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Shiny_Rock
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Hello everyone.
On Saturday I posted this: https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/just-had-an-interestng-conversation.87120/
On Monday when BF came home we went to bed really early and talked for ages.
Early on in the conversation I asked him something about what he had been thinking about me when he had been away. He said "how much I miss you and something else that I am not ready to talk about yet". I left it alone.
However, a bit later on I did bring up the engagement ring issue- we have now definitely agreed we will choose it together after the proposal. He realised he knows nothing about what I want!
Later on though we were talking about things that we want in life and I said that I think we both want the same things in life but just not at the same times. He kind of agreed with me and we talked around this issue for a while before we finally got to the point that we were talking about getting engaged. This then led into a really honest, easy conversation about where we were both at in terms of getting engaged.
This is what we established:
- That internally, I am ready to get engaged as I feel that it is only formalising the commitment I feel.
- Externally however, I feel that we should wait until the end of the year
- That he is thinking about getting engaged seriously (that was what he was talking about with the ''other thing'' he had been thinking about). I told him that the fact he was thinking about it meant a lot to me.
- That it definitely is a matter of when not if.
- That he is really conflicted about when we should get engaged. Part of him really wants to propose now and the other part keeps questioning that and thinking that we should wait.
- He wants to wait because:
- He has the feeling that there is a set amount of time a couple should be together
- That there is a set age that I should be
- He is worried about what some people may think
- These are the external reasons that I thought we should wait until the end of the year for so I understand where he is coming from there.
- I pointed out that it shouldn''t be about a set time but about how committed and sure he is about the relationship
- That most people who know us as a couple are expecting an engagement any time now
- That although I am young, I am quite capable of making my own decisions about these things and that he has no problem with my age- it is not an issue in our relationship anymore.
- But that despite the above I wanted him to propose when he felt the time is right, not just because he knows it would make me happy.
So, now that I know what his issues are and that he is thinking seriously about getting engaged, I feel a lot calmer and happier!
On Saturday I posted this: https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/just-had-an-interestng-conversation.87120/
On Monday when BF came home we went to bed really early and talked for ages.
Early on in the conversation I asked him something about what he had been thinking about me when he had been away. He said "how much I miss you and something else that I am not ready to talk about yet". I left it alone.
However, a bit later on I did bring up the engagement ring issue- we have now definitely agreed we will choose it together after the proposal. He realised he knows nothing about what I want!
Later on though we were talking about things that we want in life and I said that I think we both want the same things in life but just not at the same times. He kind of agreed with me and we talked around this issue for a while before we finally got to the point that we were talking about getting engaged. This then led into a really honest, easy conversation about where we were both at in terms of getting engaged.
This is what we established:
- That internally, I am ready to get engaged as I feel that it is only formalising the commitment I feel.
- Externally however, I feel that we should wait until the end of the year
- That he is thinking about getting engaged seriously (that was what he was talking about with the ''other thing'' he had been thinking about). I told him that the fact he was thinking about it meant a lot to me.
- That it definitely is a matter of when not if.
- That he is really conflicted about when we should get engaged. Part of him really wants to propose now and the other part keeps questioning that and thinking that we should wait.
- He wants to wait because:
- He has the feeling that there is a set amount of time a couple should be together
- That there is a set age that I should be
- He is worried about what some people may think
- These are the external reasons that I thought we should wait until the end of the year for so I understand where he is coming from there.
- I pointed out that it shouldn''t be about a set time but about how committed and sure he is about the relationship
- That most people who know us as a couple are expecting an engagement any time now
- That although I am young, I am quite capable of making my own decisions about these things and that he has no problem with my age- it is not an issue in our relationship anymore.
- But that despite the above I wanted him to propose when he felt the time is right, not just because he knows it would make me happy.
So, now that I know what his issues are and that he is thinking seriously about getting engaged, I feel a lot calmer and happier!
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