Ever envious when friends get engaged with bigger, pricier r

[pearaffair]

*Bigger, pricier RINGS

When my husband and I got married, we had NO money so we chose an engagement ring for $175 and I LOVE it. But sometimes I feel envy of my friends who get engaged and their first ring is more expensive and higher quality and it is their "forever ring". I can't wear my e-ring forever because it is faceted labradorite and sterling silver. Delicate for daily wear.

So I'm THRILLED for my friends and so happy for them! But sometimes a little green and wishing that my husband and I had added just a few thousand dollars to the $120,000 student loan debt that we had.

Well, that wouldn't have been us! We are the frugal careful people we are.

Tell me your stories of envy (or not!) so I can commiserate or be put in my place

 

[pearlsngems]

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Good for you for not adding to that debt for a ring! Very wise.

Most of the time I only wear a plain wedding band. My hand is more comfortable with less on it, I find it easier to do my housework, cooking and grocery shopping with just a band on my hand, and my ring doesn't get clogged with dirt and grease this way. When I used to wear my e-ring all the time, it always looked a bit dull.

I like to wear my ruby ring when I "go out"-- I notice and appreciate it more when I don't have it on my hand all the time. It always feels more special when I put it on.

if your ring is "delicate for daily wear", don't wear it all the time, and enjoy it more when you do have it on.

 

[PintoBean]

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My friend from law school who went straight into law school at 21, had tuition paid by his parents, and his now wife had tuition for pharmacy school paid by her mom. They both lived at home. I got him his current job. They were high school sweet hearts. They got engaged a couple years ago and married last year. She got a nice sized ring - specs unknown.

The plus side - - beautiful ring because they don't have the debts from school and the mortgage DH was carrying (his savings went into down payment and renovations for his apartment), but I don't think I could have waited over 10 years for an engagement and marriage lololol.

 

[bunnycat]

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Someone is always going to have bigger or better than what you may perceive for yourself.

I take it from past discussions your hubby is against the idea of having an upgrade or other ring? Mr Bcat felt similarly at first, but times and people change. I have the ring he proposed with which I wear on occasion on my right hand, but the rest is subject to change and once he became involved in my recent upgrade process he's patted himself on the back for having picked out this stone for me ever since. Mostly these days I like to just have something on my left hand, and as long
as something is there I am good.

I know you have an adorable cushion ring. One thing I do because I do love bling and I know that some of the amazing sizes you see on here will never be an option is to make what I have very interesting. I highly recommend looking at some inexpensive stacking type rings that are modern and fresh looking and pairing those with your cushion ring. in etsy you can find a beaded stacker in gold for about $70 or a twist band for around $40. A plain and simple round gold band for maybe $40. You would be amazed how good it feels and make you forget the focus on size by bypassing it for edge and interest with a couple of skinny stackers. Scout Diamond bistro for deals and steals. They do show up.

Do some google searching on stacking rings. You'll see some amazing delicate stacking sets that will spur your imagination. Maybe the ring you wear won't be as big as some people you know, but the whole composition could be more interesting.

 

[Dancing Fire]

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Yes I'd get envious!...Still waiting for my wife to buy me a 2.5ct stone...

 

[pearaffair]

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Bunnycat - great points about going for interest rather than size and expense! I love having my own flair as you can see by my wedding set!

I DO have a nice collection of jewellery... haha so I can't say "poor me" all day long.

I am saving up for a special ring that costs more but I do have things to occupy me for now. I think my feelings are similar to when our other friends went on a two-week $10k honeymoon... "I wish I could waste money like that"! Haha but that wouldn't be me.

Thanks for the helpful reminders everyone! I want to feel pure unadulterated joy for my friend and I think I'm getting there! But maybe she'd be pleased to know that her ring was the envy of all

Re: my cushion ring - I have a yellowish diamond radiant ring that I love to look at but do not love to wear - saved up and bought it myself, but am thinking of selling so I can use that money to buy something I wear more often. I have my eyes set on a 1.5ctw platinum vertically set baguette band, 5mm wide

But maybe you were talking about my amethyst halo ring from my grandmother? I love it but I rarely wear it because it is big and feels right for a cocktail party but not everyday.

 

[pearaffair]

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Good for you for not adding to that debt for a ring! Very wise.

Most of the time I only wear a plain wedding band. My hand is more comfortable with less on it, I find it easier to do my housework, cooking and grocery shopping with just a band on my hand, and my ring doesn't get clogged with dirt and grease this way. When I used to wear my e-ring all the time, it always looked a bit dull.

I like to wear my ruby ring when I "go out"-- I notice and appreciate it more when I don't have it on my hand all the time. It always feels more special when I put it on.

if your ring is "delicate for daily wear", don't wear it all the time, and enjoy it more when you do have it on.

Good point - I'm going to have a baby soon so I probably will be wearing just a band!!

 

[pearaffair]

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My friend from law school who went straight into law school at 21, had tuition paid by his parents, and his now wife had tuition for pharmacy school paid by her mom. They both lived at home. I got him his current job. They were high school sweet hearts. They got engaged a couple years ago and married last year. She got a nice sized ring - specs unknown.

The plus side - - beautiful ring because they don't have the debts from school and the mortgage DH was carrying (his savings went into down payment and renovations for his apartment), but I don't think I could have waited over 10 years for an engagement and marriage lololol.

Oh man, 10 years! I guess I could have received a bigger ring if we had waited so long... but I would not have wanted that haha so excellent point

 

[madelise]

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Comparison is the thief of joy. It's okay to feel "wow, that must be nice!" but it's toxic to constantly feel envy.

 

[bunnycat]

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Bunnycat - great points about going for interest rather than size and expense! I love having my own flair as you can see by my wedding set!

I DO have a nice collection of jewellery... haha so I can't say "poor me" all day long.

I am saving up for a special ring that costs more but I do have things to occupy me for now. I think my feelings are similar to when our other friends went on a two-week $10k honeymoon... "I wish I could waste money like that"! Haha but that wouldn't be me.



Thanks for the helpful reminders everyone! I want to feel pure unadulterated joy for my friend and I think I'm getting there! But maybe she'd be pleased to know that her ring was the envy of all

Re: my cushion ring - I have a yellowish diamond radiant ring that I love to look at but do not love to wear - saved up and bought it myself, but am thinking of selling so I can use that money to buy something I wear more often. I have my eyes set on a 1.5ctw platinum vertically set baguette band, 5mm wide

But maybe you were talking about my amethyst halo ring from my grandmother? I love it but I rarely wear it because it is big and feels right for a cocktail party but not everyday.

You might consider a 5 stone ring. It gives major bling and finger coverage in relation to cost, and would go great with your lovely wedding band.

I was thinking of the bezel set ring you posted in the j/K/L diamonds thread....It would be lovely with a couple of skinny stackers with some textural variety. But if you don't love it and want to sell, then ixnay collecting stacker for it.

Since your main set is white (and w-band is white) it's even easier to get a few interesting rings that you can wear daily. I have several silver rings I wear since my set is white (and because I don't want any hard metals up against my platinum ering).


Here's one of my usual google searches when I am looking for ideas. Because I would get bored quickly wearing the same ring configuration daily:
https://www.google.com/search?q=silver+diamond+stacking+rings&espv=2&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwiWquuKoNbSAhVI4iYKHXarB7kQ_AUIBygC&biw=1402&bih=772#tbm=isch&q=stacked+wedding+sets&*

Here are some cool silver ones:

https://www.etsy.com/listing/233196082/sterling-silver-stacking-rings-silver?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=silver%20stacking%20rings&ref=sr_gallery_22

Love this one. I've ordered form her:
https://www.etsy.com/listing/172483980/princess-ring-crown-ring-crown-stacking?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=silver%20stacking%20rings&ref=sr_gallery_29

Love this (want one....):
https://www.etsy.com/listing/253790475/double-silver-ball-ringsimple-open?campaign_label=new_at_etsy_rf&utm_source=lifecycle&utm_campaign=new_at_etsy_rf_031417_115531664265_0_0&utm_medium=email&utm_content=&email_sent=1489500609&euid=4OtNv891JXJ4eTfgf1fk_Rk_qV4h&eaid=423701320&x_eaid=e66198cf44

If you were keeping your radiant, I'd say adding this to the stack would make some interesting compositions:
https://www.etsy.com/listing/257392490/14k-solid-gold-white-topaz-ring-on-a

another skinny mini:
https://www.etsy.com/listing/465350065/14k-solid-gold-stackable-ring-baguette

Graduated bubbles!!!! LOVE!
https://www.etsy.com/listing/279672840/solid-gold-bubbles-ball-beads-band

bamboo texture:
https://www.etsy.com/listing/221158151/sterling-silverband-ring-silver-band

 

[monarch64]

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Honestly I have never cared. In my experience, it's been the men in my life who have thought it important to outdo others. My first and second husbands were both concerned about size/money in different ways. One just wanted bigger/better; the other wanted big without being "ostentatious," low color. Neither of them listened to me about what I wanted to wear for the rest of my life HELLO HUGE RED FLAG MONNIE, ARE YOU DAFT?

From now on I do what I want, and I don't give a damn about anyone else's opinion of me or my material possessions. Never did, never will. Much more peaceful this way.

 

[lyra]

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It was SO long ago now, about 36 years. My best friend got a .45ct RB with side stones and I thought it was the biggest most glorious ring ever. I couldn't even think of aspiring to that. A year later I got my ER with a .26 ct RB and side stones. I was never totally happy with it, not by comparison to others, but I felt the style I picked was always wrong. I had it reset, and wrong again.

Eventually I upgraded 3 times with 3 different rings. I'm never completely 100% happy. I think the grass is always greener on the other side for some of us. I wish it was easy and inexpensive to change settings. It's funny, because on a daily basis I only wear a gold engraved band and a 5 stone as my RHR.

 

[pearaffair]

Re: Ever envious when friends get engaged with bigger, prici

Comparison is the thief of joy. It's okay to feel "wow, that must be nice!" but it's toxic to constantly feel envy.

Definitely true!! But I think the occasional pang as I lust after bling is... human!

 

[pearaffair]

Re: Ever envious when friends get engaged with bigger, prici

It was SO long ago now, about 36 years. My best friend got a .45ct RB with side stones and I thought it was the biggest most glorious ring ever. I couldn't even think of aspiring to that. A year later I got my ER with a .26 ct RB and side stones. I was never totally happy with it, not by comparison to others, but I felt the style I picked was always wrong. I had it reset, and wrong again.

Eventually I upgraded 3 times with 3 different rings. I'm never completely 100% happy. I think the grass is always greener on the other side for some of us. I wish it was easy and inexpensive to change settings. It's funny, because on a daily basis I only wear a gold engraved band and a 5 stone as my RHR.

Our emotions and aesthetics can be funny sometimes, eh? I can relate!

 

[pearaffair]

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Bunnycat - great points about going for interest rather than size and expense! I love having my own flair as you can see by my wedding set!

I DO have a nice collection of jewellery... haha so I can't say "poor me" all day long.

I am saving up for a special ring that costs more but I do have things to occupy me for now. I think my feelings are similar to when our other friends went on a two-week $10k honeymoon... "I wish I could waste money like that"! Haha but that wouldn't be me.



Thanks for the helpful reminders everyone! I want to feel pure unadulterated joy for my friend and I think I'm getting there! But maybe she'd be pleased to know that her ring was the envy of all

Re: my cushion ring - I have a yellowish diamond radiant ring that I love to look at but do not love to wear - saved up and bought it myself, but am thinking of selling so I can use that money to buy something I wear more often. I have my eyes set on a 1.5ctw platinum vertically set baguette band, 5mm wide

But maybe you were talking about my amethyst halo ring from my grandmother? I love it but I rarely wear it because it is big and feels right for a cocktail party but not everyday.

You might consider a 5 stone ring. It gives major bling and finger coverage in relation to cost, and would go great with your lovely wedding band.

I was thinking of the bezel set ring you posted in the j/K/L diamonds thread....It would be lovely with a couple of skinny stackers with some textural variety. But if you don't love it and want to sell, then ixnay collecting stacker for it.

Since your main set is white (and w-band is white) it's even easier to get a few interesting rings that you can wear daily. I have several silver rings I wear since my set is white (and because I don't want any hard metals up against my platinum ering).


Here's one of my usual google searches when I am looking for ideas. Because I would get bored quickly wearing the same ring configuration daily:
https://www.google.com/search?q=silver+diamond+stacking+rings&espv=2&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwiWquuKoNbSAhVI4iYKHXarB7kQ_AUIBygC&biw=1402&bih=772#tbm=isch&q=stacked+wedding+sets&*

Here are some cool silver ones:

https://www.etsy.com/listing/233196082/sterling-silver-stacking-rings-silver?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=silver%20stacking%20rings&ref=sr_gallery_22

Love this one. I've ordered form her:
https://www.etsy.com/listing/172483980/princess-ring-crown-ring-crown-stacking?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=silver%20stacking%20rings&ref=sr_gallery_29

Love this (want one....):
https://www.etsy.com/listing/253790475/double-silver-ball-ringsimple-open?campaign_label=new_at_etsy_rf&utm_source=lifecycle&utm_campaign=new_at_etsy_rf_031417_115531664265_0_0&utm_medium=email&utm_content=&email_sent=1489500609&euid=4OtNv891JXJ4eTfgf1fk_Rk_qV4h&eaid=423701320&x_eaid=e66198cf44

If you were keeping your radiant, I'd say adding this to the stack would make some interesting compositions:
https://www.etsy.com/listing/257392490/14k-solid-gold-white-topaz-ring-on-a

another skinny mini:
https://www.etsy.com/listing/465350065/14k-solid-gold-stackable-ring-baguette

Graduated bubbles!!!! LOVE!
https://www.etsy.com/listing/279672840/solid-gold-bubbles-ball-beads-band

bamboo texture:
https://www.etsy.com/listing/221158151/sterling-silverband-ring-silver-band

Thanks for all the cool ideas!

The radiant setting does not allow anything to sit flush next to it, and that kind of drives me crazy as I don't like the gap.

My wedding band is more convex than straight and so sometimes stacking makes it turn around funny. Drives me crazy.

But I love playing around with new ideas

 

[bunnycat]

Re: Ever envious when friends get engaged with bigger, prici

Bunnycat - great points about going for interest rather than size and expense! I love having my own flair as you can see by my wedding set!

I DO have a nice collection of jewellery... haha so I can't say "poor me" all day long.

I am saving up for a special ring that costs more but I do have things to occupy me for now. I think my feelings are similar to when our other friends went on a two-week $10k honeymoon... "I wish I could waste money like that"! Haha but that wouldn't be me.



Thanks for the helpful reminders everyone! I want to feel pure unadulterated joy for my friend and I think I'm getting there! But maybe she'd be pleased to know that her ring was the envy of all

Re: my cushion ring - I have a yellowish diamond radiant ring that I love to look at but do not love to wear - saved up and bought it myself, but am thinking of selling so I can use that money to buy something I wear more often. I have my eyes set on a 1.5ctw platinum vertically set baguette band, 5mm wide

But maybe you were talking about my amethyst halo ring from my grandmother? I love it but I rarely wear it because it is big and feels right for a cocktail party but not everyday.

You might consider a 5 stone ring. It gives major bling and finger coverage in relation to cost, and would go great with your lovely wedding band.

I was thinking of the bezel set ring you posted in the j/K/L diamonds thread....It would be lovely with a couple of skinny stackers with some textural variety. But if you don't love it and want to sell, then ixnay collecting stacker for it.

Since your main set is white (and w-band is white) it's even easier to get a few interesting rings that you can wear daily. I have several silver rings I wear since my set is white (and because I don't want any hard metals up against my platinum ering).


Here's one of my usual google searches when I am looking for ideas. Because I would get bored quickly wearing the same ring configuration daily:
https://www.google.com/search?q=silver+diamond+stacking+rings&espv=2&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwiWquuKoNbSAhVI4iYKHXarB7kQ_AUIBygC&biw=1402&bih=772#tbm=isch&q=stacked+wedding+sets&*

Here are some cool silver ones:

https://www.etsy.com/listing/233196082/sterling-silver-stacking-rings-silver?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=silver%20stacking%20rings&ref=sr_gallery_22

Love this one. I've ordered form her:
https://www.etsy.com/listing/172483980/princess-ring-crown-ring-crown-stacking?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=silver%20stacking%20rings&ref=sr_gallery_29

Love this (want one....):
https://www.etsy.com/listing/253790475/double-silver-ball-ringsimple-open?campaign_label=new_at_etsy_rf&utm_source=lifecycle&utm_campaign=new_at_etsy_rf_031417_115531664265_0_0&utm_medium=email&utm_content=&email_sent=1489500609&euid=4OtNv891JXJ4eTfgf1fk_Rk_qV4h&eaid=423701320&x_eaid=e66198cf44

If you were keeping your radiant, I'd say adding this to the stack would make some interesting compositions:
https://www.etsy.com/listing/257392490/14k-solid-gold-white-topaz-ring-on-a

another skinny mini:
https://www.etsy.com/listing/465350065/14k-solid-gold-stackable-ring-baguette

Graduated bubbles!!!! LOVE!
https://www.etsy.com/listing/279672840/solid-gold-bubbles-ball-beads-band

bamboo texture:
https://www.etsy.com/listing/221158151/sterling-silverband-ring-silver-band

Thanks for all the cool ideas!

The radiant setting does not allow anything to sit flush next to it, and that kind of drives me crazy as I don't like the gap.

My wedding band is more convex than straight and so sometimes stacking makes it turn around funny. Drives me crazy.

But I love playing around with new ideas

Ah well, I am the exact opposite. I prefer a gap and find no gap to be too traditional for me so I try to make gaps with texture like the bubble bands.

 

[pearaffair]

Re: Ever envious when friends get engaged with bigger, prici

Bunnycat, you're awesome. I feel like I should channel your perspective!

 

[bunnycat]

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Bunnycat, you're awesome. I feel like I should channel your perspective!

aww shucks- thanks. Not so awesome, but I've been married a few times.....And I've been through some of the things you are going through in some ways so I understand.

It I were in your exact place with a difficult wedding ring (oh wait...nope...been there! My wedding ring is lovely but has cause me over 5 years of major annoyance because it doesn't match up with things well) what I would do is step back for the moment and think about what you CAN do with it (right now and down the line).

So: it's isn't a flat band.

Ok...well, for the short term, as I mentioned, those silver stackers like the bubble bands, or bands with bezels or shapes in them can be your friend, and the silver ones are an inexpensive way to let you be creative with what you have while you save for what you want. They can help disguise the lack of flatness of the wedder since they aren't flat either and it may even out visually (go to stores to try on bands). In other words- find a way to work it.

For the long term- and this is part of my sneaky bag of tricks, you may not want to wear your ering every day, as you've said, or switch it to your right hand. I find that to be ok too...but, find something that is the kind of substantialness you are looking for, that you could also use with your w-band with or without other stackers. (See how I combine short and long term goals? )

So then you plan and think. Right now you want an eternity ring. If you are young, think faaaaar ahead. I had a size 5 finger when I was 20-ish. I do not own that finger size any more at almost 50. So if you get something that is not sizeable, and it's also something you may not ever be able to get another of, think about it first before you go for it. Also, if the budget is limited, I would be saving and planning to put as much of the bling on top of my finger, instead of wrapping around it.

I've made some really poor decisions, which have taken me quite a while to dig myself out of. My best advice is ask yourself what you REALLY want, and don't be afraid of what the answer is. If it is substantial finger coverage, well a wide eternity will do that. If sparkle is a big factor, stick to rounds. If sparkle and size is a factor- a graduated 5 stone round in bezel is amazing. You could get full finger coverage with under 1ct totalweight. If what's at the root of it all is a bigger stone (or having a solitaire), well, I'm of the opinion that until you scratch what the itch really is, you'll just keep looking and it costs you lots more to back peddle and fix it if you aren't honest about it with yourself at the start.

 

[Marquise_Madness]

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Yes and no. My ring isn't huge but I love it and I have been engaged for awhile and haven't had thoughts of upgrading it; it's too special to me. Maybe I'll add a diamond stacking band and collect more jewelry such as a right-hand ring, a bracelet, earrings, etc. I haven't had too many friends getting engaged yet, but a few have bigger rings and a few have smaller rings. I know my really close friend went ring shopping and they can't afford a big diamond, so they are ok and plan to upgrade in a few years.

 

[chemgirl]

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Honestly I used to feel that way, but now I look at my life and realize we can afford a pretty sweet lifestyle because we focused on paying our student loans etc rather than the ring and big wedding.

Those same people I envied 5 years ago are telling me how jealous they are of the concerts and trips I can afford now. So there's that.

No reason why you can't upgrade at a later time or even find a nice band (antique shops are always an option).

I definitely see how you can get that nagging feeling when you see a gorgeous ring. It's just easier to appreciate how pretty it is and focus on something else.

 

[missy]

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No. I admire and love many rings and enjoy seeing/drooling over other people's amazing bling. But I don't feel jealous or envious. I just love seeing beautiful bling!

 

[canuk-gal]

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HI:

Please do not imagine that "frugal, careful" people do not have beautiful jewellery. Or brilliant educations. Or stunning houses. Or exotic cars. Or perfect vacations. Outside of a limited population, those means are how "most" people get any of those things.

FWIW, guilt is a useless emotion. Comparisons with your peer group/friends is, at best, painful. Apparently you have a big plate with 120 reasons on it and with no room for jewellry making it, 121.

That is what anonymous forums are for....venting.

cheers--Sharon

 

[arkieb1]

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No. I admire and love many rings and enjoy seeing/drooling over other people's amazing bling. But I don't feel jealous or envious. I just love seeing beautiful bling!

+1

 

[bunnycat]

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Lol- arkie and missy- y'all have majorly fabulous honkers which are the envy of the rest of us!

 

[rainydaze]

Re: Ever envious when friends get engaged with bigger, prici

No, not over size or cost. Size was never a factor of beauty or desirability for me, and cost was a very personal factor specific to their means and spending preferences. BUT, two of my friends had diamonds that were just gorgeous in performance (one was smaller carat weight than mine, the other was the same). This was pre-PS, before I (or they) understood what accounted for that. I was envious of their rings because they were just so darn beautiful, in the way I had always dreamed own would be but wasn't quite!

On a side note, my parents were frugal. Not cheap. Comfortable, but not excessive. Average income. They were both able to retire before 65. More and more I hear people their age with similar incomes/circumstances talking wistfully about retirement and how it's not going to happen anytime soon, if ever. There are trade-offs, and you're simply choosing different ones than your friends with more expensive rings.

My take? Better to focus on whether or not you will be happy with the life *you* lived as you near the end of it than give too much credence to how others are living theirs in comparison to yours.

 

[Kbell]

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I don't think I've been envious... I definitely will admire & be happy for all my friends who get engaged.
I've been married before and never really had ring envy. I just love jewelry in general & like looking at everyone's rings.
This time around I'm going as big as I think is proportionately appropriate for my finger. I like even symmetry... almost
anal about it so 1.5 carats is really my max for my size 4 finger. I've always loved solitaires with a plain band - that hasn't changed my whole life so that's what we chose. My best friend has huge fingers. When she gets engaged I am
sure hers will be bigger spread to suit her finger size, so even if it's 3xs the size of mine and I won't be envious at all - just super happy for her! We're older too so maybe that plays into it. When I was much younger though I don't recall being envious of anyone's jewelry, I was envious of those who seemed to have the perfect relationship (back in my early 20's...) - but as we age we realize no relationship is really perfect and unfortunately some of those I envied have ended those relationships. Now I prefer to just enjoy my life & what I have VS worrying about what I don't A ring is just a thing after all - it can be replaced, lost, upgraded, reset, etc. as long as the relationship is happy & healthy that's the most important!

 

[Yimmers]

Re: Ever envious when friends get engaged with bigger, prici

At times, I feel there is competition amongst my friends - with newly engaged couples making it a point to get a diamond bigger than mine. That being said, I have a friend who wears this gorgeous two tone wedding band. No stones. She has gorgeous long and elegant fingers and so the band looks awesome and modern on her. I can never pull that look off. Another friend has a smaller diamond, but it is well cut and sparkles across the room. It's delicate and beautiful. So, sometimes, I feel a little weird with my ring.

Do I get envious when I see ginormous rocks? Well, yes, when they are radiant balls of light with gorgeous settings. But I still happy with my diamond and the uniqueness of the AVR when most people I see where MRB, Princess, and on occasion, cushions or ovals. I don't see as many OMC's or OEC's in my social group, so I enjoy being a little different.

 

[baby monster]

Re: Ever envious when friends get engaged with bigger, prici

I wish I can have multiple large diamond rings . The only people I've seen to have those are PSers so I can't feel envious because I never met any of them IRL.

 

[OreoRosies86]

Re: Ever envious when friends get engaged with bigger, prici

My friends aren't into jewelry the way I am, so they don't own jewelry I feel envy over. I'm not saying that to be mean either, but a half carat diamond from Kay Jeweler isn't going to make me jealous.

I am a colored stone girl. I am absolutely drooling/coveting/pining over a $900 ring at the moment. To some it's a drop in the bucket, to me it's out of reach. It's not even worth stalking for fun, because it's just not meant to be for me. And when someone buys it I will be totally jealous! That's how my ring envy rears its ugly head!

 

[lambskin]

Re: Ever envious when friends get engaged with bigger, prici

Yes.