Dream Proposal?

[choro72]

While all of us LIW are waiting twiddling our thumbs, I''m sure many of you have daydreamed about HOW it''s going to happen. So I thought it would be fun to spill out what your ideal proposal would be like.
Of course there should be an understanding that no matter what the final real method would be, be it while I am taking a shower for example, we will still be ecstatic and tearful.

I''ll start first. My dream proposal will be at Disneyland, where we had our first date. He would make a reservation at the Blue Bayou, which requires a month as Erin probably knows. He would have something arranged with the people at the next table. He would ask the people to take a picture (so that I wouldn''t suspect) while secretly setting the mode on to "video" (of course the people will know this). When they hit the shutter button, it will start recording the video. Instead of going over to take the camera, he will drop on one knee and propose. After many hugs, kisses, clapping, and tears, we will go out in front of the castle to watch the fireworks.

Anyone else have a dream scenario? Or should I go to an asylum?

 

[FrekeChild]

You're not the only one...but I have several.

...slipping the ring on my finger while I'm sleeping. Because I wouldn't see it coming-AT ALL. Obviously.

...on top of the Crest of these mountains.

...at the end of a scavenger hunt. Because they are awesome.

...any way he wants to on May 5, 2009-because that'll be our 3 year anniversary. Or April 7th, because that's the day we first met. (He has said he won't propose until he's done with his Comprehensive Exams next spring, so 2008 in general is very unlikely.)

...basically any way he can surprise me and catch me completely off guard.

Not on my birthday or his birthday or any other holidays.

 

[moderatelypoorstudent]

Of course in the end: I''d say yes to a twist tie while he asked in the kitchen or even while we were doing something totally unromantic like working.

But if you let the mind wander....

I too have thought of that slip it on my finger thing while I was sleeping but only because: I currently wear a lovely sapphire ring on my left ring finger (and he''d have to get it off first) and I have in fact, removed it in my sleep, whilst dreaming I was scrubbing in for surgery and later woken up in a panic searching for it. So I thought it''d be pretty funny if he took my ring off while I slept and proposed later in the day ( hopefully I''d be less distraught that I was missing my ring

I like the idea of being wherever we were when he first realized I was the one, or where we were on the day we first met.

Something with lots of flowers! (nonspecific) Candles are optional, I''m clumsy and therefore a fire hazard.

On any kind of vacation.

I think I would NOT like to be asked in a restaurant or in public.

 

[Miscka]

I loooove the sleeping idea. I thought about him waking me up in the middle of the night and taking me somewhere, or even just getting down on one knee there. I would want to be awakened though, not just have the ring slipped on my finger. I like this idea because I think I would see it coming any other way and get really worked up and nervous!! I have a tendency to do that

, so this way I would have no idea. Of course, I am not sure that my guy would ever think of this, and hinting about it sort of ruins the fun. OR Tiffany just came out with a locket charm that says "marry me" and I think that would make for an awesome proposal too!

 

[CrookedRock]

I love these threads, but the last one got so out of conrol that I am staying out. I ended up spending 3 days defending myself and others who had dreams of a perfect proposal...
All I am going to say this time, is that I hope all of these come true for you ( and me!), and if it doesn't happen exactly as you hoped for, just remember that it is still wonderful bc it is the first step to the rest of your lives together!


PS... Choro... great idea about the picture tuning into video. I have a friend that wants her enggement on video so badly. I will have to share that with her bf! THanks!

 

[parrot tulips]

This has changed for me as I''ve gotten older (I''m just a few weeks shy of 32). When I was younger, I would have been disappointed if I felt my boyfriend didn''t put in time and effort for a romantic proposal (re-creating our first date, doing a treasure hunt that leads to the ring, whisking me off to some exoctic location, etc.). Not that I''d be devastated or angry, just a little disappointed. Now that I''m older, and I''ve found someone who makes me ridiculously happy, he could ask me in the middle of taking out the trash and I''d be thrilled beyond belief. Now, if he did manage to come up with an uber romantic proposal, I think I''d be too shocked to respond!

He''s the sweetest, most considerate guy ever, and would bend over backwards to make me happy, but romance isn''t exactly his strong suit.

 

[CNOS128]

Date: 3/14/2008 9:17:04 AM
Author: Miscka
I loooove the sleeping idea. I thought about him waking me up in the middle of the night and taking me somewhere, or even just getting down on one knee there. I would want to be awakened though, not just have the ring slipped on my finger. I like this idea because I think I would see it coming any other way and get really worked up and nervous!! I have a tendency to do that

, so this way I would have no idea. Of course, I am not sure that my guy would ever think of this, and hinting about it sort of ruins the fun. OR Tiffany just came out with a locket charm that says ''marry me'' and I think that would make for an awesome proposal too!

My friend''s husband proposed to her by waking her up from a Saturday afternoon nap, slipping the ring on her finger, and asking quietly. That always seemed SO romantic to me!

 

[choro72]

Date: 3/14/2008 9:21:34 AM
Author: CrookedRock
I love these threads, but the last one got so out of conrol that I am staying out. I ended up spending 3 days defending myself and others who had dreams of a perfect proposal...

All I am going to say this time, is that I hope all of these come true for you ( and me!), and if it doesn''t happen exactly as you hoped for, just remember that it is still wonderful bc it is the first step to the rest of your lives together!

PS... Choro... great idea about the picture tuning into video. I have a friend that wants her enggement on video so badly. I will have to share that with her bf! THanks!

Yay, I''m glad I helped! I hope you get your proposal too! Just make sure the other person knows exactly what to do!

I''ve never thought of the slipping the ring while sleeping thing...Although I worry because once my friend slept with her ering on, and the next morning she had a huge gash on her thigh! Yikes.

ParrotTulips, of course I would be thrilled with anything!

My bf asked me what kind of engagement I dream about, and I replied "the kind that gets me engaged to you". He complained that it didn''t help him one bit...

Oh, and I told him no pranks though. "Hey, I have to rethink our relationship. I want to take a break. JUST KIDDING! Happy April''s Fool day! Will you marry me?" He will get socked in you know where.

 

[surfgirl]

Date: 3/14/2008 3:38:05 PM
Author: choro72
ParrotTulips, of course I would be thrilled with anything!

This is the exact reason why that last thread got so heated last time...Because people say that anything really is okay as long as they're just asked by that special someone, except that they've already had such high expectations that they are often really upset because they didn't get their "fairytale" proposal. And then they get bitter and upset and it's a pity that they allow their fantasy to ruin what should be a very special time in their lives, one that they can't "do over". Look at the most recent thread here where someone was totally upset because it didn't pan out like she wanted it to. I think it's important to remember that the man is a huge part of this special moment and whatever he feels comfortable doing should be "perfect" for the two of you. It's not all about the woman, is it? A proposal is perhaps the one aspect in the "getting engaged/getting married" scenario that the guy really has complete control over in a way, so I say let him do it however he feels most comfortable doing it. That way, no matter how you're asked, it's going to be the "perfect for the two of you" way...

 

[moderatelypoorstudent]

Date: 3/14/2008 4:00:51 PM
Author: surfgirl

Date: 3/14/2008 3:38:05 PM

Author: choro72

ParrotTulips, of course I would be thrilled with anything!

This is the exact reason why that last thread got so heated last time...Because people say that anything really is okay as long as they''re just asked by that special someone, except that they''ve already had such high expectations that they are often really upset because they didn''t get their ''fairytale'' proposal. And then they get bitter and upset and it''s a pity that they allow their fantasy to ruin what should be a very special time in their lives, one that they can''t ''do over''. Look at the most recent thread here where someone was totally upset because it didn''t pan out like she wanted it to. I think it''s important to remember that the man is a huge part of this special moment and whatever he feels comfortable doing should be ''perfect'' for the two of you. It''s not all about the woman, is it? A proposal is perhaps the one aspect in the ''getting engaged/getting married'' scenario that the guy really has complete control over in a way, so I say let him do it however he feels most comfortable doing it. That way, no matter how you''re asked, it''s going to be the ''perfect for the two of you'' way...

I think you have a good point here, that sometimes all this wishful thinking does turn out to be just a damper on the experience if a girl isn''t careful.

And I agree, for the most part, it ends up being something that''s very appropriate for a couple. But I think some proposals are just dismal and I don''t know if I''d sit here and defend every guy''s idea. You know?

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

I used to. I used to imagine him doing it while we were in Maine since that seems to be a place we have always reserved just for us. I pictured it taking place by a lighthouse we visit frequently which has a lovely spot to watch the sunset and after we would eat dinner at the resturant by the lighthouse. But, the reality is that I think this dream is too public for him.

Instead what I envision is either a scavenger hunt style search through out the house (he did that before, years ago when we first met and knows I had a fantastic time with it) or something very simple and subdued at the our house with just the two of us.

He''s not a romantic guy so I have a very hard time picturing him doing anything extraordinary. I''ve also told him if he sends me to a spa for the day or sends a limo for me that I''ll know something is up right away...I even said if it seems too romantic I will probably think something is up. He teased me back pointing at his head and said "there''s a lot more than you know of in here...I could pull something off without you figuring it out."

So all that considered, I don''t think about how it will happen half as much as I think about how it will feel to have it happen.

 

[choro72]

Well, this is why I put the disclaimer on the first post, "Of course there should be an understanding that no matter what the final real method would be, be it while I am taking a shower for example, we will still be ecstatic and tearful.". I just thought it will be fun to spill out fantasies. A girl can dream, can''t she?

I mean, if we are mature enough to think about marriage, surely we are able to discern fairy tales form reality?

Well, I haven''t read all the previous posts yet, so I''ll check out what kind of damage was done over there.

 

[sandia_rose]

I don''t really have a perfect proposal in mind, just some basics. I would like to be surprised. Somewhere romantic and somewhat "public" would be ideal, but I don''t have a specific. Beach at sunset, being asked to come onstage at a band concert, a nice restaurant, while we are vacationing in upstate NY and sitting by the fire and lake with his cousins, a surprise party. A proposal isn''t coming my way anytime soon (to my knowledge), but my 40th birthday is in September, and that would be a classic occasion to get engaged, I think. Another thought would be on vacation somewhere. My BF hasn''t traveled a lot, but I have. I used to manage trade show exhibition for a company I worked for, and when I was in my 20s, I was on the road 2-3 weeks out of the month, all over the country. Some great proposal places would be:

The Spinnaker in Sausalito, CA: http://www.thespinnaker.com/tour.html

The Ahwahnee Hotel in Yosemite Park (stunning in late summer): http://www.nationalparkreservations.com/yosemite_ahwahnee.htm

Or local to me (within 45 minutes of where I live)..winery and inn on the Connecticut Wine Trail -
this is INCREDIBLE in the fall: http://www.hopkinsvineyard.com/intro.asp

I''d REALLY like to be proposed to with one of the below. A lot of us have talked about keeping a dream file of rings. Here''s mine. Can ya tell that I like vintage and halos and white metal?

Bridget in Connecticut.

 

[choro72]

Keepingthefaith, my bf is the same way too. I have my fantasies, but realistically my BF isn't someone to do a romantic surprise. Limo?? Never gonna happen.

Actually, knowing my bf just a clean house will be a dead give away.

Sadia, you have great taste!! I never thought of Yosemite or a Winery! Sounds beaaaauuutifullll....mmmmmmm He can propose to you and then enjoy a glass of wine right there. Or camping at Yosemite under the stars...Ooo, I like that one...Ok, I'm daydreaming again...

I love the sapphire halo! I think the color enhances the center stone

Yummmyyy

 

[goodfun7580]

My dream proposal would involve BF renting a limo and picking me up with a piping hot cheese pizza (like in Home Alone 2), have the limo take us to the beach (we live like 5 mins away) and have a picnic on the beach with the pizza and some champagne, and then for him to propose right as the sun is setting! Chances of that happening are not very like, but a girl can dream, right?

 

[choro72]

Date: 3/15/2008 6:07:32 PM
Author: goodfun7580
My dream proposal would involve BF renting a limo and picking me up with a piping hot cheese pizza (like in Home Alone 2), have the limo take us to the beach (we live like 5 mins away) and have a picnic on the beach with the pizza and some champagne, and then for him to propose right as the sun is setting! Chances of that happening are not very like, but a girl can dream, right?

Dreaming up fantasies was the idea of this topic! I don''t remember the cheese pizza scene in HA2. I remember the limo, but not pizza. Hmm... Pizza and champagne sounds so cute for some reason.

 

[CrookedRock]

Date: 3/15/2008 6:07:32 PM
Author: goodfun7580
My dream proposal would involve BF renting a limo and picking me up with a piping hot cheese pizza (like in Home Alone 2), have the limo take us to the beach (we live like 5 mins away) and have a picnic on the beach with the pizza and some champagne, and then for him to propose right as the sun is setting! Chances of that happening are not very like, but a girl can dream, right?

This sounds right up my alley. Exactly what i tried to get across in the other thread. It doesn''t have to be over the top, just thoughtful!

 

[Lanie]

I may be crazy for thinking this way (and most of my friends disagree with me) but I think it would be awesome to be proposed to in front of my family. Or have them just around the corner after he has just proposed. But I wouldn't want it just in front of my parents...I'm talking all of my brothers and sisters, nieces, nephews, etc. I would MUCH rather be with my family than with my friends on this day...just a personal decision I guess.

One of my friends' husbands proposed to her while they were out to dinner with HIS mom and HIS sister. She said she totally didn't expect it, but she's also a little bit sad it couldn't have been someone closer to her, like her family or her friends at least.

But if we were to be alone, which is fine too, I think it would be fun to go back to where we had our first date. BUT we don't go there at all, so if he suggested it one night, my antennae would definitely be up. It would be nice to have an evening out, proposal, and then go back home, and polish off a bottle of champage while we call everyone and tell them the news. I feel bad for him bc I'm sure he thinks I have these huge romantic expectations, but I am happy with just about anything! The waking me up and putting it on my finger wouldn't work if I had to work the next day. I'd NEVER be able to go to sleep, and the first thing I'd want to do is call everyone!

 

[LegacyGirl]

I don''t really have a dream proposal. I just want it to come from the heart.

 

[sunnyd]

Lanie, I always think about doing in front of family too. Our families are really close and usually have dinner together 2x a month or more. So doing it in front of them would be soooo happy for me. But then I think that I'd want to keep it to ourselves for a day or two (if we could last that long...) so I don't know.

Then there's also a gorgeous winery close by too that we go to all the time, and that would be neat.

 

[ladypirate]

Date: 3/13/2008 11:29:43 PM
Author:choro72
While all of us LIW are waiting twiddling our thumbs, I''m sure many of you have daydreamed about HOW it''s going to happen. So I thought it would be fun to spill out what your ideal proposal would be like.

Of course there should be an understanding that no matter what the final real method would be, be it while I am taking a shower for example, we will still be ecstatic and tearful.


I''ll start first. My dream proposal will be at Disneyland, where we had our first date. He would make a reservation at the Blue Bayou, which requires a month as Erin probably knows. He would have something arranged with the people at the next table. He would ask the people to take a picture (so that I wouldn''t suspect) while secretly setting the mode on to ''video'' (of course the people will know this). When they hit the shutter button, it will start recording the video. Instead of going over to take the camera, he will drop on one knee and propose. After many hugs, kisses, clapping, and tears, we will go out in front of the castle to watch the fireworks.


Anyone else have a dream scenario? Or should I go to an asylum?

First off, Kris and I had our first "official" date at Disneyland, too! How funny. We''d known each other for ages already, but our first official outing as a couple was a trip to Disneyland.

I dropped a hint the other day that a good way to get the ball rolling, so to speak (not necessarily propose), would be to surprise me with a trip to Massachusetts to get my finger sized by Mark Morrell (hint hint). Heh. Really, I don''t care how the proposal itself happens, although Kris is a pretty romantic guy and likes to plan things, so I think that whatever he comes up with, I''ll love. Plus, knowing him, it will definitely involve our favorite champagne.

 

[choro72]

Oooo, LadyPirate! Ours was on Dec, 2005. When was yours? Doesn''t sound like you gave a very "subtle" hint right there

Lanie, I''ve thought about family too. My family is overseas so that''s hard. Doing it with my friends will be so sweet...

LegacyGirl, of course that''s what I told my stressed out BF too

But I still have my dreams! I have two categories. "Fairy Tale Fantasies", and "Real World Fantasies".

 

[MoonWater]

My dream proposal includes a ring. Seriously, I''m not gonna be picky.

 

[LegacyGirl]

Date: 3/21/2008 7:55:36 PM
Author: MoonWater
My dream proposal includes a ring. Seriously, I''m not gonna be picky.

I''m feeling you right now. The ring is in the closet and it''s driving me nuts!!!

 

[rizz]

I haven''t really thought about a dream proposal but I have some thoughts now lol

like moonwater said....it HAS to have a ring. I have an EX whose sister was proposed to without a ring and she didn''t get one for like 2 months afterwards. He bought it at a B&M so it wasn''t like it was being custom made. It''s silly but it would really bug me!!

I also like the idea of waking up with the ring on my finger, or happening just as I wake up

obviously anything on the beach would be nice, or climbing up the rocks to my favourite spot on the island

who am I kidding...I''d take anything!!!

 

[Kayakqueen83]

well, if we are talking about DREAM proposals then I would have to say Montmartre in Paris. I was there once when I was 19 and after going up what seems like a million stairs you get to a big opening where you can see what seems like all of Paris. I told my friend that if there was ever a perfect place to propose, Montmartre is it.

However... A trip to Paris wont be happening before the question is popped (unless we win the lottery) So realistically, I would want it to be just us two, unexpected, and with lots of happy tears. That''s it. I know my BF really wants to do something special and is working himself up about it, but in all honesty I just want him to be himself. I think that will be the most romantic part. That the man I love wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Paris can come later. haha

 

[MoonWater]

Date: 3/21/2008 10:10:13 PM
Author: LegacyGirl

Date: 3/21/2008 7:55:36 PM

Author: MoonWater

My dream proposal includes a ring. Seriously, I''m not gonna be picky.

I''m feeling you right now. The ring is in the closet and it''s driving me nuts!!!

Mine is being made and I''m trying to stay distracted until it''s finished! I would die if it were in the closet!!

 

[Deelight]

I think I have mentioned before he plans to propose when we are OS (most likely in Europe ) sometime in or after May *dances* for me I figure as long as he asks and I say yes it will be pretty darn perfect

I am curious as to what he might have planned...

 

[choro72]

Date: 3/22/2008 7:01:42 PM
Author: Kayakqueen83
well, if we are talking about DREAM proposals then I would have to say Montmartre in Paris. I was there once when I was 19 and after going up what seems like a million stairs you get to a big opening where you can see what seems like all of Paris. I told my friend that if there was ever a perfect place to propose, Montmartre is it.


However... A trip to Paris wont be happening before the question is popped (unless we win the lottery) So realistically, I would want it to be just us two, unexpected, and with lots of happy tears. That''s it. I know my BF really wants to do something special and is working himself up about it, but in all honesty I just want him to be himself. I think that will be the most romantic part. That the man I love wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Paris can come later. haha

Mmm, Paris! I think somebody on PS got whisked off to Paris to get engaged before. Not happening to me! Honeymoon?

Judging from your user name, maybe while you are Kayaking? Of course, the ring will have to be tied to yourself to keep from falling in the water

Deelight, I hope your BF fulfills the Europe dream for us!

 

[Dreamgirl]

I have a few ideas but since this is a "dream proposal," I will post my unrealistic idea! lol

Go to NYC together and then sometime without my knowledge have him purchase my dream ring from the original Tiffany''s on 5th ave. We would sometime during our trip have a wonderful day in the city and have him take me on a carriage ride in Central Park (this is something I have always wanted to do and I think it is quite romantic.) After that sometime, propose on bended knee in the park somewhere where there are no people around.....

Then again, I guess that''s not too unrealistic. After all, I DO want a Tiffany''s ring.



Realistically speaking, I hope I get blindsided (still hope its a Tiffany), and I hope its creative and romantic.