Do You Hate It???

[sarita]

Kaili,

Hello. First of all I just want to say don't feel guilty for feeling the way you do. I have heard some brides-to-be get that "this is the one" feeling when trying/choosing a dress... unfortunately it never happened to me and I know I'm not the only one. (don't get me wrong, I like my dress a lot but I am the type that always second guesses). But you hear that you should, and if you don't it's only natural to doubt you made the right choice. It would be great if there was a big clang of the cymbols, but at the same time I think it might not be a good idea to expect that to happen, ya know?

Back to your dress.... I think it looks great on you. Really. You carrry off the ballgown very very well. Not everyone can, I wish I could! I agree with some of the others that said (in so many words) that the top looks better from afar than up close, but I also think this is true with a lot of gowns. In the shops, so many looked just plain tack-Y to me on the rack (too much embellishment) but on the body they look very nice and add a bit of flair to a plain gown.

Whatever your decision, good luck. If you find this really isn't the gown for you, I think you should listen to your heart and get one you feel better suits you, maybe just lower the budget... there are great gowns to be had for cheap. But don't order anything you can't try on first!!

 

[Anastasia]

Old Married Lady chiming in here. I was a "two dress bride" back in 1992! I thought I was the only whacko out there that would do that!

I too regretted my first dress after I bought it. Your story sounds exactly like mine. I tortured myself for months. Finally one day, about 6 months before the wedding, I saw an ad for a sample sale at an upscale shop. I went to the sale and bought the perfect dress. I loved it. I ended up donating the first one. The first one was a sample also, so fortunately, even with two dresses, I only spent $700 total. The one I ended up with was a $2,000.00 Jim Hjelm.

Moral of the story is, you should love your wedding dress. I think I would still regret it now if I hadn''t bought the second dress.

I''m curious to hear how you feel about it after trying on other dresses. I think that will help you make up your mind!

Good Luck!

 

[LAJennifer]

I think the dress is lovely. The bodice is too long on you and needs shortened (like in the pic of the model). That would change the way it looks on you a great deal. Can you describe what you loved about the dress when you bought it? Try not to fall victim to the "when you try on ''the one'', you just know". I think that is more "fantasy thinking" than actual reality. I''ve even known girls who felt that way about their dress and still bought a second dress later. It''s a perfection trap, in my opinion.

If you decide you can''t wear this dress - I like the first Bill Levkov dress Ebree recommended.

 

[UCLABelle]

Hi!

First, if you really don''t LOVE the dress (and deep down only you would know!) don''t wear it to your wedding. A good friend of mine bought a dress she liked in a "sorta works and looks nice" kind of mentality. She regrets the decision years later. This isn''t to say it will happen to you, but it is worth thinking about.

I like the dress, not my style, but it is nice.

Best of luck!

UCLABelle

 

[gailrmv]

Just wanted to chime in to say that I actually love the dress! I like the clean lines and simplicity of it. It seems like a modern version of a classic gown. I like the line of the skirt in particular.
But if you don''t love it, time to move on!
I thought dress shopping would be fun and it wasn''t. It was stressful for me!

 

[Selkie]

I''m going to go bump up the LA get-together thread. Did you have your appointment today?

 

[cpster]

I actually think the dress looks very pretty on you. But who cares what I think...it's what you think that's important. I was a two dress bride myself and don't regret it to this day. If another dress speaks to you more, than find a way to get it. You may have to sacrifice in other areas. I don't agree with going into debt to have a wedding, but if you have the funds then go for a new gown.

 

[rms]

Kaili, I actually think that the dress looks lovely on you, but like others have said, if it''s not what you really feel good in, keep on looking and sell this one!

 

[Tiffany1976]

Kali,

I can''t put my finger on it, but I don''t think that the dress does you justice. I think it is cutting you in half at the chest area. I have shirts that do that, and they are not flattering either. I don''t know if it would be better with alterations, but you have a great figure, and your dress should do a better job of illustrating that.

 

[eks6426]

Kalii--I actually like your dress. It''s different and not too over the top. I agree that the bodice needs to be altered so that the part where the bodice meets the dress is higher like on the model. Also, what about adding a sash to the dress where the bodice meets the skirt? That would help it emphasize your small waist better.