Have you always instantly liked your new ring? Or did some have to grow on you?

[diamondyes]

I absolutely hate the returns process. So I don’t want to return. But I can’t tell if I’m considering returning this ring because it’s not good for daily wear (special occasions only), the prongs on the diamonds aren’t all there (some have two or three prongs where three or four would be more secure) or because I have issues with self worth and feel like I shouldn’t spend money. Or maybe I would’ve liked this ring better at a lower price point.
What is wrong with me? My emotions are all over the place with this one! Has this happened to you?

I love the style. But is it worth keeping?

 

[ecf8503]

I think it's beautiful! But if YOU aren't thrilled, perhaps it's not the ring for you. Are you willing to invest more $ in getting the prongs addressed?

 

[Lakefront]

I recently bought a piece that I had wanted for years and had built up in my mind for a long time. I do enjoy it. The rainbow flashes make me smile, but I also find myself considering all of the practical things that I could have bought with the money.
I thought that I’d open the box and fall absolutely in love but it has taken some time to get used to owning and mentally justifying it.
Sometimes it feels amazing to wear and sometimes it feels pretty self indulgent.
I think your feelings are completely normal.
Give it some time and try to let yourself enjoy the beauty of your ring. It’s gorgeous!

 

[Austina]

If I didn‘t instantly love something, I don’t think I’d grow to love it. The issues you raise are bugging you, and throwing more money at a problem is rarely the answer.

Better to return something and get something you’ll love and wear, than have an expensive piece sitting unworn in a box, and living with the regret.

 

[JoJa12345]

For me ~ If I don't love something instantly it never seems to happen for me. I've learned that lesson (a few times, lol) the hard way.

 

[diamondyes]

I recently bought a piece that I had wanted for years and had built up in my mind for a long time. I do enjoy it. The rainbow flashes make me smile, but I also find myself considering all of the practical things that I could have bought with the money.
I thought that I’d open the box and fall absolutely in love but it has taken some time to get used to owning and mentally justifying it.
Sometimes it feels amazing to wear and sometimes it feels pretty self indulgent.
I think your feelings are completely normal.
Give it some time and try to let yourself enjoy the beauty of your ring. It’s gorgeous!

I relate to all of this! I think adding that the ring is not an indestructible piece… means it’s currently in my personal museum, to be taken out and admired but maybe not work so much. I’m so used to buying things that need to be useful or at the least, worn a ton. It feels wasteful and frivolous to buy something in a way that’s like buying art: just because it’s beautiful.
Your commiseration is making me feel better, though.

 

[diamondyes]

For me ~ If I don't love something instantly it never seems to happen for me. I've learned that lesson (a few times, lol) the hard way.

I am like this too. If it’s something I don’t like, I will never like it! But if it’s other reasons- it can all turn around for me, over time. I have a hard time spending on myself.

 

[bludiva]

some things have grown on me over time but i've never regretted sending something back when my first reaction is "i don't quite love it"

(i struggle with splurging on myself, too btw)

 

[diamondyes]

some things have grown on me over time but i've never regretted sending something back when my first reaction is "i don't quite love it"

(i struggle with splurging on myself, too btw)

I hate confrontation, I had asked the seller so many questions before buying, I’m kind of gutted at the thought of sending it back. I feel like such a high maintenance customer. Plus I’d be sending it from a different country and we all know there’s drama with that. Part of me is so reluctant about the whole returns process that I may just chaulk up the expense as a learning cost!!

 

[JoJa12345]

I hate confrontation, I had asked the seller so many questions before buying, I’m kind of gutted at the thought of sending it back. I feel like such a high maintenance customer. Plus I’d be sending it from a different country and we all know there’s drama with that. Part of me is so reluctant about the whole returns process that I may just chaulk up the expense as a learning cost!!

I SO get this. It's weird, I don't mind confrontation but I get SO weird when I've had to return jewelry items.
Most recently, I purchased a tennis bracelet and I just didn't love it, I tried to talk myself into it and after not wearing it immediately (the first sign it was a no go) I knew I had to return it. My SA went above and beyond to find it for me and I felt SO bad but it was expensive and I knew I didn't love it.
I've come to realize I have to be happy, especially when paying the amounts we pay for our jewelry. Even if it's relatively inexpensive, it's still a waste if you don't love it.
My return turned out totally fine by the way ~ zero confrontation at all.

My best advice ~ be assertive and if you don't love it, return it. You will only regret keeping something just because you don't want to cause a fuss.

 

[diamondyes]

I SO get this. It's weird, I don't mind confrontation but I get SO weird when I've had to return jewelry items.
Most recently, I purchased a tennis bracelet and I just didn't love it, I tried to talk myself into it and after not wearing it immediately (the first sign it was a no go) I knew I had to return it. My SA went above and beyond to find it for me and I felt SO bad but it was expensive and I knew I didn't love it.
I've come to realize I have to be happy, especially when paying the amounts we pay for our jewelry. Even if it's relatively inexpensive, it's still a waste if you don't love it.
My return turned out totally fine by the way ~ zero confrontation at all.

My best advice ~ be assertive and if you don't love it, return it. You will only regret keeping something just because you don't want to cause a fuss.

This is such good advice. Thank you for this. I’m going to paint my nails and try on the ring again, and be sure. I’m on day three. Two week return policy. You made me realize that I’m choosing between momentary discomfort (of returning), or much longer discomfort (if I keep the ring without loving it).

 

[diamondyes]

some things have grown on me over time but i've never regretted sending something back when my first reaction is "i don't quite love it"

(i struggle with splurging on myself, too btw)

Always trust your gut! Good reminder. Thank you

 

[diamondyes]

If I didn‘t instantly love something, I don’t think I’d grow to love it. The issues you raise are bugging you, and throwing more money at a problem is rarely the answer.

Better to return something and get something you’ll love and wear, than have an expensive piece sitting unworn in a box, and living with the regret.

Where have you been all my life, lol! I usually throw more money into a hole before realizing it’s a black hole and it’s better to run away.

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

I absolutely hate the returns process. So I don’t want to return. But I can’t tell if I’m considering returning this ring because it’s not good for daily wear (special occasions only), the prongs on the diamonds aren’t all there (some have two or three prongs where three or four would be more secure) or because I have issues with self worth and feel like I shouldn’t spend money. Or maybe I would’ve liked this ring better at a lower price point.
What is wrong with me? My emotions are all over the place with this one! Has this happened to you?

I love the style. But is it worth keeping?

i trully get where you are coming from

What is the return period?
can you put it in a drawer (your undy drawer so you dont forget about it) and look at it again in a weeks time

honestly i try not to think about the money thing in the past tense
regret just eats you up and does no one any good
learn lessons and move on

however if you have time on your side take time so you dont end up regreting sending it back

I have refound the love of a ring i had gone off
unfotunatly not one of my bigger spends but im saying it can happen and it made me happy

also im learning about lightening conditions every time i come on PS, nothing is like a jewlery store

 

[nala]

What was the context of the purchase? Impulse buy? Celebration ring? How often did you intend to wear it?

As to your feelings of frivolity—yes—jewelry is that. It is a luxury. Without knowing your finances, I don’t know how to advise you on the “overspending” part.

As to whether you are “worthy”—omg YES!!! Life is too short. Spend your money how you like! You can’t take it with you when you go! I think jewelry is an acquired taste. My taste and my feelings toward it have evolved soooo much.

 

[diamondyes]

What was the context of the purchase? Impulse buy? Celebration ring? How often did you intend to wear it?

As to your feelings of frivolity—yes—jewelry is that. It is a luxury.

Hahahahaha oh you made me laugh! Jewelry IS frivolous! Jewelry is not a kitchen appliance, why am I trying to look at it as such?
Great questions. The ring is a celebration ring, to mark my husband quitting a soul-sucking job that left him such an empty shell that I was practically raising our kids by myself for a few years. It was an incredibly tough time for both of us. I liked this ring aesthetically, and then symbolically- it’s like all the bad we dealt with is the black, and I’m choosing to focus on the silver lining (the halo). And whenever I feel sadness or resentment about the past, I tell myself- send it to the black onyx, and keep it in there! It’s in the past! Very uncharacteristically woo woo of me.
I don’t need the ring in order to celebrate and focus on the present and future… but this was the original idea.

I’m on the fence. I emailed the seller to ask about doing a return. I also painted my nails and tried it on again. It’s fabulous. Is $1000 crazy for this diamond platinum and onyx ring? I saw online that onyx is very cheap so that’s giving me pause.

 

[diamondyes]

i trully get where you are coming from

What is the return period?
can you put it in a drawer (your undy drawer so you dont forget about it) and look at it again in a weeks time

honestly i try not to think about the money thing in the past tense
regret just eats you up and does no one any good
learn lessons and move on

however if you have time on your side take time so you dont end up regreting sending it back

I have refound the love of a ring i had gone off
unfotunatly not one of my bigger spends but im saying it can happen and it made me happy

also im learning about lightening conditions every time i come on PS, nothing is like a jewlery store

Excellent points.

 

[nala]

1000 American dollars?!!! Platinum? Diamonds? The detail? Great deal! And I know great bargains! Keep!!! She looks gorgeous on you. And I would rock that ring any day of the week! Dress it up or dress it down!

 

[diamondyes]

Oh and @nala I’m also like: where on earth will I ever wear this? It’s massive.

 

[diamondyes]

1000 American dollars?!!! Platinum? Diamonds? The detail? Great deal!

Oh really??? You are a deal queen in my mind, so this is making me feel way better!! It seems like a fortune to spend on a ring I’m not wearing daily.

 

[diamondyes]

1000 American dollars?!!! Platinum? Diamonds? The detail? Great deal!

I stalked this ring for months. I think I’m just feeling weird about spending the money. Maybe it all centres around the fact that DH quit his job? We have a bit of uncertainty in our lives as he figures out next steps, but this was planned and budgeted for.

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

Oh and @nala I’m also like: where on earth will I ever wear this? It’s massive.

i love the size of it
and the shape in that size
sooo much finger coverage
so much personality

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

I stalked this ring for months. I think I’m just feeling weird about spending the money. Maybe it all centres around the fact that DH quit his job? We have a bit of uncertainty in our lives as he figures out next steps, but this was planned and budgeted for.

oh dear
that kind of regrete
but as you say your ring was planned and budgeted for

 

[nala]

Oh and @nala I’m also like: where on earth will I ever wear this? It’s massive.

Anywhere!!! It’s a look!! Unless you find it cumbersome—that would be a whole different issue. But if it’s comfy—I would wear it!

 

[Lakefront]

I love the symbolism of this ring! I seems like you got an amazing deal on a gorgeous ring. Give it some time. Once the day comes when the return window closes. You’ll know what you want to do

 

[nala]

Paging @YadaYadaYada

 

[YadaYadaYada]

Yada here to weigh in, thanks @nala

I love the look of this ring, it is very much a statement piece, looks well made and looks great on you as well.

Maybe think about the possibility that the novelty may wear off and you find yourself not finding it as wearable, only you know if this is right for you in the long run.

Think about whether you would have a hard time sending it back, the feelings associated with parting with a piece can be helpful in deciding whether to keep it or not.

 

[RunningwithScissors]

Where to wear this fabulous ring? Honey, put your bling on and sit down to dinner with your wonderful husband! I don't care if you get McDonald's carry out, dressing for dinner makes a girl just feel good.

I always but on my bling for dinner, even if I'm wearing my painting clothes from the studio or sweatpants, etc. I brush my hair, put on lipstick and put on my bling. It does wonders for my mental well being.

 

[diamondyes]

Anywhere!!! It’s a look!! Unless you find it cumbersome—that would be a whole different issue. But if it’s comfy—I would wear it!

I like your style

 

[diamondyes]

I love the symbolism of this ring! I seems like you got an amazing deal on a gorgeous ring. Give it some time. Once the day comes when the return window closes. You’ll know what you want to do

Thank you