Do you guys celebrate your anniversaries?

[madelise]

This is the branch from my previous thread. Do you and your SO celebrate your anniversaries? I guess I was curious as to if you guys did have a "talk" or a "proposal" to go steady, as then you'd have an anniversary date. When it's just a blurred time, "understanding", there's no date to keep track of? Unless it's arbitrary and just symbolic?

SO and I celebrate every month. Not a big celebration. Just maybe a meal, or a movie. And if the day lands on a day where we aren't together, I make the effort to "meet him halfway" in a town that's roughly in between us.. just to see him on that day. We just had one this past Friday. He took me to a tea house that I've been wanting to go to for a long time, and we had afternoon tea. Then we ate dinner at a local cafe that we go to every week. Nothing special. But I got to spend it with him.

Now, every half year and yearly anniversary is a different story. I want the whole shebang of dressing up, doing my hair and getting my makeup on. And I want to go to a fancy schmancy place where I don't look like an idiot for dressing up.

People occasionally roll their eyes, laugh or make comments about how I, someone who hates cheesy cliche things, do this ritual. I always reply that it's a great excuse for him to pay for dinner! And I never say no to free dinner.

 

[audball]

We do! We have celebrated all of them.

We have the dates of our first meeting, our admissions of feelings for each other, our first kiss, our first date, our first I love you, our first , that sort of thing. I'm really good with dates and we'll probably always celebrate these milestones in some way. It's fun, and it reminds you of the times early on where you were falling in love.

We don't do anything monthly for these things, just on their yearly anniversary, but I do usually pause and think of him (more so than usual) on the 14th since that is the one we celebrate as our "dating anniversary" for the amount of time we've been together.

We have plans for our dating anniversary this year...should be fun!

 

[star sparkle]

I used to at least want an acknowledgement from him on a monthly basis, but he thought that was lame. I gave up on that pretty quick and now we just celebrate the big yearly anniversary. Our dating anniversary and his birthday are only 2 days apart, so last year it was like a big ol' birthday/anniversary weekend rolled together. It was awesome!!

 

[madelise]

We do! We have celebrated all of them.

We have the dates of our first meeting, our admissions of feelings for each other, our first kiss, our first date, our first I love you, our first , that sort of thing. I'm really good with dates and we'll probably always celebrate these milestones in some way. It's fun, and it reminds you of the times early on where you were falling in love.

We don't do anything monthly for these things, just on their yearly anniversary, but I do usually pause and think of him (more so than usual) on the 14th since that is the one we celebrate as our "dating anniversary" for the amount of time we've been together.

We have plans for our dating anniversary this year...should be fun!

OMG. I cannot remember that many dates, lol! Your first ? I wonder how you celebrate! HAH!

Our anniversary date is probably more realistically the 14th, as well. I'm pretty sure he made his stupid cheesy comments after midnight. But since we weren't sure, and the number 13 is my favorite number.. we just went with the 13th .

 

[madelise]

I used to at least want an acknowledgement from him on a monthly basis, but he thought that was lame. I gave up on that pretty quick and now we just celebrate the big yearly anniversary. Our dating anniversary and his birthday are only 2 days apart, so last year it was like a big ol' birthday/anniversary weekend rolled together. It was awesome!!

WHAT!!! Lame?! My SO beats me to it sometimes.. since I'm often forgetful of the current dates. But yours is so sweet anyway, with the whole flowers delivery and everything.. <3

If his bday and your anniversary are rolled together.. does that mean you only have to get him 1 present?

 

[LoveLikeCrazy]

We do! We have celebrated all of them.

We have the dates of our first meeting, our admissions of feelings for each other, our first kiss, our first date, our first I love you, our first , that sort of thing. I'm really good with dates and we'll probably always celebrate these milestones in some way. It's fun, and it reminds you of the times early on where you were falling in love.

We don't do anything monthly for these things, just on their yearly anniversary, but I do usually pause and think of him (more so than usual) on the 14th since that is the one we celebrate as our "dating anniversary" for the amount of time we've been together.

We have plans for our dating anniversary this year...should be fun!

Oh my god! I can't remeber all those dates for me and my SO either. I feel like a bad gf now...LOL

We live together so its a little different now as i see him all.the.time! But we give each other cards with long drawn out notes in them, every month. I kinda put a stop to that this month...kinda getting too much haha. Unless the date falls on a weekend, we only see each other really late at night (11:30pm) when i get out of work. If it's on a weekend we do a date night. Although, we do date night every weekend, so i guess its all the same..LOL

Our one year is coming up in July. I don't want/can't afford a big present thing. So i have already brought this up to him. So i think we will be doing a nice dinner out...all dressed up and hopefully someplace nice to go! Poor FF sees me probally more without makeup then on...i got comfortable...LOL

 

[madelise]

Oh my god! I can't remeber all those dates for me and my SO either. I feel like a bad gf now...LOL

We live together so its a little different now as i see him all.the.time! But we give each other cards with long drawn out notes in them, every month. I kinda put a stop to that this month...kinda getting too much haha. Unless the date falls on a weekend, we only see each other really late at night (11:30pm) when i get out of work. If it's on a weekend we do a date night. Although, we do date night every weekend, so i guess its all the same..LOL

Our one year is coming up in July. I don't want/can't afford a big present thing. So i have already brought this up to him. So i think we will be doing a nice dinner out...all dressed up and hopefully someplace nice to go! Poor FF sees me probally more without makeup then on...i got comfortable...LOL

Me too. In fact, no one sees me with makeup on anymore! I just get my eyebrows threaded, and leave bare faced everyday now. I tell people that they're lucky I even shower and brush my hair anymore.

I think the little notes are cute! I used to write letters to SO, but I stopped doing that since he never wrote back anyway. He has a whole backpack full of love notes. It's fun to dig 'em up after time has passed.

 

[pandabee]

Our anniversary is pretty arbitrary, but he humors me and we celebrate our yearly anyway! We have gone out to dinner and got each other presents. Recently we had a half-year-versary and he made fun of me saying it wasn't a real thing. Haha so much less celebrating all our other firsts...but I do usually bring it up and mention it at least once during the day. Our anni is in October, then his bday in November, then Christmas so even though they're spread out it's hard to think of so many good presents haha. He is not very good at leaving notes, leave it to me to write long novels in cards to him

 

[audball]

We do! We have celebrated all of them.

We have the dates of our first meeting, our admissions of feelings for each other, our first kiss, our first date, our first I love you, our first , that sort of thing. I'm really good with dates and we'll probably always celebrate these milestones in some way. It's fun, and it reminds you of the times early on where you were falling in love.

We don't do anything monthly for these things, just on their yearly anniversary, but I do usually pause and think of him (more so than usual) on the 14th since that is the one we celebrate as our "dating anniversary" for the amount of time we've been together.

We have plans for our dating anniversary this year...should be fun!

OMG. I cannot remember that many dates, lol! Your first ? I wonder how you celebrate! HAH!

Our anniversary date is probably more realistically the 14th, as well. I'm pretty sure he made his stupid cheesy comments after midnight. But since we weren't sure, and the number 13 is my favorite number.. we just went with the 13th .

Haha, yeah we have lots of anniversaries! I'm sure they won't get all celebrated every year forever, but for now it's fun. All of our anniversaries span from April to August except four our first meeting which was in October. And when I say celebrate, I don't mean cards and gifts, etc. Just saying happy _____ anniversary and maybe ordering in or something. We're pretty casual most of the time anyway!

 

[sonnyjane]

We just celebrate our wedding anniversary. We were one of those couples that didn't have "the talk" about dating, so we don't have that anniversary, and I don't remember what day he proposed, so we don't celebrate that either. I figure the less things we have to remember, the less likely we are to forget

 

[princesss]

Nope. I think on our six month "anniversary" we didn't even talk! Normally I like to have some mention of it, but this time I was actually more focused on the fact that 6 months before I'd been doing really cool things like skydiving, and 6 months later I was stuck in an office staring at a gorgeous view of a parking lot.

I was with him at 5 months, and I think I kind of realized it and we both kind of said, "Oh. Cool."

Honestly, I spend much more time counting down until I can see him or worrying about when to buy tickets for the next visit than I do caring about how long it's been since we've gotten together. That's really weird for me, too, because normally I like to celebrate stuff like that.

 

[star sparkle]

I used to at least want an acknowledgement from him on a monthly basis, but he thought that was lame. I gave up on that pretty quick and now we just celebrate the big yearly anniversary. Our dating anniversary and his birthday are only 2 days apart, so last year it was like a big ol' birthday/anniversary weekend rolled together. It was awesome!!

WHAT!!! Lame?! My SO beats me to it sometimes.. since I'm often forgetful of the current dates. But yours is so sweet anyway, with the whole flowers delivery and everything.. <3

If his bday and your anniversary are rolled together.. does that mean you only have to get him 1 present?

Haha, yeah..at the beginning I'd be like "Happy xx months!" or something like that, and he'd just roll his eyes or sometimes laugh at me. I think he thought it was cute, but didn't completely understand it. Boys.

Aww, I do <3 the flowers! He sends them to me anytime he has to travel. He travels quite a bit for work and it was a HUGE bone of contention for us about a year ago and we almost actually broke up over it. But anyway, after we had a particularly large blowout over it and he realized how insensitive he was being about the whole thing, he started sending me flowers each time he had to travel. The most surprising thing is that he came up with the idea all on his own! And I do appreciate the gesture - obviously it doesn't make me miss him any less, but it's nice to have the visual reminder that even though he's not around, he still loves me more than anything and thinks about me all the time. This past week he went on two separate trips, hence the two deliveries so close to each other.

Re: getting him only one present - lol! Last year I tried to just get him one thing as a joint bday/anniversary gift because it was pretty expensive, but I love spoiling him so much that I ended up getting him a second anniversary present anyway. He was annoyed because they were both kind of pricey, but whatever. He loved them both and I know he wouldn't trade them for anything now.

 

[sonnyjane]

Just curious...

For you girls that celebrate your monthly anniversaries, how long have you been together? I'm imagining it hasn't been a decade and you're celebrating your 122nd month anniversaries, right? That would be exhausting lol.

 

[madelise]

Just curious...

For you girls that celebrate your monthly anniversaries, how long have you been together? I'm imagining it hasn't been a decade and you're celebrating your 122nd month anniversaries, right? That would be exhausting lol.

28 months. But like I said, it's not really too much of a "celebration". More of an acknowledgement dinner, if we can manage to meet. If not, an acknowledgement "Happy _ Months" when we get a chance to talk about our days to each other.

But then again I have a thing with #'s. I like counting.

He's actually better at it than I am, though. I put more an effort into it now. In the beginning, he'd always beat me to the punch to greet me because I'd always forget the date. I thought it was cheesy and rolled my own eyes a few months. Then I caught on because it was fun for us.

 

[madelise]

Re: getting him only one present - lol! Last year I tried to just get him one thing as a joint bday/anniversary gift because it was pretty expensive, but I love spoiling him so much that I ended up getting him a second anniversary present anyway. He was annoyed because they were both kind of pricey, but whatever. He loved them both and I know he wouldn't trade them for anything now.

Yeah, I failed at that one big gift thing before, too I think of something he'd really like and it'd be more pricey, so I'd purchase it with the intention of it representing more than 1 occasion... then the 2nd occasion would roll around, and I'd want him to open something else. Even if it is just a box of socks because I've been noticing how many holes are in his.

 

[sonnyjane]

Just curious...

For you girls that celebrate your monthly anniversaries, how long have you been together? I'm imagining it hasn't been a decade and you're celebrating your 122nd month anniversaries, right? That would be exhausting lol.

28 months. But like I said, it's not really too much of a "celebration". More of an acknowledgement dinner, if we can manage to meet. If not, an acknowledgement "Happy _ Months" when we get a chance to talk about our days to each other.

But then again I have a thing with #'s. I like counting.

He's actually better at it than I am, though. I put more an effort into it now. In the beginning, he'd always beat me to the punch to greet me because I'd always forget the date. I thought it was cheesy and rolled my own eyes a few months. Then I caught on because it was fun for us.

Gotcha. For the last two years in a row, I have had to remind my husband that it was his birthday and how old he was, so I reallllllly don't expect him to remember any milestones other than our wedding anniversary lol.

 

[madelise]

Just curious...

For you girls that celebrate your monthly anniversaries, how long have you been together? I'm imagining it hasn't been a decade and you're celebrating your 122nd month anniversaries, right? That would be exhausting lol.

28 months. But like I said, it's not really too much of a "celebration". More of an acknowledgement dinner, if we can manage to meet. If not, an acknowledgement "Happy _ Months" when we get a chance to talk about our days to each other.

But then again I have a thing with #'s. I like counting.

He's actually better at it than I am, though. I put more an effort into it now. In the beginning, he'd always beat me to the punch to greet me because I'd always forget the date. I thought it was cheesy and rolled my own eyes a few months. Then I caught on because it was fun for us.

Gotcha. For the last two years in a row, I have had to remind my husband that it was his birthday and how old he was, so I reallllllly don't expect him to remember any milestones other than our wedding anniversary lol.

Hahaha. I can't wait for that to happen. Do you think I can manage to 'forget' his present if he forgets his birthday? JK.

I write these things down on my planner so I don't forget. I look at my planner daily, so I notice an anniversary a week in advance. Heck, I almost forgot my birthday this year!

 

[audball]

I have things marked on my calendar. I know we won't celebrate them forever, but like being able to look back and remember those special days.

 

[MissStepcut]

We only celebrate our first date anniversary, yearly. But we don't celebrate it on the date. It's more like Thanksgiving, in that it's during a certain date on the calendar, but rather on a weekend that is a big event at our law school.

 

[missy]

We got married twice so we celebrate each of those anniversaries though we just may do a card and a day together without going out to eat etc. We only do gifts for one of our wedding anniversaries (the later date) LOL.

Our first date anniversary is actually the date we got married the second time (one day off so our wedding could be on a Saturday) so we get to celebrate both the same day. For us, it's not so much what we do but just that we remember and do something meaningful together.

We celebrate the anniversary of the day my dh proposed and that is always a walk in the park to the tree where my dh proposed to me. It was so romantic and I cherish that memory and love reliving it with my dh.

As for gifts we do not do a gift for each occasion- that would be too expensive but we always commemorate with a card and write something meaningful. It is always special remembering and celebrating together no matter what we do.

Like MSC though if it falls on an inconvenient day of the week we will go to the nearest weekend and celebrate then. We are not terribly attached to the exact date.

ETA: we never celebrated month anniversaries...not even when we were dating. There were/are always enough occasions for celebrating our relationship/love that we didn't even think of it.

 

[slg47]

We got married twice so we celebrate each of those anniversaries though we just may do a card and a day together without going out to eat etc. We only do gifts for one of our wedding anniversaries (the later date) LOL.

Our first date anniversary is actually the date we got married the second time (one day off so our wedding could be on a Saturday) so we get to celebrate both the same day. For us, it's not so much what we do but just that we remember and do something meaningful together.

We celebrate the anniversary of the day my dh proposed and that is always a walk in the park to the tree where my dh proposed to me. It was so romantic and I cherish that memory and love reliving it with my dh.

As for gifts we do not do a gift for each occasion- that would be too expensive but we always commemorate with a card and write something meaningful. It is always special remembering and celebrating together no matter what we do.

Like MSC though if it falls on an inconvenient day of the week we will go to the nearest weekend and celebrate then. We are not terribly attached to the exact date.

ETA: we never celebrated month anniversaries...not even when we were dating. There were/are always enough occasions for celebrating our relationship/love that we didn't even think of it.

missy this is so sweet

we celebrate year anniversaries of our first date. I think after the wedding (37 days away!) we will celebrate wedding anniversaries only but might acknowledge the 1st date anniversary.

 

[snoopkat]

We celebrate yearly anniversaries (we got together on Easter Saturday so that was an easy date to remember! ) Mr snoopkat wants to add the date we got engaged to the 'celebration calendar' so we'll start celebrating that this year. After the wedding, I guess we'll have to add the wedding date to the calendar too.

After 5 years together, a dog and a cat whose birthdays we also celebrate, it gets too hard to try and remember anything else.

 

[missy]

We got married twice so we celebrate each of those anniversaries though we just may do a card and a day together without going out to eat etc. We only do gifts for one of our wedding anniversaries (the later date) LOL.

Our first date anniversary is actually the date we got married the second time (one day off so our wedding could be on a Saturday) so we get to celebrate both the same day. For us, it's not so much what we do but just that we remember and do something meaningful together.

We celebrate the anniversary of the day my dh proposed and that is always a walk in the park to the tree where my dh proposed to me. It was so romantic and I cherish that memory and love reliving it with my dh.

As for gifts we do not do a gift for each occasion- that would be too expensive but we always commemorate with a card and write something meaningful. It is always special remembering and celebrating together no matter what we do.

Like MSC though if it falls on an inconvenient day of the week we will go to the nearest weekend and celebrate then. We are not terribly attached to the exact date.

ETA: we never celebrated month anniversaries...not even when we were dating. There were/are always enough occasions for celebrating our relationship/love that we didn't even think of it.

missy this is so sweet

we celebrate year anniversaries of our first date. I think after the wedding (37 days away!) we will celebrate wedding anniversaries only but might acknowledge the 1st date anniversary.

Thank you slg. And best of luck and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!!! Sending PS dust to make it a magical day for you and your dh to be!

 

[MayFlowers]

We celebrate yearly anniversaries. I used to count the months and just say "Happy __ months", but after about 2 years, that got to be too much. I used to remember the date of our first kiss, but can't anymore. I would have to look back at a calendar from that year to figure it out because I know I remember the weekend it happened, just not the date.

 

[audball]

We celebrate yearly anniversaries. I used to count the months and just say "Happy __ months", but after about 2 years, that got to be too much. I used to remember the date of our first kiss, but can't anymore. I would have to look back at a calendar from that year to figure it out because I know I remember the weekend it happened, just not the date.

This makes sense. You made it longer than we did. After about 6 months, I was done keeping up with the months, lol.

 

[pandabee]

Today is our 2 year first date anniversary! (not our official dating anniversary, which I chose an arbitrary date for hehe). I said something to him about it today but he laughed and said he would rather not remember it since it was such a disastrous first date (goodness knows why I stuck around haha just kidding). We were going to watch a movie but couldn't pick one, so he finally picked one and when we got there it was sold out. We walked over to Target and bought a movie and he picked I am Legend and it was way to dramatic and depressing hahah. But 2 years later, we're still here!

 

[madelise]

We celebrate yearly anniversaries. I used to count the months and just say "Happy __ months", but after about 2 years, that got to be too much. I used to remember the date of our first kiss, but can't anymore. I would have to look back at a calendar from that year to figure it out because I know I remember the weekend it happened, just not the date.

This makes sense. You made it longer than we did. After about 6 months, I was done keeping up with the months, lol.

I have to admit, I love counting. BUT I do need a calculator because I can't keep up!

 

[madelise]

Today is our 2 year first date anniversary! (not our official dating anniversary, which I chose an arbitrary date for hehe). I said something to him about it today but he laughed and said he would rather not remember it since it was such a disastrous first date (goodness knows why I stuck around haha just kidding). We were going to watch a movie but couldn't pick one, so he finally picked one and when we got there it was sold out. We walked over to Target and bought a movie and he picked I am Legend and it was way to dramatic and depressing hahah. But 2 years later, we're still here!

As another survivor of sh!tty first few dates, congratulations on the big 2 : ) Are you planning anything special, or does he really not want to remember lol.

 

[pandabee]

Today is our 2 year first date anniversary! (not our official dating anniversary, which I chose an arbitrary date for hehe). I said something to him about it today but he laughed and said he would rather not remember it since it was such a disastrous first date (goodness knows why I stuck around haha just kidding). We were going to watch a movie but couldn't pick one, so he finally picked one and when we got there it was sold out. We walked over to Target and bought a movie and he picked I am Legend and it was way to dramatic and depressing hahah. But 2 years later, we're still here!

As another survivor of sh!tty first few dates, congratulations on the big 2 : ) Are you planning anything special, or does he really not want to remember lol.

hehe. not planning anything special, we usually celebrate our "fake" anniversary. very busy with school recently as the year is wrapping up so not really any time either!

 

[Magpie09]

In the first year I mentioned our anniversary every month (SO thought I was weird). Then the next couple of years it was the 6-monthly ones. Now it's yearly. I wonder if after 30 years we will go 'oh look another decade!'

I guess in the first year there are so many milestones and every month is an achievement after a few years you only acknowledge the major events as there aren't as many firsts.... hmm a bit like babies really where you count the months in the first couple of years and then the years after that.