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Earring dilemma (and throw in a 3-stone ring to the mix)

What should I do for my earrings?

  • 1) Use the $$$ to upgrade to the 2.358ct H BGD Sign (to pair up with the 2.374ct "blue").

    Votes: 6 21.4%
  • 2) Get back the 2.3ct each J's and use the $$$ to get the JA 3-stone EC ring.

    Votes: 11 39.3%
  • 3) Do neither, ie. do nothing - and I'll tell you why.

    Votes: 11 39.3%

  • Total voters
    28

Phoenix

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Well, Lesley has told me Brian (who's currently in Antwerp sourcing diamonds) is having problems sourcing a match for either the 2.656ct H or the 2.374ct G. I really don't know what to do! I am going crazy here...it's been about 3 months since I shipped my stones to Perry Chen/ LM, and at the earliest it'll be a total of 4 months before I get ANY pair of diamond earrings (even the J's - pls see below). Am having terrible withdrawal symptoms and have resorted to wearing fakies a few times..yuck yuck!! :knockout:

So now, I am thinking that I might take back my 2.3ct each J's (though they'd be sent back to Perry Chen later, as I've 100% made up my mind to sell them eventually) and continue to wait for a BGD match to the 2.656ct (I'd prefer larger earrings). Or should I just get the 2.358ct H from BGD now to match my 2.374ct ? This 2.358ct H was cut by them recently in an effort to match the 2.374ct G but it turned out to be an H and my 2.374ct has MBF so it's like 3 colour grades' difference. But at least they're higher colours than the J's, so more "mind-clean" , you might say.

The problem is if I were to get this 2.358ct H, I'd need to cough up more $$$ (though I have yet another BGD diamond I could trade-in/ upgrade with). It seems to me a little ludicrous to spend all that money to end up with 2 diamonds that don't match, colour-wise, and would have to be upgraded AGAIN later for a matched pair (if a matched pair of my specs would ever surface, that is).

Morever, the $$$ could alternatively be used (with a top-up) to get some smaller EC's (another upgrade but this time with JA, as I have two 1.5ct each originally bought from JA) to make into a 3-stone ring. In one of my recent threads, I mentioned that a pair of earrings and a 3-stone ring are my current bling projects.

I thought I'd go back to having a 3-stone ring made up of RB's but I'm craving EC's (Mayk, you are to blame, lol :tongue: ) and have always had a soft spot for EC's; AND it's extremely unlikely I could EVER get a honker EC, so I thought I could go for a 3-stone ring with smaller EC's. In this case, I wouldn't have to cough up an awful lot of $$$ and the $$$ that would otherwise be used to upgrade to the 2.358ct H with BGD could be used for this purpose instead. And if the match for the 2.656ct doesn't come along any time soon, that'd be totally ok (in fact, DH would probably breathe a sigh of relief as that'd prob mean that that project would be deferred to a much much later time, even 2 or 3 years' time wld totally be a-okay).

So once again, please help me make up my mind. I am kind of leaning towards one option, but help me to make my mind up 100%.

I am creating yet another poll. Pls feel free to vote and/ or to give me your input; particularly if you choose option 3 (ie. do nothing), I'd really appreciate it if you could explain why. I am not inclined to do nothing, as again it's been several months since I wore diamond earrings, but perhaps there's another reason I am not seeing clearly.

Thank you.
 
How about... get back the J's and wear them temporarily while you wait for a match for your 2.65ct. It is better than wearing fakes, right?

Wait until you have earrings that make you happy before starting another project. During the wait, research your 3-stone ring (I believe when you said you took your time, you ended up with a piece you are more likely to treasure).

Yes, it is hard to think reasonably without wearing the proper earrings. So best to get that taken care of first.
 
Me? :saint:

:devil: :Up_to_something: :naughty:

Three stone! :love:
 
donnabrsd|1360248437|3374340 said:
How about... get back the J's and wear them temporarily while you wait for a match for your 2.65ct. It is better than wearing fakes, right?

Wait until you have earrings that make you happy before starting another project. During the wait, research your 3-stone ring (I believe when you said you took your time, you ended up with a piece you are more likely to treasure).

Yes, it is hard to think reasonably without wearing the proper earrings. So best to get that taken care of first.

Ok, so one vote for getting the J's back but NOT get the 3-stone ring yet, is that right? And I should research the 3-stone ring whilst I wait for the matched earrings but I shouldn't finalise on the 3-stone ring before I get the matched earrings, correct?

You are right, I am more likely to treasure something if I have to wait a long time for it/ if I had to do a lot of work before I get it.

Thank you.
 
Mayk|1360249289|3374354 said:
Me? :saint:

:devil: :Up_to_something: :naughty:

Three stone! :love:

Yes, YOU <----------------LOL!!

Ok but what about the earrings?
 
Phoenix|1360249745|3374363 said:
donnabrsd|1360248437|3374340 said:
How about... get back the J's and wear them temporarily while you wait for a match for your 2.65ct. It is better than wearing fakes, right?

Wait until you have earrings that make you happy before starting another project. During the wait, research your 3-stone ring (I believe when you said you took your time, you ended up with a piece you are more likely to treasure).

Yes, it is hard to think reasonably without wearing the proper earrings. So best to get that taken care of first.

Ok, so one vote for getting the J's back but NOT get the 3-stone ring yet, is that right? And I should research the 3-stone ring whilst I wait for the matched earrings but I shouldn't finalise on the 3-stone ring before I get the matched earrings, correct?

You are right, I am more likely to treasure something if I have to wait a long time for it/ if I had to do a lot of work before I get it.

Thank you.

I agree, I like this idea. Why suffer without your diamonds?? :bigsmile:
 
04diamond<3|1360249829|3374365 said:
Phoenix|1360249745|3374363 said:
donnabrsd|1360248437|3374340 said:
How about... get back the J's and wear them temporarily while you wait for a match for your 2.65ct. It is better than wearing fakes, right?

Wait until you have earrings that make you happy before starting another project. During the wait, research your 3-stone ring (I believe when you said you took your time, you ended up with a piece you are more likely to treasure).

Yes, it is hard to think reasonably without wearing the proper earrings. So best to get that taken care of first.

Ok, so one vote for getting the J's back but NOT get the 3-stone ring yet, is that right? And I should research the 3-stone ring whilst I wait for the matched earrings but I shouldn't finalise on the 3-stone ring before I get the matched earrings, correct?

You are right, I am more likely to treasure something if I have to wait a long time for it/ if I had to do a lot of work before I get it.

Thank you.

I agree, I like this idea. Why suffer without your diamonds?? :bigsmile:

He he, I am totally suffering :cheeky: :wink2: ...SERIOUSLY!! :naughty: :devil:
 
I voted to get the Js back and go for the three-stone as well. Why spend so much on have 2 studs with such a great color difference when the difference might end up bugging you and you plan to eventually upgrade them anyways? This way you'll have a nice pair of temporary studs AND a lovely new ring! I think for me it would be more mind clean to have matching color in studs than have higher color overall (and this is coming from someone who is very color-sensitive).
 
stargurl78|1360250169|3374371 said:
I voted to get the Js back and go for the three-stone as well. Why spend so much on have 2 studs with such a great color difference when the difference might end up bugging you and you plan to eventually upgrade them anyways? This way you'll have a nice pair of temporary studs AND a lovely new ring! I think for me it would be more mind clean to have matching color in studs than have higher color overall (and this is coming from someone who is very color-sensitive).


Thank you for your vote, stargurl.

I am tempted to have both the J's back AND get the 3-EC stone ring at the same time, sooner rather than later! :naughty: . I know that's my no 2 option above but as donnabrsd suggested, perhaps I should take my own sweet time planning for the 3-stone EC ring (?)
 
Phoenix|1360251916|3374399 said:
stargurl78|1360250169|3374371 said:
I voted to get the Js back and go for the three-stone as well. Why spend so much on have 2 studs with such a great color difference when the difference might end up bugging you and you plan to eventually upgrade them anyways? This way you'll have a nice pair of temporary studs AND a lovely new ring! I think for me it would be more mind clean to have matching color in studs than have higher color overall (and this is coming from someone who is very color-sensitive).


Thank you for your vote, stargurl.

I am tempted to have both the J's back AND get the 3-EC stone ring :naughty: , but wouldn't that be rather extravagant?

Nooooooooo, of course not :Up_to_something: Ok, maybe a little but who cares?! You have such beautiful, classic pieces and I think a 3-stone emerald cut ring would be a perfect addition to your collection!
 
stargurl78|1360252137|3374403 said:
Phoenix|1360251916|3374399 said:
stargurl78|1360250169|3374371 said:
I voted to get the Js back and go for the three-stone as well. Why spend so much on have 2 studs with such a great color difference when the difference might end up bugging you and you plan to eventually upgrade them anyways? This way you'll have a nice pair of temporary studs AND a lovely new ring! I think for me it would be more mind clean to have matching color in studs than have higher color overall (and this is coming from someone who is very color-sensitive).


Thank you for your vote, stargurl.

I am tempted to have both the J's back AND get the 3-EC stone ring :naughty: , but wouldn't that be rather extravagant?

Nooooooooo, of course not :Up_to_something: Ok, maybe a little but who cares?! You have such beautiful, classic pieces and I think a 3-stone emerald cut ring would be a perfect addition to your collection!

You're too sweet!! MUACK!!
 
Hi Phoenix,

I really love your collection of jewelry! Since you want to upgrade your earrings I would just wear the current ones for now unless you are ready to sell and purchase the stones you really want! As far as the ring I would hold off on it. This way you can really think about and be sure it's something you really really want and won't be something you end up selling in the near future! PSers have amazing jewelry and its easy to get tempted but you don't want to spend $$$$ for a brief love affair. I know it's hard to be patient but isn't the things we want most worth waiting for :)
 
Another vote for "get the Js back and take your time while figuring out what type of 3 stone you really want"...

While I'm sure it's frustrating to be in limbo, I wouldn't rush into anything. Make sure you end up with forever pieces.

That's my .02 FWIW....
 
Hospatogi|1360253212|3374415 said:
Hi Phoenix,

I really love your collection of jewelry! Since you want to upgrade your earrings I would just wear the current ones for now unless you are ready to sell and purchase the stones you really want! As far as the ring I would hold off on it. This way you can really think about and be sure it's something you really really want and won't be something you end up selling in the near future! PSers have amazing jewelry and its easy to get tempted but you don't want to spend $$$$ for a brief love affair. I know it's hard to be patient but isn't the things we want most worth waiting for :)

By "current ones" do you mean the J's?

Thank you for your lovely and kind words.

I can certainly see the logic behind waiting and really thinking it over before committing to the 3-stone ring.

And agreed with the bolded part.
 
yennyfire|1360253262|3374417 said:
Another vote for "get the Js back and take your time while figuring out what type of 3 stone you really want"...

While I'm sure it's frustrating to be in limbo, I wouldn't rush into anything. Make sure you end up with forever pieces.

That's my .02 FWIW....

Thank you, yenny. I am leaning towards that direction.

Tell me, it was you, wasn't it, that posted about that gorgeous antique EC? :love: :love: (almost but not nearly as gorgeous as your current diamond/ ring).
 
Those of you that voted for option no 3, could you possibly tell me why you voted for that option? Please?
 
Phoenix|1360254146|3374436 said:
Those of you that voted for option no 3, could you possibly tell me why you voted for that option? Please?

I voted for 3 because all the different diamonds, sizes, colors, are all too confusing to keep track of and your post is confusing to me because I have a cold and my head is all foggy.

ETA - I just think it'd be nice for you to have a pair of nice size diamonds set and wearable. Seems all this trading around is more stressful than anything else. Diamonds should be fun! Just have two stones set, wear them, enjoy them...
 
MC|1360260004|3374508 said:
Phoenix|1360254146|3374436 said:
Those of you that voted for option no 3, could you possibly tell me why you voted for that option? Please?

I voted for 3 because all the different diamonds, sizes, colors, are all too confusing to keep track of and your post is confusing to me because I have a cold and my head is all foggy.

ETA - I just think it'd be nice for you to have a pair of nice size diamonds set and wearable. Seems all this trading around is more stressful than anything else. Diamonds should be fun! Just have two stones set, wear them, enjoy them...

Ditto this 100%.....even down to the cold in MY head.

I mean this is the nicest way, but I honestly have never come across someone as stressed out about jewelry as you. It's meant to be fun and enjoyable. Perhaps a break in buying jewelry might be a good thing for you? It may give you clarity (no pun intended) on what you truly want.
 
My suggestion is to trade in your 3 BGD diamonds (all except for the 2.3 Blue) for the 2.2 G VS-2 and 2.2 G SI-1 signature diamonds that they have on their website to make a brand new pair that you would be happy with since your J colored studs were too tinted. Put the 3 stone on hold for now until you get your studs squared away.
 
Phoenix|1360253893|3374435 said:
yennyfire|1360253262|3374417 said:
Another vote for "get the Js back and take your time while figuring out what type of 3 stone you really want"...

While I'm sure it's frustrating to be in limbo, I wouldn't rush into anything. Make sure you end up with forever pieces.

That's my .02 FWIW....

Thank you, yenny. I am leaning towards that direction.

Tell me, it was you, wasn't it, that posted about that gorgeous antique EC? :love: :love: (almost but not nearly as gorgeous as your current diamond/ ring).

I don't think so, but if you find the post, please share it as I love antique ECs (the couple I've seen).
 
mom2boys|1360262103|3374529 said:
My suggestion is to trade in your 3 BGD diamonds (all except for the 2.3 Blue) for the 2.2 G VS-2 and 2.2 G SI-1 signature diamonds that they have on their website to make a brand new pair that you would be happy with since your J colored studs were too tinted. Put the 3 stone on hold for now until you get your studs squared away.

I'm going to vote for this option. You get the colour that you are more comfortable with and can get back to being able to function properly - faster!(I love you can't think right without the proper earrings --- I'm gonna use that one!)
 
None of the above. All are settling, none are truly what you want.
 
Mayk|1360249289|3374354 said:
Me? :saint:

:devil: :Up_to_something: :naughty:

Three stone! :love:


Oh the earrings... How could I forget...... GIVE THEM TO ME BECAUSE YOU LUUUUVVVVVEEEEE ME! :appl: :bigsmile:
 
mom2boys|1360262103|3374529 said:
My suggestion is to trade in your 3 BGD diamonds (all except for the 2.3 Blue) for the 2.2 G VS-2 and 2.2 G SI-1 signature diamonds that they have on their website to make a brand new pair that you would be happy with since your J colored studs were too tinted. Put the 3 stone on hold for now until you get your studs squared away.

Bingo!!!! :appl: Take care of the earrings first! You were not happy with the J's so don't take them back! 2.2 cts is HUGE on the ears!
 
MC|1360260004|3374508 said:
Phoenix|1360254146|3374436 said:
Those of you that voted for option no 3, could you possibly tell me why you voted for that option? Please?

I voted for 3 because all the different diamonds, sizes, colors, are all too confusing to keep track of and your post is confusing to me because I have a cold and my head is all foggy.

ETA - I just think it'd be nice for you to have a pair of nice size diamonds set and wearable. Seems all this trading around is more stressful than anything else. Diamonds should be fun! Just have two stones set, wear them, enjoy them...

Oh no, I was actually a little worried that someone might find my thread confusing b/c of all the stones involved. :blackeye:

I am not stressed, seriously I am not - I swear! :)) DIamonds are fun and I enjoy wearing them very very much. I just a bit frustrated (not stressed), not least b/c I sent too many stones to Perry. I think I under-estimated how long/ how hard it'd be for Brian to get a match for the 2.656 or the 2.374.

Sorry you have a cold. Hope you get better soon.
 
orbaya|1360260822|3374518 said:
MC|1360260004|3374508 said:
Phoenix|1360254146|3374436 said:
Those of you that voted for option no 3, could you possibly tell me why you voted for that option? Please?

I voted for 3 because all the different diamonds, sizes, colors, are all too confusing to keep track of and your post is confusing to me because I have a cold and my head is all foggy.

ETA - I just think it'd be nice for you to have a pair of nice size diamonds set and wearable. Seems all this trading around is more stressful than anything else. Diamonds should be fun! Just have two stones set, wear them, enjoy them...

Ditto this 100%.....even down to the cold in MY head.

I mean this is the nicest way, but I honestly have never come across someone as stressed out about jewelry as you. It's meant to be fun and enjoyable. Perhaps a break in buying jewelry might be a good thing for you? It may give you clarity (no pun intended) on what you truly want.

I appreciate what you're saying. Again, as mentioned in my reply to MC, I am not stressed, certainly not about the process. I miss wearing my earrings - A LOT. Sure, having all these diamonds up for sale is not easy and trying to find a matched pair is not easy, but hey nothing in life is ever easy or straightforward, is it?! :tongue: :))

I think taking a break in jewellery buying would be stresssful for me, lol! :wink2: I LOVE wearing my jewellery, I like the process, I love looking at diamonds and diamond jewellery etc...
 
mom2boys|1360262103|3374529 said:
My suggestion is to trade in your 3 BGD diamonds (all except for the 2.3 Blue) for the 2.2 G VS-2 and 2.2 G SI-1 signature diamonds that they have on their website to make a brand new pair that you would be happy with since your J colored studs were too tinted. Put the 3 stone on hold for now until you get your studs squared away.

I considered that option myself, but ruled that out b/c prices have risen so much that for me to do so would result in a huge "loss", iykwim (?) I'd prefer the route with the smallest monetary outlay. Anyway, if I were to do that, I'd still be left with smaller earrings. I'd love to have larger earrings, ones more in line with Holly, something with a 8.9- 9mm diameter (which is what the 2.656ct has).

Yes, I think the 3-stone ring is going to be done slowly - not rushing it.

Thank you, mom2boys.
 
Enerchi|1360267922|3374614 said:
mom2boys|1360262103|3374529 said:
My suggestion is to trade in your 3 BGD diamonds (all except for the 2.3 Blue) for the 2.2 G VS-2 and 2.2 G SI-1 signature diamonds that they have on their website to make a brand new pair that you would be happy with since your J colored studs were too tinted. Put the 3 stone on hold for now until you get your studs squared away.

I'm going to vote for this option. You get the colour that you are more comfortable with and can get back to being able to function properly - faster!(I love you can't think right without the proper earrings --- I'm gonna use that one!)

And I love this, lol! :lol:
 
ame|1360272632|3374692 said:
None of the above. All are settling, none are truly what you want.

Yes, taking the J's back would be settling. But what do I do in the meantime, my ears are nikked and they're cold...buuuurrrr!! :wink2: :bigsmile:

Anyway, the J's would be sold eventually and I'd get the earrings I would most prefer eventually, even if "eventually" means several years.

Thank you for your input.
 
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