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So my 19-yr old niece is visiting us here in Shanghai. She went out yesterday and my husband who's at home sick just happened to be outside the building for a minute or two and saw her with this "young man". She didn't say anything to us later, but my DH casually teased her about her "boyfriend". She denied that it was her boyfriend, but said it was someone whom she'd just met. Well, anyhow, she's meeting up with him today and she also mentioned this morning that she'd busy Friday night "from 5 to 10", going out with this boy and also that she'd be spending the night with "a girlfriend" on Friday night.
Also, whilst we were talking casually during dinner last night, it emerged (or at least it was my interpretation) that she'd smoked pot (I'm sure not long term usage but perhaps a the odd joint or so).
I realise that she's 19 and she's been living on campus/ sharing with other people (God knows what she's been up to there). Also, she an A/ A+ student and is currently at Berkeley. So I don't think she's too stupid or is prone to doing anything too foolish. However, I feel responsible towards her and her parents - her parents (esp her mom) are terribly protective and worried about her.
I know for sure that if she was to ever smoke pot during this trip (either in front of us or behind our back and we found out), I'd for sure send her packing straight away. But otherwise, should I be concerned at all? Should I mention anything to her mom? I realise that if I did, my niece would probably hit the roof, but am I doing the right thing by keeping mum about the whole thing? Or am I just over-reacting, ie. should I just chill and not do or say anything to anyone?
Also, whilst we were talking casually during dinner last night, it emerged (or at least it was my interpretation) that she'd smoked pot (I'm sure not long term usage but perhaps a the odd joint or so).
I realise that she's 19 and she's been living on campus/ sharing with other people (God knows what she's been up to there). Also, she an A/ A+ student and is currently at Berkeley. So I don't think she's too stupid or is prone to doing anything too foolish. However, I feel responsible towards her and her parents - her parents (esp her mom) are terribly protective and worried about her.
I know for sure that if she was to ever smoke pot during this trip (either in front of us or behind our back and we found out), I'd for sure send her packing straight away. But otherwise, should I be concerned at all? Should I mention anything to her mom? I realise that if I did, my niece would probably hit the roof, but am I doing the right thing by keeping mum about the whole thing? Or am I just over-reacting, ie. should I just chill and not do or say anything to anyone?