Downsizing an Engagement Ring: Worth it or Not

[DiamondsNPearls]

I need a second opinion &I need to know if it's a bad idea or not? My fiance got my engagement ring specially done in his hometown of Bogotá, Colombia earlier this year (which is famous for it's emerald gemstones). We are going there in two weeks & the jeweler is a family friend of ours. I don't want to insult his beautiful work, but I wonder if it would be bad to downsize to a .50-.75 carat, or if I should purchase the diamond myself from BlueNile. My fiance doesn't know & of course, I love the ring & DO NOT want to offend him.

But we are Latinos & in our culture, big flashy diamonds are not very "in style", if you have a diamond ring, it's assumed that your engaged to an American. The diamond is beautiful, but it makes me a tad self-conscious, even in front of family/friends, since most of them are other Latinos w/ either gold/silver wedding bands and nothing more.

I really don't want to insult our jewler, so I am considering taking it to an independent jewler over there in Colombia or over here in the USA.

I wonder how much the cost would be to downsize?

My diamond is 1.02 carats, it's a J, SI2, I would like to downsize to something between .50-.75 carats

Any ideas? No rude comments please. I mainly am concerned about taking it to another jewler versus our family one in Bogotá.

 

[eh613c]

I think it's a lovely ring and I was wondering if you could just wear your wedding band everyday and your ering on special occasions. I know that you're concerned about everyone else but what do YOU think of the ring?

 

[Kelli]

I second that. Maybe a little diamond band or something you could use as an "all purpose" ring? Most people on this forum prefer to upgrade over time. Is it at all possible you might feel a little more comfortable when you're older? Seems a shame to get rid of such a gorgeous stone. Hang out here a while and check out the 3+ carat rocks. Maybe you'll feel less self-conscious? It seems sweet that your fiance wanted to get you something so nice even though it wasn't expected. Whatever you decide, congrats on the engagement!

 

[iluvshinythings]

Congratulations on your engagement!

It's a beautiful ring but I understand that what is beautiful and acceptable in some cultures isn't viewed the same in others. I'm sure your fiance bought you the ring with the intention of making you happy. If it makes you uncomfortable to wear it, I think you should get something you do feel comfortable wearing. I don't think I'd trade in the ring my fiance gave me without talking to him about it first though.

 

[bunnycat]

Note: This topic is also being discussed in RT. If you read the PP's previous topics, the ring and stone were chosen by her and were not a surprise.

I made my comments in RT, but OP, I think you really need to be honest with yourself and also don't lead people on here about what the history of your ring is. You have questioned the color ever since your first post back in March when you were buying the ring. This wasn't a surprise ring from your BF and I don't feel like it's nice to lead people here to make comments about what you should do based on that assumption. People do want to help you, but you have to be honest with your story as well.

There is no shame in changing your mind about what you have, and you need to discuss it with your FI, but I think if you are expecting a "hive" mentality here and being told what to do, you most likely won't find that attitude here. Most people are going to do just what has been said and tell you only you can make that choice.