shape
carat
color
clarity

Feel like I will never stop crying

Status
Not open for further replies. Please create a new topic or request for this thread to be opened.

chocolatefudge

Shiny_Rock
Joined
Oct 28, 2007
Messages
383
Sorry that this is off topic but I had to have my dog put to sleep last night. He was a black labrador and I had him for my birthday when I was twelve. He was the nicest, gentlest dog ever and I can''t believe he''s gone. He was so well up until Christmas when he developed a lump. The vet said it was a tumour. Within a few weeks loads more developed. Last night he suddenly seemed ill (which he never had before.) The vet said it was time to go. I couldn''t take him to the vets I really couldn''t face it so my mum and dad took him.
Although he was my dog when I moved out in April he stayed living with my parents as that had always been his home and as I work fulltime I didn''t think it was fair to leave him by himself all day in a strange house. Everyone is so upset and I can''t believe he''s gone :-(

Like I say, sorry for going off topic but I had to tell someone and don''t feel like talking about in in real life as I keep bursting into tears. I loved him so much
8.gif
 
I am so desperately sorry to hear this. I well know how hard it is to lose a beloved animal, it is beyond devastating. I am still suffering a huge animal loss myself, so I can relate to how you feel.

Please know that by putting him to rest according to the vet's advice, that you did the kindest thing possible, and spared him pain and fear in the future. Grieve as you need to and cry, it does seem to help, and know that so many of us here want to support you and can relate.
emrose.gif
 
7.gif
you poor thing my heart goes out to you

I agree with Lorelei you 100% did the best thing possible you loved and cherished your pup and in his time of pain you made the choice that was best for him, even though it hurt you to do so.

It is so very hard to lose an animal they weedle their way into your heart and it is awful when they leave but take the time to cry and grieve and when you can think of all the wonderful moments you had together.

*sending hugs your way*
 
Date: 2/5/2008 3:54:44 AM
Author: Lorelei
I am so desperately sorry to hear this. I well know how hard it is to lose a beloved animal, it is beyond devastating. I am still suffering a huge animal loss myself, so I can relate to how you feel.


Please know that by putting him to rest according to the vet''s advice, that you did the kindest thing possible, and spared him pain and fear in the future. Grieve as you need to and cry, it does seem to help, and know that so many of us here want to support you and can relate.
emrose.gif

Ditto. I''m so sorry to hear about your beloved doggie. Hugs
 
Oh, I''m so sorry. That''s never an easy decision, but it sounds like you made the only one you could. {{{hugs}}}
 
Chocolatefudge - I am SO sorry to hear about your pup
8.gif
*Hugs*
 
Sorry to hear that.
7.gif
 
I''m sorry to hear that
8.gif
. Just know that you did the best you could and your dog is grateful for your loving him enough to let him go. No one wants to live in pain, and our animals deserve the same mercy as people do. I''ve often wished that there were hospices for animals, like there are for humans who are terminal....

Have you ever heard of The Rainbow Bridge? If not, see: http://www.indigo.org/rainbowbridge_ver2.htmlhttp://rainbowsbridge.com/Poem.htm. This version takes a second to load but is very worth it.

I always found it a comforting thought to think that all of the animals I''ve ever loved are waiting for me to catch up....because you KNOW they are.


Bridget in Connecticut.
 
Hi Everyone,

Thank you for your kind messages. Thank you for the link Bridget, it made me cry even more, but in a nice way.

My mum and dad are both very upset still today, they have phoned me and both say how lonely and empty the house seems without the dog. They will notice him not being there even more than me as I obviously didn''t live with him any longer. I''m worried that my dad will not ''cope'' not having a dog and although it is very soon I wonder whether to speak to him about getting a puppy? It is something he has mentioned before and I was always against it as I felt I could never replace Shadow. However, it seems like the right thing to do now but I don''t want to seem heartless thinking about it so soon. I just think that my parents need/ want something to concentrate on to forget their sadness. I know that we all know we did the right thing for our dog and we are trying to focus on the positives but it is very lonely not having him anymore. My dad already asked me how much puppies cost now, I just don''t want to feel like we are ''replacing'' Shadow as we never could, I just feel like it might be a good idea. I know I''m rambling now, I just don''t want to sound like I''m saying, "He''s gone lets have another now." It''s really not that simple, I just want us all to feel happy again.
 
I''m so sorry, chocolatefudge.
7.gif
 
Chocolate - I am SO SORRY for your loss. I have a black lab and reading your post and the thought of having to let her go is making me tear up at work.
I hope the pain passes soon and you can remember all the good times you shared growin up...
Sending well wishes out to you and your family...
emrose.gif
 
I''m so sorry to hear that.
7.gif
I know how you feel about getting a new one so soon, but it might be a good idea. My family did that when one of our dogs passed away several years ago. Maybe wait a week, or until the weekend to think about it, but it''s not like you''re forgetting about Shadow or replacing him. Don''t feel bad about it.
 
Chocolate, I''m so sorry for your loss.

I''ve had this happen twice; the first time, my 4-year old dog died very unexpectedly late on a Thursday night. Feeling her absence heavily since I lived alone, I got another puppy right away...within four days. In hindsight, I don''t think I''d do that again. I think that I was still so brokenhearted, I couldn''t be joyful and enthusiastic with her the way that she deserved. It made for a very bumpy beginning for us.

My second dog died at 11 years old with a heart problem. This time, I waited nearly two months to get another dog, and that''s when I got Nicky. Having taken more time to grieve my loss, I think I had more to give to Nicky, and it was a MUCH smoother bond for us.

Of course, every person''s circumstances and situations are unique, but I hope the benefit of my experience can help you in some way.
 
I''m so so sorry, Chocolate.

I agree with Alj--if you do get a new dog, I''d wait until you''ve had time to grieve for Shadow. In any case, my heart goes out to you and your family. *Hugs*
 
Thank you everyone. I''m going round to my mum and dad''s for tea and hopefully we can all stay positive :-) I know it sounds stupid but I''m just really upset that Shadow will be on his own now. My grandad''s have both passed away but that was before I had him and I''m worried that he won''t have anyone he knows with him!! I know I sound really silly but it''s all I can keep thinking about.
 
Date: 2/5/2008 11:22:59 AM
Author: chocolatefudge
Hi Everyone,

Thank you for your kind messages. Thank you for the link Bridget, it made me cry even more, but in a nice way.

My mum and dad are both very upset still today, they have phoned me and both say how lonely and empty the house seems without the dog. They will notice him not being there even more than me as I obviously didn''t live with him any longer. I''m worried that my dad will not ''cope'' not having a dog and although it is very soon I wonder whether to speak to him about getting a puppy? It is something he has mentioned before and I was always against it as I felt I could never replace Shadow. However, it seems like the right thing to do now but I don''t want to seem heartless thinking about it so soon. I just think that my parents need/ want something to concentrate on to forget their sadness. I know that we all know we did the right thing for our dog and we are trying to focus on the positives but it is very lonely not having him anymore. My dad already asked me how much puppies cost now, I just don''t want to feel like we are ''replacing'' Shadow as we never could, I just feel like it might be a good idea. I know I''m rambling now, I just don''t want to sound like I''m saying, ''He''s gone lets have another now.'' It''s really not that simple, I just want us all to feel happy again.
You''re welcome.

When I was a kid (I was maybe 8 or 9), one of my cats wandered out of the yard and got hit by a car. Her name was Daisy - a big black and white cat. We always had cats when I was a kid and I''m still a "cat lady" now. I was devestated - would not go outside, refused to go to school, would not eat, etc. A few days after Daisy''s accident, my mom came home with a young cat that she had gotten at the animal shelter. This cat wasn''t a kitten - I guess you''d call it a "teenage cat." At first, I didn''t even want to see it, because I thought that Daisy would be upset with me for getting another cat so soon. Then, my mom said, "Wouldn''t you think that Daisy would like to know that she made us love cats so much that we offered her space in our house to another cat that really needed it? In Heaven, she doesn''t need the room anymore here...but another cat might." The cat was on the "kill list" at the shelter - no one had adopted it (lots of people just want kittens, so teenage cats and older cats often get passed up - for no reason...they make great pets!) and so it would have been put to sleep had my mom or someone else not gotten her. My curiosity made me come out of my room and I fell in love! We named that cat Spider - she was a gorgeous, sleek black cat with orange eyes and only one spot of white on the tip of her tail. She was thin wtih long legs and would climb on our cabinets, up drapes, on furniture...kind of like a spider. We had her until she died of old age when I was in my early 20s.

Anyway, that''s the thought I can offer you. Pets don''t leave our hearts, ever, but when they are gone, they leave a physical space in our homes that another animal might need. And I have always thought that that is a great tribute to an animal - that they made you love them so much that you''re willing to open your heart again. That''s why a lot of people go on to parent more foster children when their original "sets" move on or go out on their own.

Hope this helps.

Bridget in Connecticut.
 
There are few words for the loss of a dog... even less for the loss of a friend... there are no words for the loss of someone who was both...


we''re here for you
 
Date: 2/5/2008 12:48:00 PM
Author: chocolatefudge
Thank you everyone. I'm going round to my mum and dad's for tea and hopefully we can all stay positive :-) I know it sounds stupid but I'm just really upset that Shadow will be on his own now. My grandad's have both passed away but that was before I had him and I'm worried that he won't have anyone he knows with him!! I know I sound really silly but it's all I can keep thinking about.
I do believe that our beloved pets go to a wonderful place when they leave this earth, and also a place where things on this plane like time, don't have any meaning. I am sure your Shadow is being cared for and he won't be alone. You don't sound silly and I completely understand. I take comfort in knowing that my Father is taking care of my dear ones who have had to follow him away from this life. This may sound odd to some, but I know it is so.

When the time is right, another animal who needs a loving home will cross yours or your parent's path - trust me, it will happen. Meanwhile take all the time you need to grieve for Shadow. Also when the time is right, you may sense him close to you...
 
Losing a beloved pet is always difficult as they''re a member of your family. I didn''t go with my Dad when he had to put down our Great Dane because it was just too much for me. I know that my Dad was with him though, and honestly, he was so old and had so many problems that when he could no longer walk enough to go to the bathroom himself, it was time. And for your pup, it''s better to remember him as he was, than let him linger on, you know what I mean? Your family did the most humane thing they could for him and he was lucky to be in a family that really loved him. You never really get over losing a pet but it will get easier and in time, you''ll be able to think about him and look at his photo without crying, really! Just allow yourself the time to grieve...and feel how lucky you were to have such a wonderful dog in your life, right?
 
I am so, so sorry to hear this. I know how gutwrenching it is to lose a beloved companion and I already worry for the day when I will have to face this again. Big hugs. You did what was best for your pup and that is part of the responsibility of having these wonderful creatures in our lives, though it is painful for us to lose them.
15.gif
 
My heart goes out to you and your family. I had to put my much beloved cat to sleep in October, and I still miss him, every single day.

In regards to a new puppy, you and your family need to decide what''s best for you. A new puppy will never "replace" Shadow, but it will bring some joy to your lives and help you to move on. I wish that I''d been able to adopt another animal right after my cat had passed away, but I haven''t been in the place to do that yet.

His absence has left a huge hole in my heart and in my home.

Take care, and take comfort in the fact that you gave Shadow many years of love and companionship.
 
Date: 2/5/2008 1:01:48 PM
Author: Lorelei
Date: 2/5/2008 12:48:00 PM

Author: chocolatefudge

Thank you everyone. I''m going round to my mum and dad''s for tea and hopefully we can all stay positive :-) I know it sounds stupid but I''m just really upset that Shadow will be on his own now. My grandad''s have both passed away but that was before I had him and I''m worried that he won''t have anyone he knows with him!! I know I sound really silly but it''s all I can keep thinking about.

I do believe that our beloved pets go to a wonderful place when they leave this earth, and also a place where things on this plane like time, don''t have any meaning. I am sure your Shadow is being cared for and he won''t be alone. You don''t sound silly and I completely understand.

I totally agree. There is no way that he is alone-he is definitely being cared for.

In terms of getting a new dog, there are always many looking for a great home so when the time is right, one will land on your doorstep. We got Amber when my childhood dog was put down and she helped me grieve so much. I was annoyed with her for the first time as she wasn''t Amira but then I grew to love her as Amber and I realised that she will never be as calm and smart as Amira, but more playful and silly and loving. They all have their own personality so I don''t think you can ever be worried that your new dog will be a replacement for Shadow.
 
Chocolatefudge~ I am so very sorry to hear about your dog, it sounds like he was much more than that (i can relate to that). Sandia-Rose''s link brought me to tears but it is so very true. They will never leave your side, you may not see them but they are there. I will keep you and your furbaby in my prayers tonight.

I am thankful for everyones posts because i fear soon i will face the same as you, my yellow lab Lexi who is 11 has hip dysplasia and it is just so sad when their mind is so full of play but their body is going before them.

Chocolatefudge, again my thoughts and prayers are with you and he is up there making some new friends and playing ball all day long! Stay Strong.
 
I''m so sorry to hear that. I have two dogs of my own and would be devastated if anything happened to them. I''m sure he was in a great deal of pain though, so I''m sure it''s much better this way.....as hard as it still is.
 
Aww
7.gif
I''m sorry. I am sure he was very loved and lived a happy life.

I dread this as well, though. My mini poodle turns 18 this month. He''s in decent shape, but realistically speaking he won''t be around for too much longer.
 
I''m sorry for your loss. I''m afraid that I''ll have to go through the same thing soon enough because my puppy will turn 15 this year, and he''s not getting any younger.

I know that you gave your dog a good life, and now he''s not in any pain.
 
My heart is with your''s tonight. I know the pain you are feeling. You gave him tons of love, and a great life. Those are memories that hopefully will sustain you in the hard days ahead. HUGS!!
 
Oh honey, I''m so sorry for your loss. I have several furbabies of my own, and I''ve lost several furbabies too, and parting with them is incredibly difficult. Relish all of your memories of Shadow, and take comfort in the joy and love that you two shared.

Big hugs to you. BIG hugs.
 
Just wanted to give ya a hug hon, I have a black lab named Jazzy she is amazing. They truly are the BEST, most loyal, smart and loving dogs! I''m so sorry for your loss... (HUG)
 
chocolatefudge I am so sorry about your baby boy. I am having a little cry for you writing this post. I am sure there isn''t any words at the moment to make you feel better, but we are thinking about you and hope you are ok. Pets are such an important part of a person''s life - they are our friends no matter what happens, they are just there for you and love you no matter what. I once read that ''there is nothing quite like the comfort of a dog''s companionable sigh''. Remember the good times you had with him. I have two labs Honey and Bailey, and would be devastated without them, so I can only imagine what you are going through.

It''s important for you to take time to grieve and deal with this in your own way. Let yourself cry and miss him - it''s only natural. My most heartfelt wishes are with you today, I hope the sun can shine again for you soon. Hugs!

Maybe it would make you feel better to celebrate his life, and perhaps post some pics of him for us to share? Only if you feel comfortable.
 
Status
Not open for further replies. Please create a new topic or request for this thread to be opened.
GET 3 FREE HCA RESULTS JOIN THE FORUM. ASK FOR HELP
Top