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Yes and no. Envious like how I wish I could win the lotto too. No because for where I am in my life my ring is just freaking gorgeous and bigger than I had ever imagined. Yes because seeing more and bigger and brighter makes me want the same. No because when I stop looking I stop wanting. Artificially manufactured desire. Who knew I needed an iPhone before I got one? Kwim? It's all good. Just have to keep it all in perspective. And yes I've seen PSers big bling IRL so there are certainly some serious honkers to covet. And for heavens sake, I've seen Adam's and Grace's stash. Who doesn't drool and scheme after seeing that pile of rocks? :Up_to_something:

Sorry, realized I didn't answer your question. Don't have friends getting engaged anymore so I guess no.
 
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Elliot86|1489628880|4140720 said:
My friends aren't into jewelry the way I am, so they don't own jewelry I feel envy over. I'm not saying that to be mean either, but a half carat diamond from Kay Jeweler isn't going to make me jealous.

I am a colored stone girl. I am absolutely drooling/coveting/pining over a $900 ring at the moment. To some it's a drop in the bucket, to me it's out of reach. It's not even worth stalking for fun, because it's just not meant to be for me. And when someone buys it I will be totally jealous! That's how my ring envy rears its ugly head!
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Haha, you know I'm a CS girl too - and now I'm so curious about what ring you're lusting after, lol!! After selling off most of my entire collection not long ago, I'm still not in a position to buy, so I hear you on the not buying situation. (I did save 2 stones to set, and that will be my next priority. Oh, and the other day I LOST one of my few pieces that I kept - one of my favorite pendants, an opal that I'd worn daily for years!! My chain broke and it just fell off, I didn't even notice :( I was heartbroken. Not a horribly expensive piece, @$350 into it, but I just loved it, and it was a one of a kind. oh well... sorry in advance for the mini threadjack...)
 
I am more envious of the houses they live in...to a point. Not a "mansion" envy....but a newer house envy. Loved my 70's ranch , 1100sq ft. Married an 1920's farmhouse that is suckling the life out of our bank account in renovations and upgrades...as in dishwasher, disposal, etc..the functional basics of life! Kitchen reno, basment reno, a new bathroom last month, $9000 ROOF last week!

15 years later.....still here. But functioning! Lol!

Love to see the blings! To each their own!

FinleysMom
 
I was, until they would look at mine and be snarky about mine by saying it was 'cute', or 'simple', or 'easy to wear'. Then I would get my hackles up, immediately see all the the flaws in their rings, and my inner beatch would want to retort with an equally passive aggressive comment about their drill bit carbon based rock. I'm not a naturally nice person. My mind does go there. But I hold it back. Most of the time.

I think it's natural to feel envy, but if I really think about it, I'm also grateful (and a bit smug) that despite the VERY disappointing ring, we are still together. And some of those women with droolworthy rings are not.
 
Honestly no one in my personal circle or my work circle wears a diamond ring that I can covet ... most of the rings' center stones are average cut and average size and in meh settings ... most of them don't even sparkly that much. I can think of two women have really gorgeous diamond eternities and one man has a splendid family/signet ring in gold but those I can admire without any jealousy at all.
 
I appreciate and admire my friends' rings, but don't feel envy. Their bigger, pricier rings don't diminish mine in my eyes -- which is a good thing because otherwise I would be constantly miserable given that all my friends have blingier e-rings.

However, after hanging out a Pricescope and learning about the aesthetics of finger coverage and all that, I think a bigger stone would look better on my fat fingers ;)2
 
monarch64 said:
In my experience, it's been the men in my life who have thought it important to outdo others.
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Size Envy - it is a common male trait :lol: lol

Guilty as charged, your honour!
 
OoohShiny said:
Size Envy - it is a common male trait :lol: lol

Guilty as charged, your honour!
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Nahhh, SIZE means nothing if IT doesn't perform!...;)2
 
Not exactly...but there are times I wish I had made a different choice. I was the one to become agast at the proposed ring budget at the time DH and I got engaged. I was in grad school and paying my own way (not living at home) and he was working full time but living at home. He offered a budget of what would have been at the time more than half of what I lived on in a year (and would have bought me a brand name 1 carat ring from our version of Tiffanies). I said don’t you dare...that’s a down payment on a house, cut the budget to a quarter, and got a beautiful simple 0.4 carat non-branded ring. Of course now that we both live on our own means, the money has never been easy again, so there’s no budget for an upgrade, and DH is sentimental about my ring. There are times when I wish I’d made a different choice...
 
he@@ yes!
 
Of course I've been envious of my girlfriends' rings at one time or another. It mostly had to do with the fact that they were all (and I mean ALL) married much sooner than me. It wasn't so much that I was jealous of their bling (which I kinda was, if I'm being honest), but more that I felt a sense of urgency to get married and hadn't even met anyone at that point. I didn't meet DH until I was 30 and didn't get married until I was just almost 34... as you can imagine, I'm the "oldest mom" of the group, but I am just so happy and fortunate to have these things now that it doesn't bother me as much as I thought it would.

I think it's perfectly normal to feel a little envious of others, for whatever reason. It makes you human. And as long as you can acknowledge all the wonderful things in your life as well, then no harm done. :)
 
As I've gotten older (I'm still pretty young, 23) I've noticed that a lot of my friends who drive BMWs or have fancier possessions or a bigger house may be in a lot more debt, and I'm a lot happier to have a modest house and a modest car and not have to worry about debt collections or other financial issues.
 
Get poorer friends. :lol-2:
 
No . But i am older so all my friends who get married are on a second marriage. They have money so i say buy what you like and let me be happy for you!
 
cmd2014 said:
Not exactly...but there are times I wish I had made a different choice. I was the one to become agast at the proposed ring budget at the time DH and I got engaged. I was in grad school and paying my own way (not living at home) and he was working full time but living at home. He offered a budget of what would have been at the time more than half of what I lived on in a year (and would have bought me a brand name 1 carat ring from our version of Tiffanies). I said don’t you dare...that’s a down payment on a house, cut the budget to a quarter, and got a beautiful simple 0.4 carat non-branded ring. Of course now that we both live on our own means, the money has never been easy again, so there’s no budget for an upgrade, and DH is sentimental about my ring. There are times when I wish I’d made a different choice...
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But then you wouldn’t be be you :)
 
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