Flower girl age range

[Independent Gal]

How young is too young to be a flower girl? And the "Robbie-the-hot-sexy-flower-lady" case aside, how old is too old?

I wasn''t going to have a flower girl, but then I realized it''s the sort of thing that little girls get a real kick out of, so why not give someone a thrill? The candidates will be 2 yrs old and 13 yrs old.... too young? too old?

BTW, I don''t care if something goes WRONG (i.e., if the 2 yr old wanders off course or whatever...) But is 2 too young to even enjoy it?

 

[ladyciel]

I think 13 is more JBM age than flower girl. As for the 2 year old, what end of the spectrum at wedding time? JUST turned 2, close to being 3, somewhere in the middle? I think that''s one of those ages where just the year number doesn''t tell all. It probably also depends on the specific child. Her parents may be your best judges for whether she''ll be ready.

 

[musey]

I agree about the 13-year-old... would be fine if it were just her, I think, but she might not like being a flower girl WITH a 2-year-old (if you were considering having both), depending on the girl. If she''s a non-testy teenager she might not mind, though, if they walked together.

 

[Independent Gal]

Good thinking. I''ll ask the 2 yr old''s mom. Oh...hey, come to think of it, her mom (one of my oldest friends) is expecting Kid 2 about 6 weeks before the wedding, so she may not need anything extra to think about. OK scratch that!

Since I''m not having bridesmaids (just my pals and sister hanging out with me prior to the wedding) the JBM thing won''t work for the 13 yr old. But I wonder if she would get a kick out of having SOME other involvement in the wedding. Hmmm... Any ideas for other things I could ask her to be involved in that a kid that age would find fun?

 

[ladyciel]

Hmmm, if she''s the type of kid who likes to feel/be treated like she''s an adult, she may like roles with some responsibility. I guess you just have to judge how much she can handle. Easy things would be passing out programs, more complicated could be acting as a greeter to direct guests in the right direction from the parking lot/lobby/etc, those sorts of things. If she''s outgoing she may get a real kick out of announcing the bridal party at the reception. Again, something where personality/maturity of the specific 13 year old comes into big play.

 

[Independent Gal]

Oh HEY, we should totally give her some announcing duties! She is a VERY dramatic and outgoing kid and she absolutely LOVES attention, so anything involving having a mic in her hand in front of all those people will be a huge thrill for her.

And yes, she can be trusted to be totally charming and competent.

She''s the daughter of my step-dad''s former executive assistant. I was her unofficial babysitter while her mom and my step-dad had some meetings in Milan back when she was 10, and some important documents arrived that I needed to get to my step-dad ASAP as we were trying to orchestrate it, she was taking calls and directing the messenger and everything and getting an absolute kick out of it.

I probably shouldn''t have let her do it. But it was the CUTEST thing I ever saw, and she did a stellar job.

Good call Ladyciel.

 

[robbie3982]

My soon-to-be nieces, 15, are going to be doing a reading and my 12-year-old soon-to-be niece is passing out programs. Maybe you could have her be your personal attendant? She could make sure that your trains is perfect or that your veil is laying correctly.

 

[Pandora II]

I have 5.

They will be 12, 10, 8, 4 and 3.5.

I am planning on doing one dress for the two little ones, a longer one for the 10 and 8 year old (they are quite a young 10 and and making the 12 year old chief bridesmaid and getting her a more grown up dress so she doesn''t feel like a little kid.

For flowers I am doing pomander balls for the little ones, hoops for the middle two and a smaller version of my bouquet for the 12 year old.

They don''t sprinkle petals in the UK!

 

[eks6426]

maybe give the older one choices on what she would like to do. Maybe she really wishes to be a flowergirl? Maybe she wants to handle the guest book etc. I remember when I was younger, my dad''s cousin got married. They thought I was "too old" to be a flower girl and had my cousin do it instead. I got the job of passing out programs which they thought was a more "grown up" job. But honestly, I was really hurt that I didn''t get to be the flower girl. It was really hard watching everyone ooh and aah over my younger cousin as flowergirl while everyone virtually ignored me. We were only a couple years different in age. If I think about it even now, it kind of makes me mad/sad. So, why not ask her what works best for her?

 

[E B]

I don''t think a 13-year-old is too old to be a flower girl if she wants to be a flower girl. If for some reason, she feels she''s too old, I agree with the others re: giving her a more ''grown up'' duty.

 

[april diamonds]

Since you''re not having any BM''s if the 13 yr old would want to do be the flower girl then I say let her! My friend let her 26 year old male cousin be the "flower boy" beacuse he desperately wanted to be in the wedding party but the groomsmen slots were all taken.

It was absolutely hiarlious and charming at the same time. I would say there are no rules, do what you like!

Also if you''re going to have readings or something during the ceremony, you could ask her to do that if you wanted her to participate.

 

[MMM]

i think you should ask your friend if she would like to have the 2 year old in the wedding. i know you said she''ll have enough on her plate with a new baby... but flower girl duties are very limited. all she would have to do is put a dress on her and thats about it. i would love to look back on pictures of my little two year old participating in one my best friend''s weddings.

just thought you should let her decide if it too much, rather than assuming. : )

by the way this is all hypothetical about me looking back at my two year-old. i have no children! hah!
so maybe i just don''t understand and its more of a chore than i''m thinking it would be!

 

[Krissie]

I''m blessed with loads of little second-cousins and family friends, so I really have had my pick. I opted to go with 2 little girls, both of whom will be 5 at our wedding date. We went with slightly older girls, because we''re getting married in a cathedral with a really long aisle, and I thought that would be too overwhelming for little ones. Also, the cathedral will not allow anything to be dropped on the floor whatsoever, so the girls will carry kissing balls, which seems like an "older" thing maybe? I don''t know.