Don''t pull a "Jessica Simpson"

[iota]

If he ain''t ready, let him be:

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Jessica Simpson was dumped by Tony Romo because she begged him for an engagement ring.

The singer-and-actress reportedly drove the American football star crazy by constantly talking about settling down.

Tony didn''t feel ready to marry Jessica, so he decided to end their relationship on the eve of her 29th birthday earlier this month.

A source told Britain''s Star magazine: "It got to the point where that''s all she''d talk about. She would speak to him all the time about buying an engagement ring. Even in public.

"Jessica expected it last Christmas. Then she thought she would get one for New Year''s Eve. And when by Valentine''s Day it didn''t happen, the tension between them became explosive.

"The night before her birthday, Tony warned her that he wasn''t ready to buy a ring. They had a massive fight and Tony cut the cord for good."

Jessica is believed to have fled to her mother Tina Simpson''s home in Los Angeles to mend her broken heart.

Since the break-up, Tony has been seen partying with friends at Los Angeles nightspots MyHouse and the Key Club.

It has been claimed Jessica''s interfering father-and-manager Joe Simpson added to the increasing strain on their relationship.

Tony is also believed to be furious after finding text messages on Jessica''s phone from her ex-boyfriend John Mayer.

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[decodelighted]

Date: 7/21/2009 4:54:21 PM
Author:iota
If he ain''t ready, let him be:

If he''s stringing you along ... call him out on it & be prepared to take the consequences. Better she should stick around for another two years & waste her time? Think notsies.

 

[tlh]

Date: 7/21/2009 5:00:23 PM
Author: decodelighted

Date: 7/21/2009 4:54:21 PM
Author:iota
If he ain''t ready, let him be:

If he''s stringing you along ... call him out on it & be prepared to take the consequences. Better she should stick around for another two years & waste her time? Think notsies.

amen.

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 7/21/2009 5:02:27 PM
Author: tlh

Date: 7/21/2009 5:00:23 PM
Author: decodelighted

Date: 7/21/2009 4:54:21 PM
Author:iota
If he ain''t ready, let him be:

If he''s stringing you along ... call him out on it & be prepared to take the consequences. Better she should stick around for another two years & waste her time? Think notsies.

amen.

Yeah.

 

[purelily]

I''d rather be a Jessica than hang around waiting for someone who isn''t decisive.

 

[vip0802]

Date: 7/21/2009 5:13:24 PM
Author: purelily
I''d rather be a Jessica than hang around waiting for someone who isn''t decisive.

very true! still, how awful to deal with a break up right before your b-day

 

[Indylady]

Date: 7/21/2009 5:38:24 PM
Author: vip0802

Date: 7/21/2009 5:13:24 PM

Author: purelily

I''d rather be a Jessica than hang around waiting for someone who isn''t decisive.

very true! still, how awful to deal with a break up right before your b-day

Double ditto.

 

[purelily]

i have to say.. what a jerk!

 

[iota]

Date: 7/21/2009 7:28:03 PM
Author: szh07

Date: 7/21/2009 5:38:24 PM
Author: vip0802

Date: 7/21/2009 5:13:24 PM

Author: purelily

I''d rather be a Jessica than hang around waiting for someone who isn''t decisive.

very true! still, how awful to deal with a break up right before your b-day

Double ditto.

I agree. If he''s not willing to commit to you, it''s not worth your time to stick around.

BUT, I think this case is somewhat different. She was Shoveling Heavy marriage pressure. For whatever this article is worth, if true, isn''t anything I think a PS LIW would do.

Romo still stuck around for a while, which suggests at least to me, that he had definitely considered marrying her. He stuck around even in the face of Jessica''s constant references to her soon-to-be "future husband" in the press since the moment they got together... unless he''s a complete a** and was just using her, in which case, good riddance...

If it were me though, in the face of such heavy pressure, if I had even the teeniest, tiniest, slightest doubt (not even about the person, but just the timing, or just, I''m not ready to have kids now, now, like she''s been suggesting in the press), this teeny tiny doubt would probably turn into a chasm over increasingly heavy, daily doses of marriage pressure. I would think, "I love her, but why is she sooooo crazy into it.... am I really not as into it as I think?"

 

[iota]

The day before her birthday, however, is just bad form.

 

[decodelighted]

Iota,

For one thing I wouldn''t really believe a tabloid about whether or not she "pressured" him ... and, even if she did ...

Honestly, do you think there''s a man alive who actually WANTS to marry a girl who is then scared off when she wants to marry him BACK? When she reciprocates?

You chase off the guys who NEVER would have married you. And even if it was someone who maybe, one day, if nothing-better-comes-along would marry you WHY THE HECK WOULD YOU WANT THAT GUY ANYWAY????

Good Riddance. And what a d-bag for doing it on the eve of her birthday party. I think every girl in America has a story about some loser screwing her over on her b-day. This is hers. (Oh, and you don''t marry the ones who do that - so no loss here.)

 

[iota]

You''ve never come across a situation where someone just wasn''t ready to get married now... but was later?

I have friends who would have bolted if the guy/gal heavily pressured for marriage at some point early in their relationship for whatever reason (for one in particular, "early" would have been a few years into their relationship - where until she was 30/31, just felt she was "too young" to get engaged), but appear to be happily engaged/married now. I don''t feel like they were settling because nothing better came along...

The idea of marriage scares some people. That doesn''t necessarily mean the other person is not ready to commit to you. This is anecdoctal but one of the women in my office have been common law''d for 24 years. She''s 47 and they just got married last year. He bought her a honking 3 carat too. He just didn''t "feel ready" until last year but they''ve been happy all of these years.

I KNOW there are guys/girls that are just not worth your time because they will NEVER commit to you. Sometimes though, heavy (key word on HEAVY) pressure tactics will push away a perfectly good, potential future spouse because they''re just not ready at this particular moment. Yes, heavy pressure tactics (what I''ll call the "Jessica Simpson approach", thanks to the two press releases a week, for a year and a half on "her future husband" and the "father of her soon-to-be born children") can separate the wheat from the chaff (being those who would never commit) but are you also sure you''re not losing out a great partner who would have committed to marriage sometime later down the line?

I have no idea what the Romo situation really was though, and it was obviously jerky for him to do it before her birthday, so I agree, good riddance.

 

[BlueSki231]

how long were they together?

 

[iota]

Since November 2007, so about a year and a half.

 

[LaraOnline]

Date: 7/21/2009 5:00:23 PM
Author: decodelighted

Date: 7/21/2009 4:54:21 PM

Author:iota

If he ain't ready, let him be:

If he's stringing you along ... call him out on it & be prepared to take the consequences. Better she should stick around for another two years & waste her time? Think notsies.

agreed, it does show that they are not 'on the same page'... and at the very least, it doesn't sound like she was enjoying 'the ride'...

 

[omieluv]

While I do not think it is right for him to string her along, I think putting pressure on him in public was not appropriate (assuming she really did). They both just needed to sit down and hash out what they wanted out of the relationship and then decide together if they wanted to make it work.

 

[Clairitek]

Date: 7/21/2009 9:47:30 PM
Author: decodelighted
Iota,

For one thing I wouldn''t really believe a tabloid about whether or not she ''pressured'' him ... and, even if she did ...

Honestly, do you think there''s a man alive who actually WANTS to marry a girl who is then scared off when she wants to marry him BACK? When she reciprocates?

You chase off the guys who NEVER would have married you. And even if it was someone who maybe, one day, if nothing-better-comes-along would marry you WHY THE HECK WOULD YOU WANT THAT GUY ANYWAY????

Good Riddance. And what a d-bag for doing it on the eve of her birthday party. I think every girl in America has a story about some loser screwing her over on her b-day. This is hers. (Oh, and you don''t marry the ones who do that - so no loss here.)

Agreed.

 

[janinegirly]

didn''t they break up once before over the same issue? After that she said she was just going to have fun,etc. But then she also was so desperate to please him, becoming the perfect football g-friend and even trying to fit into whatever he defined as the perfect body type. I think the writing was on the wall with this one...

 

[Londongirl1]

Date: 7/21/2009 7:38:44 PM
Author: purelily
i have to say.. what a jerk!

To be fair unless you know Jessica Simpson and have spoken to her, only she and Tony know the real reason they broke up.

 

[Nomsdeplume]

Well I would rather deal with the pain sooner rather than spend 10 years waiting for the guy to decide whether I''m "the one" or not.

 

[Jessie702]

i agree completely with what everyone is saying. Its not right for her to pressure him, thats never the best way to get a guy to marry you. While its not right for him to break up right before her birthday. I dont think you should wait around forever for a guy to decide if you are " the one" but i dont think pressurring him is gonna help. If someone is right for you and the one, youll know.

 

[Pushin40]

Date: 7/22/2009 11:16:14 AM
Author: Londongirl1

Date: 7/21/2009 7:38:44 PM
Author: purelily
i have to say.. what a jerk!

To be fair unless you know Jessica Simpson and have spoken to her, only she and Tony know the real reason they broke up.

Yes ABSOLUTELY, GIRLS! Tabloids are tabloids!

And where is everyone gettign the idea that he was stringing her along and is indecisive? He soudns pretty decisive to me!

A year and a half is not that long. Sonds just like the time to see if you''re on the same page or not. Guess they were not.

What did poor Tony do to be categoized as a D''Bag? Because he didn''t allow himself to be manipulated by her?

 

[janinegirly]

tabloids aren''t a great source of fact, but they do tend to get it right more often than not. Alot of time the celebrity''s camp leaks "news" to them so they can get their side out there. If neither camp denies it, it''s probably more true than not. Anyway I''m not going to feel guilty about discussing celebs personal lives since they sure benefit from the overexposure in other areas!

And i agree with pushin40--I''m no Tony Romo fan, but you can''t say he isn''t decisive. A year and a half is not long and to stick around longer while she "dropped hints" would have been to lead her on. She obviously thought the pressure would work and it backfired. Her first marriage was a disaster, I don''t get why she doesn''t chill out on the whole marriage thing for a couple of years. Seems to be what Nick Lachey is doing. Jessica Simpson also had a similar pattern with John Mayer, dyed her hair dark and tried to get introspective in order to please him and keep him around. Backfired.

I guess the moral is be true to yourself and stick to your own goals. People who somehow cause you to do different, should probably not be in your life. Easier said than done though, I know!

 

[NewEnglandLady]

I agree that it''s better she knows he''s not marriage-minded now instead of investing more of her time. That being said, if she did whine and pressure him to the point where he couldn''t take it anymore and dumped her, she''s probably a little regretful. Not that the relationship is over, but that she didn''t bow out gracefully instead of coming off as needy and insecure.

 

[Londongirl1]

Date: 7/22/2009 1:19:11 PM
Author: Pushin40

Date: 7/22/2009 11:16:14 AM
Author: Londongirl1

Date: 7/21/2009 7:38:44 PM
Author: purelily
i have to say.. what a jerk!

To be fair unless you know Jessica Simpson and have spoken to her, only she and Tony know the real reason they broke up.

Yes ABSOLUTELY, GIRLS! Tabloids are tabloids!

And where is everyone gettign the idea that he was stringing her along and is indecisive? He soudns pretty decisive to me!

A year and a half is not that long. Sonds just like the time to see if you''re on the same page or not. Guess they were not.

What did poor Tony do to be categoized as a D''Bag? Because he didn''t allow himself to be manipulated by her?

 

[purelily]

I was commenting on him breaking up with her the night of her birthday.

 

[lucyandroger]

Date: 7/22/2009 4:36:42 PM
Author: purelily
I was commenting on him breaking up with her the night of her birthday.

And no matter what reason there was for the break up, doing it right before her birthday was pretty crummy!

I wonder if Jessica was every a LIW lurking on here...

 

[Rock_of_Love]

Yeah, right before her birthday was pretty crappy!!

Obviously we don''t know what''s true and what isn''t, but seriously, I don''t understand why sometimes people can''t just relax and enjoy the relationship. It is like there always has to be a "next step." Date for "X" yrs...get ring...get engaged...get married...have kids...blah blah blah...God forbid we don''t follow "the plan."

If she truly was bugging him and bugging him about a "ring" - that BUGS (pun intended!). Desperation can be very unattractive. But, true, if it was that he wasn''t committing...good riddance.

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

Date: 7/21/2009 9:42:33 PM
Author: iota

Date: 7/21/2009 7:28:03 PM
Author: szh07

Date: 7/21/2009 5:38:24 PM
Author: vip0802

Date: 7/21/2009 5:13:24 PM

Author: purelily

I''d rather be a Jessica than hang around waiting for someone who isn''t decisive.

very true! still, how awful to deal with a break up right before your b-day

Double ditto.

I agree. If he''s not willing to commit to you, it''s not worth your time to stick around.

BUT, I think this case is somewhat different. She was Shoveling Heavy marriage pressure. For whatever this article is worth, if true, isn''t anything I think a PS LIW would do.

Romo still stuck around for a while, which suggests at least to me, that he had definitely considered marrying her. He stuck around even in the face of Jessica''s constant references to her soon-to-be ''future husband'' in the press since the moment they got together... unless he''s a complete a** and was just using her, in which case, good riddance...

If it were me though, in the face of such heavy pressure, if I had even the teeniest, tiniest, slightest doubt (not even about the person, but just the timing, or just, I''m not ready to have kids now, now, like she''s been suggesting in the press), this teeny tiny doubt would probably turn into a chasm over increasingly heavy, daily doses of marriage pressure. I would think, ''I love her, but why is she sooooo crazy into it.... am I really not as into it as I think?''

Iota - read through some of the long ago LIW posts...you''ll see the the PS LIW forum has been home to plenty of ladies who didn''t handle the waiting process with very much grace and plenty who barraged their boyfriends with nagging questions and plenty of pressure. Some eventually got engaged. Some did not. Others, well...we never knew what happened with them.

 

[Thomperchik]

I hate how the media always portrays her to be a needy woman. I think it is fair to say that every woman has the right to know if their relationship is going to go somewhere. The only difference is that she''s a celebrity. People criticized her over her marriage with Nick, her weight gain and now this? It would be totally different if she had a penis...