

Good for you! I think you were definately in a position to know better than anyone here.

Best wishes to you both.

Don't forget to come back here for e-ring advice if it ends up there!

 

[katamari]

I am glad it worked out for you.

I do hope, though, that you don't now have to "up the ante" so to speak with subsequent gifts. If 3 months and a Hallmark holiday brings diamond earrings, what will a birthday bring?! Oh, and please send anything she doesn't like to Katamari c/o Pricescope.

 

[soocool]

So happy that she loved the earrings! You are surely one great guy!!!

 

[simpleman]

definitely glad it worked out! do you have pictures???

No, sorry no pictures. They are .5tcw princess cut in white gold from shane co. though. They look great on her.

 

[simpleman]

I am glad it worked out for you.

I do hope, though, that you don't now have to "up the ante" so to speak with subsequent gifts. If 3 months and a Hallmark holiday brings diamond earrings, what will a birthday bring?! Oh, and please send anything she doesn't like to Katamari c/o Pricescope.

I contemplated this quite a bit before I gave them to her. She really isn't the type to expect a lot so I don't foresee that being a problem.

I will keep katamari in mind when she tells me she hates something i get her...lol

 

[Laughinggravy0]

I'm with Kenny - you are a clever kind man, good luck to you. And cooool she loved the earrings

 

[lulu]

Good for you!