Do you understand his logic? Long...sorry

[absolut_blonde]

I must admit, my initial gut reaction to the first post in this thread was not positive either. I hadn't responded because by the time I got to the thread, it seemed that OP was satisfied with the resolution. But I'll throw in my two cents because I'm bored at work and can relate to the LDR thing.

SO and I have dated for 1 year long distance and we are three hours apart. We see each other nearly every weekend, and with time, seeing each other has progressed past the 'vacation' mindset (though that part was fun too!). That's not to say LDR hasn't changed the dynamic, I'm aware it has -- but I would be upset if SO characterized our LD relationship thus far as somehow less real. We still see each other a lot and in many ways we are just as close or closer than non-LD couples we know. I think everyone's LDR relationship experience is different -- due to variations in distance, frequency of visits, how people communicate, how people bond, etc.


The initial post did strike me as though he was making excuses a bit. But if they are both happy with the current situation and where things are headed, then it doesn't really matter and he doesn't need to try to justify things anyway.

 

[wishful]

Date: 6/10/2008 1:06:43 PM
Author: FrekeChild


Eta: Question-how old are both of you?
Also. BF and I started talking seriously about marriage almost 2 years ago. We first went e-ring shopping in February of 2007. I don''t have a biological clock (mine is broken

) but I definitely know how you feel.

Hahaha....mine too.

 

[absolut_blonde]

Date: 6/10/2008 5:28:34 PM
Author: wishful

Date: 6/10/2008 1:06:43 PM
Author: FrekeChild



Eta: Question-how old are both of you?
Also. BF and I started talking seriously about marriage almost 2 years ago. We first went e-ring shopping in February of 2007. I don''t have a biological clock (mine is broken

) but I definitely know how you feel.

Hahaha....mine too.

I wish I could put mine on hiatus at times! It seems to amplify the LIW angst. I want a baby! (Ok, not RIGHT now, but still)

 

[Anna0499]

I haven't read everyone's posts but I would have to say NO! If he doesn't consider you guys to have been a couple this whole time, did he buy a home and move in with a stranger? That makes zero sense to me and perhaps a stalling technique...

...but I do understand that guys will spit out any thing they can think of when they want to avoid a discussion at that moment in time. Hope everything works out!