Engagement- farther than I thought??

[sunkist]

Hmmm, so the engagement may be a little farther off than I thought. I was thinking, and he told me, it would be June or July. I suppose it still could be in mid-late July. But I was hoping for late June

Oh well. It doesn''t make that big of a difference, I''ve just been excited and looking forward to that time, just like all us LIW do! Plus, I was also *hoping* we could be engaged before I go to a family reunion this summer so I won''t have to endure those questions again

Awww well. It will still happen fairly soon, and I''m trying not to hold anything against my BF for pushing it back a little bit! Just wanted to share that with you all, I''m feeling a tiny bit down.

 

[Mara]

awww sunkist and you already have your beautiful diamond all ready...have you sent it to lockes yet?

is there any way you can stress to him that you''d really love to be engaged by the family reunion? that would be really important to me too...i always hated going to large events when i knew we were close to being engaged but it wasn''t quite there yet. maybe he can push up his plans a little.

it always drives me nuts when you are SO CLOSE and sometimes we see guys on here going ''oh sometime in X or Y month''. how about you get more specific so the girl doesn''t tear her hair out? if you know it''s coming, just do it! like nike.

 

[sunkist]

Date: 5/25/2006 6:11:11 PM
Author: Mara
awww sunkist and you already have your beautiful diamond all ready...have you sent it to lockes yet?


is there any way you can stress to him that you''d really love to be engaged by the family reunion? that would be really important to me too...i always hated going to large events when i knew we were close to being engaged but it wasn''t quite there yet. maybe he can push up his plans a little.


it always drives me nuts when you are SO CLOSE and sometimes we see guys on here going ''oh sometime in X or Y month''. how about you get more specific so the girl doesn''t tear her hair out? if you know it''s coming, just do it! like nike.

Nope we haven''t sent it to Lockes yet. I thought we''d do that this week. I do want to tell him that I wanted to be engaged before the reunion, but I feel bad putting that pressure on him. I told him that I had been looking forward to begin wedding planning starting early summer. He said that is duely noted... His reasons for waiting a little longer are honorable. He wants to earn a little more money before putting any of it down. I can respect that, and think it is a good idea. I haven''t offered that we could use some of my money so we can order the setting right now. I don''t know what he''ll think of that idea, and I''m not sure what I think of it either. hmmm, still thinking!

 

[ilovesparkles]

Awww sorry bout that sunkist. He does have a good reason and its not like hes slacking or anything. Hang in there girl we are all here for you!

 

[sunkist]

Yes, I''ve been thinking about this and talking to a girlfriend. I think I''m going to give this issue a rest and let him do this thing. I think this will make him feel good about the whole thing and I definitely want him to be happy too! But I WILL ask him if it''s ok if I start really thinking about wedding plans

Mainly if could decide on a date and book our photographer. I don''t want to lose her!

Thank you Mara and ILoveSparkles! I appreciate the support

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Hang in there, Sunkist. I know how it feels, oh how do I know how it feels, to think it''s coming, and it doesn''t. Both of us have men of noble reasoning, but it still hurts. And it gets to you after a while. At least we know the intentions are good and pure. I really want to be engaged before we take our trip to Cali to visit my family, but I''m getting to the point where I want to just go ahead and get the tickets and not sit around waiting for the proposal. It seems like every time I get excited about it, I get let down.

Anyway, I''m sure it''s on the way for both of us. Keep on keeping on. *It is hard not to push, isn''t it?*

 

[sunkist]

Date: 5/25/2006 8:39:44 PM
Author: fisherofmengirly
Hang in there, Sunkist. I know how it feels, oh how do I know how it feels, to think it''s coming, and it doesn''t. Both of us have men of noble reasoning, but it still hurts. And it gets to you after a while. At least we know the intentions are good and pure. I really want to be engaged before we take our trip to Cali to visit my family, but I''m getting to the point where I want to just go ahead and get the tickets and not sit around waiting for the proposal. It seems like every time I get excited about it, I get let down.


Anyway, I''m sure it''s on the way for both of us. Keep on keeping on. *It is hard not to push, isn''t it?*

hehe, yep! And this feeling of eagerness and waiting caught up with me

Remeber in your other thread I was saying I felt really good about it all moving along. Well, things can change just like that, huh? I guess that''s why we all need the LIW

I''m so glad we''re all here together.

Are you from CA? Where in CA will you be visiting? I hope you have fun and don''t have to worry about the proposal

Just enjoy it. Do you have to endure those ''annoying'' engagement/wedding questions from relatives too? hehe.

 

[Selkie]

Hi sunkist!
Oh, sorry to hear about the delay! Every time I hear about couples who have the stone, or even the ring, but not the official engagement, I''m sooo happy I was caught completely offguard by my proposal. I don''t think there''s anything wrong with starting to plan. How long will your engagement be? I forget what you said at the GTG, but it''s fairly short, right? He has to understand that things book up quickly, so if you don''t grab ''em...you''re out of luck. Anyway, June is coming up FAST, so hopefully the wait won''t be too painful.

 

[sunkist]

Date: 5/25/2006 9:08:16 PM
Author: Selkie
Hi sunkist!

Oh, sorry to hear about the delay! Every time I hear about couples who have the stone, or even the ring, but not the official engagement, I''m sooo happy I was caught completely offguard by my proposal. I don''t think there''s anything wrong with starting to plan. How long will your engagement be? I forget what you said at the GTG, but it''s fairly short, right? He has to understand that things book up quickly, so if you don''t grab ''em...you''re out of luck. Anyway, June is coming up FAST, so hopefully the wait won''t be too painful.

Hey, Selkie, thank you! We want the wedding in November. So that''s coming fast enough! Yes, I think you are lucky you were caught off gaurd

No "agony" for you

hehe. I''m just going to let him surprise me now. I''m *thinking* about even giving him the stone to keep at his house so he could really surprise me! I don''t know if I can part with it though

and I know he won''t pay any attention to it at his house!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Haha! I do hear that stuff ALL the time from my family. This past weekend, a cousin had her baby shower, and it was like person after person, "you all made plans yet?" "Any shiny things you wanna show us?" "Set a date yet?" "Hey, when are you moving to Georgia?" "Getting married here or in Georgia?" "What''re you waiting on, Paul? I heard this was gonna happen back in April." *That was the worst one, by the way.*

I am from Cali, yeah. That''s why we plan on naming our baby Callie some day. Anyway, I''m from Southern Cali, grew up in San Bernardino County, then went to school in Irvine and stayed in Orange county until I moved here, to podunk NC. Talk about a big change!

As for pressure or questions at home. Hmm. I think that will primarily come from my neice who has a crush on Paul. She asks me on the regular when he''s going to be her uncle, and am I aware that she''s far too old to be a flower girl now, and will have to be a junior bridesmaid? And when will we have a cousin for her to play with? And how old will she have to be in order to babysit? And will we move back so she can see us every day? It goes on and on with her. I love my Morgan!

I know if I didn''t know it was coming, I''d be nuts. And more frustrated and hurt than I am now. But I also that knowing it''s coming, and not seeing any evidence of it coming is ROUGH, too. Especially when you have friends and family basically saying, "poop or get off the pot." I feel bad for Paul, too. He is working on it and things DO happen. It doesn''t mean he''s putting things off. It means some times you have to be responsible about stuff, whether or not that means plans slide back a tiny bit. And let''s hope it''s just a TEENY TINY bit for both of us!

 

[anchor31]

Aw... I''m sorry sunkist!

Hang on in there, and tell yourself it''ll be the last time you''ll have to endure those darned questions...

 

[sunkist]

Yes! A TEENY TINY BIT

I''m crossing my fingers for both you and me and all LIW!

Fisher, we have similar stomping grounds! My family lives in Claremont, I went to school in Riverside, now I''m in Irvine. Did you go to UCI? I''m here now

So why did you move to NC?

 

[sunkist]

Date: 5/25/2006 10:08:45 PM
Author: anchor31
Aw... I''m sorry sunkist!

Hang on in there, and tell yourself it''ll be the last time you''ll have to endure those darned questions...

Thank you Anchor! You are right. This will be the last time they''ll all see me not engaged or married! Perhaps some of the questions and attention will be taken off of me since my two sisters are both pregnant!