Has/or is anyone getting married during medical school?

[blondebunny]

Just curious if anyone has or will be getting married while you or your FI are in medical school??
Thanks

 

[allycat0303]

After my last year, before residency. I know that icekid did too, and GingerBcookie as well. When is your fiance starting med school?

 

[blondebunny]

well we are both starting grad school in fall..and wont graduate until may 2010...and then he will start that fall...he''s not sure if he wants to get married before med school..but thinks during..and I think its crazy to do during because Ill be working fulltime and he will be in school full time..and I dont like getting stressed because I get really sick...soo...ya... hahaha

just wondering how stressful it was to plan a wedding while both are working fulltime and probably neither will be available at the same times to make decisions and stuf...

 

[Anna0499]

My friend''s BF is in medical school now, two years left, and they will be getting married before residency because medical school is so much easier than residency for wedding planning stuff (from what he tells me, anyway). Are you in medical school or are you just getting your Masters? IMHO and again just from what I''ve heard from my friend and her BF, I would think the best time for you guys would be when you are in graduate school (I find it actually a lot easier than undergrad and I''m getting my JD/MHA at the same time) and before he starts his harder classes or residency.

 

[ilovethiswebsite]

hey - I am not in medical school but completing a PhD which can be pretty intense.

I don't think it will be that difficult to get married while he is in medical school because 1) he will have summers off and 2) you will probably do the majority of the planning (well I am assuming cause the women usually do more planning than their partners -may not be the case with you).

As I said I am doing a PhD in a Clinical program so I work, do practicums, research and take a full course load and it's been fine. Mind you, I have been doing the majority of my planning this summers since my work load is a bit lighter. That way I won't have much to worry about for the school year and we will be getting married next summer.

The only problem I could forsee for you gus is maybe financial aspects if he gets caught paying crazy tuition.

Anyway - my advice is get married when you two are ready, both emotionally and financially. You can work around school or get a wedding planner to help etc... if need be. I didn't want to wait to get married because if I did, i'd be in my 30's when I get married. Can't stop or pause your life just because you want to get a higher level of education!

 

[allycat0303]

Well half of the people I know that are married or getting married, did it after the first two years (before clinical rotation) while the others are waiting until after clinical rotations and before residency. I would say that if you can do it before med school that''s probably the easiest. Before clinical rotations is good too because you can still have some freedom. During the clinical rotation, you are dictated by the supervisor, and you can''t say "I have an appointement with the photographer" so most of my planning will be done in summer. But I am a girl, and I think that girls tend to take more *responsibility* of planning, so I am more stressed then I think my guy friends are.

Is there a reason he is waiting until 2010 to start medical school and not this fall? It sounds like you could still have a 2009, or a 2010 summer wedding.

 

[Sabine]

We just got married, and DH is about to start his 4th year. His school made it pretty easy in that the students get a vacation month during 4th year that they could schedule during 3rd year, so he actually had a week off before the wedding, a week off for honeymoon, and now the last 2 weeks off he''s using to prepare to take the Step 2 exams. He was really busy during 3rd year, but since I was doing the majority of the planning, it worked out pretty painlessly for us.

 

[blondebunny]

Date: 7/25/2008 8:43:32 AM
Author: allycat0303
Well half of the people I know that are married or getting married, did it after the first two years (before clinical rotation) while the others are waiting until after clinical rotations and before residency. I would say that if you can do it before med school that''s probably the easiest. Before clinical rotations is good too because you can still have some freedom. During the clinical rotation, you are dictated by the supervisor, and you can''t say ''I have an appointement with the photographer'' so most of my planning will be done in summer. But I am a girl, and I think that girls tend to take more *responsibility* of planning, so I am more stressed then I think my guy friends are.


Is there a reason he is waiting until 2010 to start medical school and not this fall? It sounds like you could still have a 2009, or a 2010 summer wedding.

Well, he wanted to get his Masters in microbiology and molecular biology first, so he was more prepared for med school, and he is doing the thesis option which means lots of research and he has to be a teachers assistant too, and I am getting my MBA and CPA, and its 2 years so he wanted me to finish.

We just got a ring last Sunday, but he hasnt proposed yet, and this has been our main issue because he says he wants to be engaged but doesnt know when he will be ready to get married ??? I couldnt sleep last night thinking about it.. I mean Im thinking I should tell him to wait to propose to me when he''s ready to marry me, I mean I dunno we could go 4 years and he''s still not ready, and Id prefer to be married before med school because itd be easier on both of us, and plus Im going to be supporting both of us while he''s in school, and I mean it just seems weird to me too when we arent married yet and without a date. to be supporting him...I also think it will be weird when people ask when we are getting married and we keep saying fir 3 years I dunno... I dont want people to think I pushed him to get engaged ( because I didnt, he just wanted my opinion on the ring)... ughhh what to do....

 

[Anna0499]

Date: 7/25/2008 11:37:21 AM
Author: blondebunny

Well, he wanted to get his Masters in microbiology and molecular biology first, so he was more prepared for med school, and he is doing the thesis option which means lots of research and he has to be a teachers assistant too, and I am getting my MBA and CPA, and its 2 years so he wanted me to finish.

We just got a ring last Sunday, but he hasnt proposed yet, and this has been our main issue because he says he wants to be engaged but doesnt know when he will be ready to get married ??? I couldnt sleep last night thinking about it.. I mean Im thinking I should tell him to wait to propose to me when he''s ready to marry me, I mean I dunno we could go 4 years and he''s still not ready, and Id prefer to be married before med school because itd be easier on both of us, and plus Im going to be supporting both of us while he''s in school, and I mean it just seems weird to me too when we arent married yet and without a date. to be supporting him...I also think it will be weird when people ask when we are getting married and we keep saying fir 3 years I dunno... I dont want people to think I pushed him to get engaged ( because I didnt, he just wanted my opinion on the ring)... ughhh what to do....

I don''t really understand how someone can say they want to be engaged but don''t know when they will be ready to get married. I don''t know of anyone who would get engaged who doesn''t want to be married (unless they are forced into it, of course). That just doesn''t make sense to me. An engagement specifically means that you want to get married in the near future, so was he planning to propose and then have a long engagement while he "readies" himself to be married? It''s very confusing to me and I would be frustrated too if I were you !

I would definitely not accept a proposal from someone who says they don''t know when they will be ready to be married, but that''s just me and I don''t want a 5 year engagement.

If your plan is for you to support him through medical school and you two are already living together...I would definitely want to be married too and I understand your concerns. You don''t want to tell him when to propose, but I would sit down with him and discuss the timeline for a WEDDING and why he would buy an engagement ring if he''s not ready for marriage...that way you can find out what he has in mind and he can decide when/if he wants to propose based on the wedding timeframe. Show him this thread and the opinions of knowledgeable people and he will probably agree with your ideas. You will still be surprised by the proposal, but it would relieve some of your LIWitis because you will have a deadline date.

 

[allycat0303]

Well I was engaged forever and ever, so I can''t comment on that. It is true that A LOT people asked me "why be engaged for so long" so I think it might have been precieved as not being serious or really planning to get married.

I did a Master''s in biology (thesis) and it wasn''t any help with med school. I did it because I *thought* it would help me get into med school (not the same position as your FF) and it turned out that they didn''t look at it (that''s in Canada though) so that was 2 years of my life flushed down the drain. It''s one my biggest regrets. If your fiance wants to do research, as some med students do, a lot of school''s have a combined MD/pHD program, where you do them cojointly, this can cut down on the time AND in research a MD/PhD opens a lot more doors then a MD/Msc. Also it takes longer to do MD/MSc--->pHD (one year less) then to do MD/phD jumping the MSc. So if he asks his med school for that option, it could give you a better time frame.

As for supporting him through med school. This is touchy. Honestly, with my master''s salary and grants I was able to put my guy through school. I can say that I absolutely DID NOT want to get married at that time. BUT if I were to do it all over again and I was in a different position, I WOULD NOT put him through school if we weren''t married. I would probably put a certain amount of money aside, have him take out a student loan, and when we were married give it to him. I''m older now, and I realize that protecting yourself and making smart money decisions is important. And I am not saying this because my guy did horrible things to me. On the contrary, he is putting me through school presently (we mutually put each other through school) but I think I might not have been smart when I made those decisions. There are too many of my friends that are have gotten *taken* for their money, gals and girls, for me not to be weary.

Also med students are offered huge lines of credit, so you don''t have to worry that he will be completely unable to afford med school if you don''t support him.

Good Luck!

 

[Anna0499]

Date: 7/25/2008 12:10:48 PM
Author: allycat0303

Well I was engaged forever and ever, so I can''t comment on that. It is true that A LOT people asked me ''why be engaged for so long'' so I think it might have been precieved as not being serious or really planning to get married.

I did a Master''s in biology (thesis) and it wasn''t any help with med school. I did it because I *thought* it would help me get into med school (not the same position as your FF) and it turned out that they didn''t look at it (that''s in Canada though) so that was 2 years of my life flushed down the drain. It''s one my biggest regrets. If your fiance wants to do research, as some med students do, a lot of school''s have a combined MD/pHD program, where you do them cojointly, this can cut down on the time AND in research a MD/PhD opens a lot more doors then a MD/Msc. Also it takes longer to do MD/MSc--->pHD (one year less) then to do MD/phD jumping the MSc. So if he asks his med school for that option, it could give you a better time frame.

As for supporting him through med school. This is touchy. Honestly, with my master''s salary and grants I was able to put my guy through school. I can say that I absolutely DID NOT want to get married at that time. BUT if I were to do it all over again and I was in a different position, I WOULD NOT put him through school if we weren''t married. I would probably put a certain amount of money aside, have him take out a student loan, and when we were married give it to him. I''m older now, and I realize that protecting yourself and making smart money decisions is important. And I am not saying this because my guy did horrible things to me. On the contrary, he is putting me through school presently (we mutually put each other through school) but I think I might not have been smart when I made those decisions. There are too many of my friends that are have gotten *taken* for their money, gals and girls, for me not to be weary.

Also med students are offered huge lines of credit, so you don''t have to worry that he will be completely unable to afford med school if you don''t support him.

Good Luck!

Very good advice alleycat! I''m glad you and your FI are finally wedding planning and I love seeing your ideas here. I agree with you on the financial aspects of the post too...I''ve worked so hard to get where I am I couldn''t imagine investing hard-earned money into someone with whom I didn''t have legal protection (marriage). I think it''s so cute that your FI is helping you through school now!

Anyway, I hope you weren''t offended by what I wrote about long engagements - I definitely think there are external reasons why a longer engagement makes sense (school, finances, etc.), but I guess I just don''t understand internal reasons for buying a ring and proposing without being emotionally/psychologically ready to be married as it seems to be mixed signals...but that''s just me.

BB - FWIW, my law school BFF has a wife in an MD/PhD program and she loves it...she got her PhD out of the way and just has one year of rotations left and is in Kenya on a medical mission as we speak.

 

[blondebunny]

Well he was originally waiting a year to go to med school, to raise his GPA some and get an awesome MCAT score,and he wasnt really ready for that yet, before me he got not very good grades and what not, but then when we got together...he raised his GPA a whole point and a half or something crazy like that (so obviously his whole family loves me for the fact that I helped push him to do his best) he got 4.0 his last 2 semesters and stuff, but didnt do any research when he was in undergrad (and the admissions guy told him he''d be really competitive if he did research and had a good MCAT, and so thus he decided to do the thesis option for his Masters, and get research and stuff and be really competitive.. He really wants to go here to UCF''s new medical school that opens in 2009. So he is planning on doing early decision and stuff... BUT then he tells me... Well if we have to move somewhere else for school, we''ll get married before (wtf..) and then Id have like no time to plan a wedding as Im doing school and working.. grrr

so you can see why he is driving me crazy. I mean we have been living together for over 2 years now..and I mean I didnt say hey We are gettng married in 6 months after we are engaged...I told him in 2010 would be good.. like march or something with our school schedule (if we have to move/buy a house/or go on a vacay that summer) and plus he was just like well we can get married that first summer of med school (SUMMERS here in FLORIDA SUCK!!!!!!! Its been sooo rainy....and HOT! I would die... lol) and plus I dont think he will want to plan any of the wedding... But i think Im gonna say if u want it then, Ill tell u everything I want and u can plan it because I want to focus on work that first year (not have to be stressed about planning a wedding and stuff...all on my own..) When I get stressed about stuff I get really sick, and plus I dont want to be that person that they just started a new job and are asking off for time because Im sick because im stressed or for a wedding ya know...

I guess last night it just got me going when I started to think, because he goes "now that we have the ring its messing up my plan" and I said "why?" and he goes "because I want you to have it now!"..But i think Im going to tell him to wait because I think it will drive me crazy always wondering when he is going to be ready to marry me..I didnt push him at all, i told him to do it on his own and stuff, and well he found an awesome ring in the budget, and didnt want to let it go by..but I mean he can keep it in the safe until he is ready, bcuz I just think its wrong to propose to me and not be ready and not know when you''ll be ready..and I dont want to be pushy on when he''s ready because I dont want to cause stress in our relationship ya know...ahhh im soo confused!

 

[allycat0303]

Hey blonde bunny,

Just tell me that he at least APPLIED right???? I am only saying this because I had all this preconcieved notion about my GPA being too low, and I didn''t even apply based on comments I heard, I just went straight into a Master''s degree. Well it turned out that all of the medical school in Quebec didn''t even LOOK at a Masters and my GPA as an undergrad was high enough!! So you can see why I''m pretty bitter about 2 years being wasted. I heard a lot of contracdictory advice that was not reality. And all it would have taken was me sending in an application.

But aside from that, I understand why this would be driving you crazy. I think you could tell him though that life doesn''t always go as planned. And maybe you should clarify EXACTLY why he is hesitent. Is it because he''s scared not to have money for a wedding? Or because he can''t split his attention while he''s in school? Does he feel like he is too young? I think though that in this situation, it''s important that you are married before moving. Firstly because it means a lot to you comfort level wise, and secondly because it''s still a sacrifice to pick up and move away!

Good luck!

 

[blondebunny]

no he didnt apply for the 2009 school year, here in FL atleast, masters are a good thing, they look at you being more mature and what not, and plus he was going to do the non-thesis option and it would have been a waste of money and time for him because it wouldnt have been completed yet (they look down on you NOT completing your masters). Every DR. he has shawdowed or looked at thinks the masters is a good idea, and the admissions guy here at UCF said that the masters was an excellent decision for my FF. I just dont think my FF would have been ready for med school then either... I mean before me he was always taking the least amount of classes he could, so he never really knew how to handle a full load of courses and be stressed out that way and stuff. So I think the masters program is going to be perfect for him because he will have to be taking classes and teaching (20 hours a week) and he never had a job, so I think its good life experience for him ya know..

I dont know what it is, I try to talk to him and everything always seems different. After he got the ring he started telling me NOT to plan anything and blah blah blah about financial stuff...well then after i read some stuff on here, I thought about it, and then talked to him, and we kinda sorta got things straightened out with that aspect.. I think it might be an age issue...bcuz h keeps saying im 22 now its hard to think when im 24 that ill be getting married..so I dunno what to even say to him..I mean he says he wants to marry me, maybe its just a scary thing to think he''ll be getting married?

 

[Daydreamer7130]

I don''t mean to sound negative here but I''m really "stupified". It sounds like he really doesn''t have a life plan here and does not want to truly commit to anything. He should apply to med school especially if he is almost done with his Masters. Why not? He''s never had a job? and you are supporting the 2 of you while going to school yourself! WOW!! It really sounds as if you are his other mother and running his life and telling him what to do and when and supporting him. I can see reasons to be both married and not married for medical school based on finances. But you have to protect yourself and do the best you can do for yourself. After all , the only behavior we can control is our own. No one will take care of you as best as you can take care of yourself. Besides, even if you do get married down the road, you will be the best person you can be for the marriage. I just hope and pray that the same follows him.

I truly wish you and him the best of luck! **HUGS!**

 

[blondebunny]

Date: 7/26/2008 1:03:13 AM
Author: Daydreamer7130
I don''t mean to sound negative here but I''m really ''stupified''. It sounds like he really doesn''t have a life plan here and does not want to truly commit to anything. He should apply to med school especially if he is almost done with his Masters. Why not? He''s never had a job? and you are supporting the 2 of you while going to school yourself! WOW!! It really sounds as if you are his other mother and running his life and telling him what to do and when and supporting him. I can see reasons to be both married and not married for medical school based on finances. But you have to protect yourself and do the best you can do for yourself. After all , the only behavior we can control is our own. No one will take care of you as best as you can take care of yourself. Besides, even if you do get married down the road, you will be the best person you can be for the marriage. I just hope and pray that the same follows him.


I truly wish you and him the best of luck! **HUGS!**

i think you read my posts wrong....we are both starting our masters this fall and they are 2 year programs..so he will apply next fall for med school for 2010. Also I wont be supporting him right now, but when he is in med school (and only if we are married) Also, just to clarify, he has only had a job really at his uncles office assisting in surgeries and stuff, and with his masters he will have a job as a teachers assistant and will be making money...just wanted to clarify for you

 

[RLG]

I''m a fourth year student planning a wedding to a current intern. If I could have choosen any time to get married during school I would choose between 1st and 2nd year. By that time your FF will really know how to study like a med student, he wont yet be worried about boards, and will have the whole summer off. So if that works with your school plans thats what I would do.

 

[icekid]

Hi blondebunny,

ally is right. I did get married during medical school, between 3rd and 4th year to be specific. It was a pretty hectic time, to be honest. We had two weeks off from school, so we got married in the middle of those two weeks. My husband HAD to do a lot of the calling, because it was tough for me to get away to do that stuff during 3rd year. We were also planning long distance, which also complicated things. I delegated to family members a LOT! If you get married during this time, I would be prepared to do most of the work yourself. I am super type A, so I basically made the decision that I was not going to stress over silly inconsequential details. And honestly? It worked. I didn''t worry about the small stuff and really enjoyed our day.

However, 1st and 2nd year would be MUCH easier IMO. I had so much free time then! And most schools do not require lecture attendance as far as I know (I did not go, personally) so your schedule is so flexible. Between 1st and 2nd year would probably be ideal. Also, I had tons of classmates who got married during the same timeframe that ally is: after finishing rotataions for 4th year, before starting internship which also works well but is quite far away for you. Do note that after the first summer for most med schools, summers are no longer vacation time. Some schools don''t even have that first summer for vacation anymore.

Now, re: the masters degree. If your bf needs to raise his GPA, then I would probably recommend more schooling. Not knowing his GPA, it''s hard to say if it''s necessary. It also depends on the reputation of the school where his undergrad was completed. Lots of med schools do "correct" GPA for places that are especially hard or easy. However, more school doesn''t necessarily have to be another two year degree, unless he wants this masters for a reason other than just getting into med school. Simply taking some advanced science classes may fit the bill, so he can prove that he can handle the large volume of science that would be coming his way via med school. And I don''t know if his masters is funded or not, but if not, two more years of school might potentially add a lot of school loans. I took a year off and did (paid) research while applying to med school because I was tired and SO burned out by my crazy demanding undergrad and it was an awesome decision (plus I met my hubs then!).

 

[Daydreamer7130]

Date: 7/26/2008 1:17:34 AM
Author: blondebunny

Date: 7/26/2008 1:03:13 AM
Author: Daydreamer7130
I don''t mean to sound negative here but I''m really ''stupified''. It sounds like he really doesn''t have a life plan here and does not want to truly commit to anything. He should apply to med school especially if he is almost done with his Masters. Why not? He''s never had a job? and you are supporting the 2 of you while going to school yourself! WOW!! It really sounds as if you are his other mother and running his life and telling him what to do and when and supporting him. I can see reasons to be both married and not married for medical school based on finances. But you have to protect yourself and do the best you can do for yourself. After all , the only behavior we can control is our own. No one will take care of you as best as you can take care of yourself. Besides, even if you do get married down the road, you will be the best person you can be for the marriage. I just hope and pray that the same follows him.


I truly wish you and him the best of luck! **HUGS!**

i think you read my posts wrong....we are both starting our masters this fall and they are 2 year programs..so he will apply next fall for med school for 2010. Also I wont be supporting him right now, but when he is in med school (and only if we are married) Also, just to clarify, he has only had a job really at his uncles office assisting in surgeries and stuff, and with his masters he will have a job as a teachers assistant and will be making money...just wanted to clarify for you

Thanks for the clarification! WHEEEEW!!

I have been down the road of "supporting someone and their dreams" only to get the bill, heartache and years of misery afterward!

Have you thought of what kind of wedding and honeymoon you want to have? Big with lots of guests, small and intimate, etc and the kind of venue like hometown church, destination. I would think that depending on the type and kind of wedding you two want would depend on when would be a good time to get married. Medical school is quite demanding and residency is grueling! Hopefully, oh so worth it in the end! Medicine is just not what it use to be (sigh).

Depending of if you want to change your name to his.... before you start medical school and after your master''s program might be better because of all the paperwork involved with applying to and during medical school.

Just some thoughts! Keep us all posted!

 

[FrekeChild]

Daydreamer, I think only her BF is going to Med school. I haven''t read anything about her going, only about how she''s going to get her Masters.

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

When my BFF applied for med school in Canada, the inteviewer told her the GPA was based on two years of full time study (full course load), MCAT''s. This info differed from counselling she had received earlier--so I suggest your BF speaks with the school directly about educational requrements; one would hate to get conflicting info about such important prerequsites.

BTW, our teaching hospitals require Residents get their Masters in Epidemology (or like degree) before they can acquire staff positions in Hospitals. Is this the same case in your teaching facilities? Perhaps this might be a better choice of graduate studies--would be apropos and helpful with research as a staff physician given programs promote evidence based teaching/learning.

cheers--Sharon

 

[modernsparkler]

I am currently in my 4th year and our wedding is planned for 2 weeks after my med school graduation. Fourth year after the match is pretty relaxed and *most* programs have graduation at least 3 weeks before internship usually starts. However, I would agree that if it is possible between 1st and 2nd year would be good as you have the summer off in most cases. Also, your 1st year is not as bad schedule wise as 3rd year and he could have time to accompany you with planning, appts. etc.

 

[icet]

I got married my first year of residency, it was really tough! my poor hubby planned almost the whole thing, with my approval of course! If you''re going to get married during med school, end of first year is the best coz there''s no board exam to study for, but first year is the hardest year study wise if you ask me but you have the most time (not really clinical work) to prepare. If not right before or the last year of residency. I wish i had gotten married my last year of res coz i would have been more hands on.
If your ff is probably the type of guy who won''t have anysay in the wedding plans, then anytime really because once he goes to med school, something will always comes up regardless of being in school, residency or being an attending. From what i''ve been through, it gets busier every year! so if you''re going to get married, just get married coz when it comes to med school i don''t think any time is a great time, you just have to make time to do it.

Good luck! and GL to you FF w/ medschool

 

[dawn84]

Hi Blondebunny!
Is your BF considering FSU, USF, or UF? Then he wouldn''t have to wait for UCF to open in 2009 and apply right away to these schools.

 

[cara]

Second the others, the summer between first and second year would be the best time for a med student wedding. Third year would really suck. Second summer is spent studying for an exam (but right after the boards would work for a groom that didn''t do a lot of planning and just needed a bit of time off for wedding and honeymoon.) And fourth year can be chill, especially after the match, but it sounds like fourth year is 6 years away for you guys!!! Seems silly to be planning a wedding so far out.

Also, just to give you some backup here, if you actually want to get married but your guy wants to put it off until he feels more ready, please be very careful about accepting a ring. He sounds like he might propose before he is actually ready to get married, and that would put you in a very tough spot unless you were both on the same page. Once you put on that ring, the next question everyone will ask is when is the date. When is the date.

It would be very hard on me to have to answer that question 100 times if there was no plan for setting the date, and especially if I wasn''t sure when my guy would be ready. Lots of stalling people, muttering something about long engagement, etc.

Don''t get me wrong, there are tons of couples that engaged with the plan of a really long engagement for a variety of reasons, but please don''t do it unless the two of you are on the same page about what it means to be engaged. Cause most people around you will assume it means you are planning to get married fairly promptly, within about 1 year normally or 2 years if you are young. To have a different plan will mean explaining two-thousand times what being engaged means to you both.

Good luck!

 

[aggiebling09]

Blondebunny,

I''m really glad that you asked this question! I read every post and was glad to hear everyone''s opinion. FI and I are getting married June 27 of next year and he will start med school that August. I know some people might think it''s crazy to get married before, but I''m prepared for it to be a VERY tough 1st year of marriage. This will work best in our situation because I''m graduating this december, (with a finance degree, similar to you being accounting!) so I will be supporting us while he is in school. I think ICEt said it best "if you''re going to get married, just get married coz when it comes to med school i don''t think any time is a great time, you just have to make time to do it."

I''m so excited that he has the ring! FWIW, maybe he''s just saying all of that to surprise you with the proposal.

(since you already know about the ring) But, I do agree with what everyone else has said. It''s good that you already know about his feelings instead of finding it out after the wedding is planned. Best of luck sorting all of this out!

--aggiebling09

 

[Daydreamer7130]

Date: 7/27/2008 11:55:12 AM
Author: FrekeChild
Daydreamer, I think only her BF is going to Med school. I haven''t read anything about her going, only about how she''s going to get her Masters.

Thanks! I think I need glasses and some more sleep!