Giving/Lending Money Question...

[lumpkin]

Date: 4/27/2007 2:12:02 PM
Author: littlelysser
Skippygirl - Honestly, I''d prefer it be a gift. We definitely wouldn''t want the money back - if she won the lotto or something, well, then maybe...

But really, it is a pretty insignificant amount of money to us...and she is struggling right now...and it would really help her out.

Aloros - thanks for the advice. I like the ''you''d do the same for me'' idea...because I really do believe she would...we are just lucky enough that we have the ability to do this stuff.

The other thing I was contemplating doing is telling her we''ll loan her the money for a computer, but never really ask for her to repay it? maybe?

It is weird...but follow me here...I like to be generous for selfish reasons. It makes me happy to give a friend a nice gift...I get all warm and fuzzy from seeing that person happy...so yeah...it is selfish.

I wouldn''t do that. I would simply tell her that when you were in need at one point, someone helped you out. Now you are in a position to help and you''re sort of paying it forward. And you hope that when she''s in a position to help someone, she''ll do it. It''s all good karma.

It''s very thoughtful, and I know she will appreciate your kindness.