Facebook "friends." (That site drives me nuts!)

[musey]

Date: 1/12/2009 2:23:49 PM
Author: fieryred33143
I hate facebook. I hate that if you leave Susie FuFu a comment on her picture, I have to read about it. I hate that if I leave someone a comment, then you have to read about it. And I''ve tried to get it to where I can''t read it but I can''t figure it out because the site isn''t user friendly.

Those are also things you can change, quite easily

I actually find the site to be quite user-friendly and intuitive. Their support is also quite responsive, so if you can''t find what you''re looking through by clicking around, checking the help pages, or googling it - they''ll happily help you.

 

[Porridge]

Tee hee hee. I love Facebook! But I''ve lived abroad in various places for the last few years, so it''s a great way to keep in touch with my traveling friends, and see pictures and stuff. Put your profile on private and use it whatever way you want to use it! You could also make your picture a little vague, so it''s not obvious that it''s you, and then people won''t add you so easily, and you can reject them as friends, cos you can say "it wasn''t me"

 

[musey]

Date: 1/12/2009 2:26:37 PM
Author: musey

Date: 1/12/2009 2:23:49 PM

Author: fieryred33143

I hate facebook. I hate that if you leave Susie FuFu a comment on her picture, I have to read about it. I hate that if I leave someone a comment, then you have to read about it. And I''ve tried to get it to where I can''t read it but I can''t figure it out because the site isn''t user friendly.

Those are also things you can change, quite easily

I actually find the site to be quite user-friendly and intuitive. Their support is also quite responsive, so if you can''t find what you''re looking through by clicking around, checking the help pages, or googling it - they''ll happily help you.

Here''s a good page for you, fiery: How to change your facebook settings

It was the second or third result when I googled "how to change facebook settings".

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 1/12/2009 2:23:14 PM
Author: musey
You know, you can just ignore these friend requests

I do know!

lol It''s just that other people do not and it''s obvious they are just "friend collecting." Like I said, I have too much time on my hands and am obsessing over silly things.

 

[fieryred33143]

Date: 1/12/2009 2:30:56 PM
Author: musey

Date: 1/12/2009 2:26:37 PM
Author: musey

Date: 1/12/2009 2:23:49 PM

Author: fieryred33143

I hate facebook. I hate that if you leave Susie FuFu a comment on her picture, I have to read about it. I hate that if I leave someone a comment, then you have to read about it. And I''ve tried to get it to where I can''t read it but I can''t figure it out because the site isn''t user friendly.

Those are also things you can change, quite easily

I actually find the site to be quite user-friendly and intuitive. Their support is also quite responsive, so if you can''t find what you''re looking through by clicking around, checking the help pages, or googling it - they''ll happily help you.

Here''s a good page for you, fiery: How to change your facebook settings

It was the second or third result when I googled ''how to change facebook settings''.

Thanks for that page. I bookmarked it so that when I get home I can figure it out, especially since everyone is leaving myspace and migrating over to facebook.

 

[snlee]

Date: 1/12/2009 1:53:09 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring

Date: 1/11/2009 10:40:37 PM
Author: MC

Date: 1/11/2009 6:34:07 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring

Why does it drive you nuts? I don't know/remember how many 'friends' I have on FB b/c I guess it is not that important to me.

What drives me nuts is that to some people, the number of friends they have IS important, and some of those people have contacted me. They join and then become friends with every possible person who pops up from high school. I don't get it. . .

lol Yeah, I have no life if I take the time to post about FB bugging me! Hopefully I get the job I'm waiting on hearing back from and won't have endless hours of time to waste!

So what if it is important to them? I guess I just don't see how it negatively impacts *your* life. Just continue to 'ignore' their requests and have fun with the people you DO want to be friends with. Hope you hear back soon and that it is good news for you.

Ditto.

 

[777_LDY]

Lol, I have 5 friends on facebook!

How that even happened is beyond me! When one of my friends (in real life and fb) set up her account I saw her acquire like 100 friends in like 3 days, lol! I have another friend who is constantly writing about what she is doing! That isn''t something that really interests me though. My profile is completely private to where even if you put my name in the search I won''t come up. I imagine when, or if, my children ever have accounts I will use it more often. I am hoping that doesn''t happen for a loooong time.

 

[denverappraiser]

I’m fairly new to Facebook and I get a lot of friend requests. I suspect that this might be a good place for promotion but I fear it’s going to suck up a huge amount of time (sort of like how pricescope does). I see others out there, like Barack Obama for example who have a huge number of friends. This is surely an automated system but when I look at his page it’s subtly different in style from mine. For example he has ‘supporter’ instead of ‘friends’ and missing are the personal contact things like ‘poke’ or the ability to send him a e-card. This seems like the right sort of approach for a business and with this sort of approach there’s no reason at all to regulate how many people and who wants to be my friend.

Another question since we’ve got some gurus here. I’ve added some friends from pricescope and I know them by their PS alias. This appears nowhere on the Facebook page so I have to keep in my head who matches which alias. Is there a way to attach memos to the facebook records to remind me who is who?

Neil Beaty
GG(GIA) ICGA(AGS) NAJA
Professional Appraisals in Denver

 

[Mara]

As everyone else already said you can set your privacy levels to absolutely no one can find you kind of thing...or see your pictures etc etc.

The one downer about being totally private is that STILL if I leave a comment on a friend's photo or their wall, someone who is not my friend can SEE my comment even though they cannot see my picture, click on my name or link to me or friend me or even find me. But they can still see my comment....it's like hello if I want to be private about my picture, name, link, friends etc, why wouldn't FB allow comments to be hidden too??? The way it is setup now then people can see that I am friends with someone but not them (aka that's the uncool seeming part). They should also allow some sort of 'tagging' controls where I can say 'no, other people can't tag me unless i approve it' kind of thing because otherwise where's the photo privacy?

I don't love all of it. However, so many of my good real life friends esp long-distance ones ARE on FB, so it's the best way for me to share photos, updates, and news with them quickly, esp via Twitter etc....so I use it because of so many of my friends are on it.

 

[Judah Gutwein]

I think FB presents an interesting dichotomy.
On the one hand, it allows people to connect with friends and family in a way that is completely dynamic with an intuitive interface.
On the other hand, it serves to further erode some of the last vestiges of privacy we have left in our personal lives.
Now, assuredly, each inividual can limit the amount of personal data/photos etc. he/she is willing to place up in front of everyone.

Still, once you''ve "friended" someone, it is tough to distinguish between levels of access for those people who are already on board...

As an aside, it always amazes me when I see people (those who I am connected with) posting incredibly private photos (don''t let your imagination wander....that''s not what I mean... and personal information.

Is there nothing sacred left in this world?

I ask myself what would motivate these people to literally provide this full disclosure and an open book to their many "friends" who I know for certain have no more than a casual friendship in comparison with some of the closer friends and family who they are connected with.

Of course, we are all grown ups and we have the ability to make choices and to subsequently live with the ramifications of those choices.

 

[Elmorton]

Judah - ditto, I think FB presents all sorts of interesting questions - for me, they mostly have to due with rhetoric and composition studies since there''s a lot of writing and the idea of audience is altered from previous technologies.

MC, dear, I hope you''re happy. I''d amassed over 600 friends (in college, you "friended" everyone you met because it was the right thing to do, and I knew a heck of a lot of people), and last night I trimmed the list down quite a bit. You were making me so nervous that I must be some sort of FB freak!

 

[VegasAngel]

Eh, I tried Facebook & then cancelled it. I had a Myspace page & got rid of that one also. I opened them to keep in touch with my family which never really happened.

 

[diamondgirl4382]

I don''t post in this area of the forums much, but I just joined FB and was amazed at the number of people who "friended" me in the first two days. Most from HS. I made my profile private so that the only people who can find me in search are friends and friends of friends, which has cut down on it some. One thing that caught my attention when reading the user agreement of the site--when you post pictures on there, you are giving up your copyright to those photos. They have "worldwide copyright." Anyone who finds your photos can legally take them, edit them, post them elsewhere, whatever they want. Facebook can use your pictures for their advertising if they want--even if you have your profile set to private. I just thought this was interesting and it made me think twice about posting a bunch of pictures.

 

[Skippy123]

Date: 1/12/2009 7:15:54 PM
Author: Mara
As everyone else already said you can set your privacy levels to absolutely no one can find you kind of thing...or see your pictures etc etc.

The one downer about being totally private is that STILL if I leave a comment on a friend''s photo or their wall, someone who is not my friend can SEE my comment even though they cannot see my picture, click on my name or link to me or friend me or even find me. But they can still see my comment....it''s like hello if I want to be private about my picture, name, link, friends etc, why wouldn''t FB allow comments to be hidden too??? The way it is setup now then people can see that I am friends with someone but not them (aka that''s the uncool seeming part). They should also allow some sort of ''tagging'' controls where I can say ''no, other people can''t tag me unless i approve it'' kind of thing because otherwise where''s the photo privacy?

I don''t love all of it. However, so many of my good real life friends esp long-distance ones ARE on FB, so it''s the best way for me to share photos, updates, and news with them quickly, esp via Twitter etc....so I use it because of so many of my friends are on it.

http://www.allfacebook.com/2009/02/facebook-privacy/ someone posted this and I found it helpful

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 1/14/2009 5:07:43 PM
Author: Elmorton
Judah - ditto, I think FB presents all sorts of interesting questions - for me, they mostly have to due with rhetoric and composition studies since there's a lot of writing and the idea of audience is altered from previous technologies.

MC, dear, I hope you're happy. I'd amassed over 600 friends (in college, you 'friended' everyone you met because it was the right thing to do, and I knew a heck of a lot of people), and last night I trimmed the list down quite a bit. You were making me so nervous that I must be some sort of FB freak!

lol Oh no, I'm so sorry! I'm super paranoid when it comes to the internet (that's why I never post any photos of myself - except on FB). Just to point out, I've never personally known anyone who's had a problem as a result of interacting with anyone online. Only the scary stuff in the news.

Skippy - Thanks for posting that about tagging. Someone tagged photos of my and they all were TERRIBLE shots! Ones where I had been outside all day and not brushed my hair. . .there is one where I'm in the background glaring off into space! lol

 

[Savvymon]

It drives me crazy on Facebook how some people have the need to broadcast their every emotional problem and or action through their profile status, at this very moment I have one friend who has:

thinks all the 2 face f#*kers can go f#*k them selfs ive had enough of ppl being 2 faced...some friends u really were...

(without the * and #

)

And another who has an obsession with updating his status Ive counted up to 16 times in one day, I dont want to know that you are waiting for a tram and are annoyed because the first one was full.

I deleted a whole group of people that I didnt really ever wish to see again and now Im being far more selective in who I accept

I agree with Judah that privacy has been eroded.

 

[phoenixgirl]

I just saw that a woman I barely spoke to in high school was no longer listed as married, so of course I clicked on her page. Her status updates over the last few days say:

"[Person I Hardly Remember] says shame on both of you; is speechless; it's funny how life can change at the drop of a dime . . . or the drop of one's pants . . . ; is out of her mind and absolutely devastated; etc, etc." You get the idea.

And her profile pic is of her and two children. So sad!

Another high school acquaintance always writes things like "[Person I Vaguely Remember]'s mom won't see her without a therapist present; got kicked out of her mom's house on Christmas, nice!" When her dad died it was "[PIVR] doesn't know if she'll make it without her dad; needs somebody to make her feel better; guesses nobody cares about her." Etc., etc. Ugh. I lost my dad 9 months ago and I didn't post anything about it on FB. My real friends find out real information from me by, well, being real friends with me. Everyone else can just see smiling pictures and the movies I like.

I think my second example is worse than the first. That woman is still in shock and lashing out. The second example is of somebody who uses Facebook as a major means of emotional support.

I don't feel right rejecting the friendship requests of people I actually know, but I do have varying degrees of what people can see. Best friends can see everything; long lost friends can't see where I live or my phone #; acquaintances can't see my pictures; and a certain in-law can't see anything except the fact that sometimes I play WordChallenge.

 

[Brown.Eyed.Girl]

Aw I love Facebook! But I''ve had it since I entered college (and I think that was around the time it started so I got to see its growing pains

). Sure it''s annoying a bit, but there are way too many people I''d never be able to keep in touch with without it - and that makes it worthwhile.

Plus privacy settings are great- nothing I do (comment, post on someone''s wall, etc. show up on someone''s feed - Big Brother, no thanks...).