Do you buy your own?

[ksinger]

Yep. Gotta get on the "yes of course" bandwagon. I just bought myself a 1.5 carat diamond. Not set yet, because I'm having a 3-carat pink zircon set at the moment.

So again, YES.

 

[Brown.Eyed.Girl]

If I had the money, of course! Why not?

 

[purplesilk]

I think I am in the minority. I wouldn't buy a solitaire or anything that looks like an engagement ring. I would buy bands or diamond earrings though. .......................I agree with Maisie,if I could afford it, I 'd buy a diamond band, a bracelet, some earrings, ...but I would not buy any "engagement ring", most of the people would consider it pathetic.

 

[FuturePsyD]

All the time. My belief is a lady should not wait and wish for a man to buy her jewelry, she should make it happen herself if she wants it.

Yes. Because if it happens, and HE'S the one who chooses and buys it for you, there is a high probability that it will be fugly.

That is just too funny!!! We're not married yet, but I actually enjoy purchasing my own jewelry (when I can afford something I love). Even when he gets me gifts for special occasions, it's something that he knows I want. I feel bad being so picky, because he actually loves surprising me but he's too scared to venture into uncharted territory!

 

[missy]

Absolutely and I do.
Most of the time I pick out what I want and then I tell my dh that this is his gift to me for whatever occasion (ie birthday, anniversary, Valentine's day, Hanukkah/X-Mas). Works for us! However, occasionally I will pick a piece of jewelry and just buy it for myself without any special occasion in mind. Not as often as I would like due to financial constraints but nonetheless, as long as we can afford it comfortably I have no issues with purchasing jewelry for myself!

 

[ksinger]

I think I am in the minority. I wouldn't buy a solitaire or anything that looks like an engagement ring. I would buy bands or diamond earrings though. .......................I agree with Maisie,if I could afford it, I 'd buy a diamond band, a bracelet, some earrings, ...but I would not buy any "engagement ring", most of the people would consider it pathetic.

Well, most of us here sure as heck don't let the opinions of "most people" dictate our jewelry purchases. I buy what I like and what I can afford, what it looks like to others is not my concern. "Most people" are just envious, or amazed, that you have such kickin' jewelry. Or don't pay the least attention. I've noticed that most of all. "Most people" really just don't CARE. Suits me just fine.

I have very modest jewelry by PS standards, and I still get comments, mostly admiring but some critical - "I don't see how anyone could spend on jewelry (or jewelry making stuff) blah blah". I just smile and say, "We all have discretionary income. I choose to buy a few pieces of jewelry (or silver/gold/tools to make it myself), you've chosen a large house and children." Then I smile sweetly. Shuts 'em right up.

 

[missy]

I think I am in the minority. I wouldn't buy a solitaire or anything that looks like an engagement ring. I would buy bands or diamond earrings though. .......................I agree with Maisie,if I could afford it, I 'd buy a diamond band, a bracelet, some earrings, ...but I would not buy any "engagement ring", most of the people would consider it pathetic.

Well, most of us here sure as heck don't let the opinions of "most people" dictate our jewelry purchases. I buy what I like and what I can afford, what it looks like to others is not my concern. "Most people" are just envious, or amazed, that you have such kickin' jewelry. Or don't pay the least attention. I've noticed that most of all. "Most people" really just don't CARE. Suits me just fine.

I have very modest jewelry by PS standards, and I still get comments, mostly admiring but some critical - "I don't see how anyone could spend on jewelry (or jewelry making stuff) blah blah". I just smile and say, "We all have discretionary income. I choose to buy a few pieces of jewelry (or silver/gold/tools to make it myself), you've chosen a large house and children." Then I smile sweetly. Shuts 'em right up.

I'm with Ksinger. I couldn't care less what other people think about this. It's our money and our right to do with it as we please. Those other people are usually jealous and that is where their poor manners come in to play. I choose to ignore any negative comments (which thankfully are very rare) as it is nobody's business except yours and your dh what you choose to do with your funds. I say buy what you love (and can afford) and enjoy enjoy enjoy!! And wear in health and happiness!!

 

[purplesilk]

ksinger and missy - I agree with you, the most important opinion is my own opinion and I really don't care much about what people think of me, but, if your not in a love relationship, it may be boring/upsetting/sad being asked: "Are you engaged?", so I would buy myself a diamond band or a fancy diamond ring and wear it proudly even on my left hand.Just MY opinion.

 

[Indylady]

Yes!

 

[AGBF]

heck yeah just waiting for a PSer to loan me the $35k.

I don't have a single piece of jewelry that costs $35,000.00, Dancing Fire. Where do you come up with the arbitrary numbers? Why must a piece of jewelry cost $35,000.00 in order for you to purchase it?

Deb/AGBF

 

[JewelFreak]

I have very modest jewelry by PS standards, and I still get comments, mostly admiring but some critical - "I don't see how anyone could spend on jewelry (or jewelry making stuff) blah blah". I just smile and say, "We all have discretionary income. I choose to buy a few pieces of jewelry (or silver/gold/tools to make it myself), you've chosen a large house and children." Then I smile sweetly. Shuts 'em right up.

To avoid that sort of comment I never tell anybody (except another gem nut) what I spent on a piece -- generally I play it down, like "Oh, I found this online for a fraction of the B&M cost." I try not to judge their purchases, even though it's fun. But was startled when I had lunch w/a neighbor recently. Subject turned to jewelry & she said, "OH MY GOSH, I just saw the most GORGEOUS necklace, I'm DYING to buy it but the price is incredible! It's at xxxx store, you have to go look at it!" Of course I asked how much, picturing an emerald goody or something. She exclaimed, "It is FORTY DOLLARS." I almost choked on my sandwich! However, she lives in a bigger much nicer house & gives money to her church, so that's where she gets her pleasure. I didn't tell her I haven't bought a $40 necklace since I was in college, she never would have understood!

--- Laurie

 

[AGBF]

She exclaimed, "It is FORTY DOLLARS." I almost choked on my sandwich! However, she lives in a bigger much nicer house & gives money to her church, so that's where she gets her pleasure. I didn't tell her I haven't bought a $40 necklace since I was in college, she never would have understood!

--- Laurie

I'm still in my "envy" mode, Laurie. I'm feeling sorry for myself because I only have two pairs of diamond stud earrings and modest sized diamond pieces (ring set with a size 1.67 carat stone and pendant with a 2.something carat stone) while other people have 3 carat rings. (Dancing Fire set off my envy with his comment about $35,000.00.) Whenever I look at a 3-carat ring at which I would like to upgrade my 1.67 carat ring, it costs $75,000. I don't have that much discretionary income and I never will. Now, is that fair?

By the way, I have bought all my own diamonds.

Deb/AGBF

 

[ksinger]

ksinger and missy - I agree with you, the most important opinion is my own opinion and I really don't care much about what people think of me, but, if your not in a love relationship, it may be boring/upsetting/sad being asked: "Are you engaged?", so I would buy myself a diamond band or a fancy diamond ring and wear it proudly even on my left hand.Just MY opinion.

Well, it's just one of the perks of being old. You've been around so long people don't WANT to comment on any piece you might wear or where you wear it, because they might get the entire 30+ year sordid story: Well, I got this piece back in 19XX, and blah, blah blah. Then I divorced my 5th husband and blah blah. Oh and THIS one...blah blah. At my age it's perfectly acceptable to be dripping with jewels (if you can swing it) and no one thinks it has any significance at all.

 

[ksinger]

She exclaimed, "It is FORTY DOLLARS." I almost choked on my sandwich! However, she lives in a bigger much nicer house & gives money to her church, so that's where she gets her pleasure. I didn't tell her I haven't bought a $40 necklace since I was in college, she never would have understood!

--- Laurie

I'm still in my "envy" mode, Laurie. I'm feeling sorry for myself because I only have two pairs of diamond stud earrings and modest sized diamond pieces (ring set with a size 1.67 carat stone and pendant with a 2.something carat stone) while other people have 3 carat rings. (Dancing Fire set off my envy with his comment about $35,000.00.) Whenever I look at a 3-carat ring at which I would like to upgrade my 1.67 carat ring, it costs $75,000. I don't have that much discretionary income and I never will. Now, is that fair?

By the way, I have bought all my own diamonds.

Deb/AGBF

Envy? Can I envy your "modest" 1.67?? You really don't see sizes like that in these parts much. My new 1.5 carat rock is going to be larger than just about anyone I personally know...people will undoubtedly think I have WAY more money than I do, or that I actually spent.

 

[purplesilk]

Well, it's just one of the perks of being old. You've been around so long people don't WANT to comment on any piece you might wear or where you wear it, because they might get the entire 30+ year sordid story: Well, I got this piece back in 19XX, and blah, blah blah. Then I divorced my 5th husband and blah blah. Oh and THIS one...blah blah. At my age it's perfectly acceptable to be dripping with jewels (if you can swing it) and no one thinks it has any significance at all. [/quote]

...another good point of view, that's why I love PS, a place to share/compare different opinions.

 

[Steel]

We have shared finances so, No.

But if I were single, Yes I would buy anything I damned well pleased. Including that grill .

 

[LGK]

All the time! My 3 1/2ct OEC was one that I purchased, I sometimes call it my "e-ring" since it lives on that hand with a wedding band, and so people assume that's what it is of course, but it was actually purchased by me. My actual e-ring is the 1.22 ct OEC that lives on my right hand. My husband doesn't care a bit, but he does prefer that I don't refer to my larger ring as a wedding/engagement ring even if I want to wear it like a wedding set.

 

[jaysonsmom]

I guess I buy my own. We have shared accounts, so I usually do all the research, and all the design etc, then I tell dh what we'll be spending on my birthday-anniversary-christmas gift, and if he okays the budget, he'll place the order or I place the order. When I was single I bought jewelry for myself all the time.

 

[LtlFirecracker]

Yes I would.

I would just wear it on my right hand.

 

[bee*]

Definitely. While I'm a student I can't afford to, but when I qualify I want to buy myself a diamond ring as a pressie.

 

[Andelain]

Dern Tootin' I do!

 

[KittyGolightly]

ksinger and missy - I agree with you, the most important opinion is my own opinion and I really don't care much about what people think of me, but, if your not in a love relationship, it may be boring/upsetting/sad being asked: "Are you engaged?", so I would buy myself a diamond band or a fancy diamond ring and wear it proudly even on my left hand.Just MY opinion.

Well, it's just one of the perks of being old. You've been around so long people don't WANT to comment on any piece you might wear or where you wear it, because they might get the entire 30+ year sordid story: Well, I got this piece back in 19XX, and blah, blah blah. Then I divorced my 5th husband and blah blah. Oh and THIS one...blah blah. At my age it's perfectly acceptable to be dripping with jewels (if you can swing it) and no one thinks it has any significance at all.

This post made me smile. I had a relative who had a long story for each of the 8 rings she wore. She was fun.

 

[AnneinGA]

The BGD ring that is in the works is a combo piece. His bonus is paying for some of it, and then my company has done well this year, so I too am contributing. Since we didnt' really do an ER, this is the ring I will wear on my left hand; my being able to add $$ to it increased the budget, but I have not and will not see the glamour shots or any photos of the finished piece till it goes on my hand from him. And yes, I buy my own jewelry! I see a pair of earrings I like, I get them; once it was a diamond estate ring on e-bay, another time little hoops from Target. He likes cars, I like jewelry!

 

[Madam Bijoux]

I always buy my own because I know more about jewelry than anyone who would want to buy it for me, I won't have to give it back if the relationship doesn't work out and I won't have to thank anyone verbally or otherwise.

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

I always have and always will!

cheers--Sharon