artdecolover71
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Do you feel guilty for not wearing your original rings?
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sweetpea&babycorn
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I've upgraded by original e-ring before we even walked down the aisle and at the time, I didn't feel any guilt and my husband really wanted to make me happy with my ring.
Now we've been married almost 2 years we are talking about baby and house, and other things that costs tons of $$$. Even then I will from time to time get the itch to upgrade again despite the fact that I have a more than sizable and gorgeous ring. I will sometimes talk to my husband about it (mostly to get me off the ledge), and he will ask me how big would be big enough, which is a really good point. He also says that when I get the upgrade bug, he feels that what he gave me wasn't good enough, which makes me sad and then I forget the upgrade idea. So now I'm learning to appreciate what I have, and add on with stackers, RHRs, etc. If I ever did upgrade again though, I'd match it to my wedding band since I would never change that.
Now we've been married almost 2 years we are talking about baby and house, and other things that costs tons of $$$. Even then I will from time to time get the itch to upgrade again despite the fact that I have a more than sizable and gorgeous ring. I will sometimes talk to my husband about it (mostly to get me off the ledge), and he will ask me how big would be big enough, which is a really good point. He also says that when I get the upgrade bug, he feels that what he gave me wasn't good enough, which makes me sad and then I forget the upgrade idea. So now I'm learning to appreciate what I have, and add on with stackers, RHRs, etc. If I ever did upgrade again though, I'd match it to my wedding band since I would never change that.
cinnamonstick
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EvangelineG|1452979210|3976905 said:Nope. Been married for 20 years. My marriage has changed during that time, so have I and so has he. I feel like the new rings are representative of change growth.
Ohhhh....like this!
No guilt. Husband was onboard 100% w upgrade. Origional sits in my jewelry box. Sure I will wear it again. The cut quality GIA is only "good".... I will need to muster up the strength. It won't look so good now
The original ering is also on its third setting. So, I do agree we all change, grow and desire different things at different points in our lives. I wanted this upgrade for over a decade if not even longer. I saved and woked extra. So no
not one ounce of guilt! Nor should you!!
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Great thread. I loved reading everyone's stories.
No, I don't feel guilty. I loved my original rings for 16 years. My DH was the first one who suggested I get something new and I resisted for a few years. Once I started upgrading though it was a different story. I've had 5 new diamonds, 5 new erings and 9 new bands since then. I am on my last diamond now but ering and bands I am sure I'll change those out sometime.
I had a lot of sentiment attached to my original ering but DH had no sentiment attached to it. The original center diamond was .15 ct and a ring guard with it had 2 .03 ct diamonds. I had those put in an open heart pendant and still wear that sometimes. The original rings have a color shift spinel in it but I honestly don't wear it anymore.
No, I don't feel guilty. I loved my original rings for 16 years. My DH was the first one who suggested I get something new and I resisted for a few years. Once I started upgrading though it was a different story. I've had 5 new diamonds, 5 new erings and 9 new bands since then. I am on my last diamond now but ering and bands I am sure I'll change those out sometime.
I had a lot of sentiment attached to my original ering but DH had no sentiment attached to it. The original center diamond was .15 ct and a ring guard with it had 2 .03 ct diamonds. I had those put in an open heart pendant and still wear that sometimes. The original rings have a color shift spinel in it but I honestly don't wear it anymore.
Yes! I was just wondering today if anyone feels the same! I am about to reset my solitaire into a pave halo setting, and the guilt is tearing me apart if I'm honest, even though my hubby is on board! I'm dropping my rings off in exactly 1 hour, and I feel so sad about it even though a re-set is what I've been dreaming about for the last 2 years! I guess I never realised how sentimental I am, and now that I have looked into a reset I feel guilty at swapping such a durable and practical setting for a pave halo with all the risks it involves (stones falling out etc). I also feel kinda shallow for wanting more bling and a halo to make my ring "bigger", as if what my hubby so lovingly chose for me is not good enough!
So in short, yes - I feel guilty too.
So in short, yes - I feel guilty too.
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rubybeth
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pearaffair|1452821529|3976164 said:
I wear my original wedding band (it's just a plain 2mm white gold band) but not my original engagement ring. I don't feel too guilty about not wearing my original engagement ring, but sometimes I feel a pang that this perfectly good diamond is going unworn. My DH said it was fine to reset into a ring I'd wear (have thought about a plain shank halo many times, which I could either wear with my wedding band or as a RHR), but I still feel weird about not having my original ring as-is. Maybe once I have my upgrade on my hand (also a solitaire), I'll feel differently. I feel no guilt for upgrading--I feel I earned that upgrade!
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